Letting friends use your sub?

[social_morality]

While talking with my sub over the past while about possible fantasies, I have had this question in my head: How many doms have let their friends come over to use their sub or let a friend borrow their sub? There are a lot of different types of d/s relationship so I was hoping to see just how many people have done this and hope they will share their stories of it happening.

[Stella_Omega]

By "use your sub" I assume you mean "Let someone else fuck your sub," amiright?

That's really a question of polyamory, not of subliness. Although in a D/s mode, you might instruct subbie not to cum, that pleasure is reserved for you alone. Or some such headgame...

That could be fun.

[social_morality]

Originally Posted by Stella_Omega

By "use your sub" I assume you mean "Let someone else fuck your sub," amiright?

That's really a question of polyamory, not of subliness. Although in a D/s mode, you might instruct subbie not to cum, that pleasure is reserved for you alone. Or some such headgame...

That could be fun.

In a way, Stella. It was one of many possibly fantasies that we were talking about. The fantasy was of me ordering her to please one of my friends who could be over at our place while I watch and join in if it pleased me to. I was just curious if anyone had done this themselves, what the story behind it and of it was, and what was the aftermath.

[knot_sweet]

Honestly there are too many variables to easily answer this question.

You would probably need to establish the ground rules based on your desired outcome.

Do you want to punish your sub by setting her up for failure knowing she's aroused servicing your friend?

Do you want her to do it purely as an act of service, knowing she won't enjoy it so you can reward her for fulfilling a fantasy of yours?

Do you both get off on the idea of her being a slutty toy at your command?

How does the friend fit into this? Is she submitting to him as well as you, or is he just along for the ride?

What plan do you have if it goes badly?

A lot of the answers depend on the D/s relationship already established and an educated guess about how she's going to react based on open conversation.

There are a couple of submissives here who's dominants instruct them to play with others. But the differences in the dynamic between those two relationships are pretty extreme.

In a nutshell, it's down to you two. We can tell you about our experiences, but it probably won't help much with what works for you two.

[social_morality]

Originally Posted by knot_sweet

Honestly there are too many variables to easily answer this question.

You would probably need to establish the ground rules based on your desired outcome.

Do you want to punish your sub by setting her up for failure knowing she's aroused servicing your friend?

Do you want her to do it purely as an act of service, knowing she won't enjoy it so you can reward her for fulfilling a fantasy of yours?

Do you both get off on the idea of her being a slutty toy at your command?

How does the friend fit into this? Is she submitting to him as well as you, or is he just along for the ride?

What plan do you have if it goes badly?

A lot of the answers depend on the D/s relationship already established and an educated guess about how she's going to react based on open conversation.

There are a couple of submissives here who's dominants instruct them to play with others. But the differences in the dynamic between those two relationships are pretty extreme.

In a nutshell, it's down to you two. We can tell you about our experiences, but it probably won't help much with what works for you two.

Thank you for the well thought out response. To answer your points in order:

No, it is not to set her up and then try an punish her or just my own fantasy.

She loves to follow my orders and finds the idea of being ordered to please someone simply because I ordered it and she gets pleasure from my pleasure.

As for the friend, he would just be on the receiving end of anything and not be someone in control of her.

In all, I am really looking to see what was the reactions between others and the idea interests me so I want to see how well the subs and doms that have done this reacted to the situation.

[social_morality]

Bumped. Still looking for stories about real experiences like this.