Originally Posted by centrum1000
I know I'm just being paranoid... I just don't like the idea of connecting my real life and my kink life ;-)
So just go buy a burner phone...they're really inexpensive, and if it gives you peace of mind, then it's well worth it. It would be sad if that was the thing keeping you from exploring and having fun. You also might want the burner phone if you find you want to text or talk to someone you meet but want to keep separate from your personal life. I'm pretty paranoid myself, but I did use my cell # to sign up.
As for FetLife, I created an account. When you do this you have to choose a location for where you are. If it's USA you pick city and state. That also made me paranoid; it wouldn't create an account without doing this. Now, of course you can lie, but that kind of limits some of your resources. You can look up info on any location to find events, munches, and members in that area. When I searched my area, I discovered that they had meetings at a local pub I frequent. There were over 500 people in my area, which surprised me. I went through the list of locals, saw pictures and read bios. And found out there were way too many people I knew on the site...people I work with, neighbors, and even family members. Out of curiosity I looked through them all. Saw and read way more than I wanted to know about people I knew. And immediately deleted my account. It was all too close to home and 'open' for me, although you don't have to include pics of yourself or even bio info but all I could imagine was getting contacted or hit on by an unknowing relative or coworker and having a really awkward situation, even if I was the only one who knew who the other was. So, that's my 2 cents.
Get a burner phone just for any number of purposes...then check out FetLife if you're interested. At least you have some kind of idea what to expect. I think it's a good place to meet people, and I would probably have utilized the services there if I hadn't been so freaked out...Have fun and enjoy your exploration!