BDSM Talk & Cafe are full of information and experiences; if you have specific questions, I'd suggest starting your own threads and see where things go. There isn't really any "one true way" do do/experience kink (or BDSM), and the kind soul offering to "privately tutor" you on the subject of kink... Well, lets just satire easy to develop a conflict of interest when the subject turns to sex.
The BDSM Library has lots of archived topics, and most of the forum regulars are happy to offer their perspective on things. Welcome to the forum!