Ladies - What Head Technique is Most Effective for You?

[JohnZee]

When I was younger, a more experienced girlfriend taught me to suck her clit between my lips (she liked it intensely, but preferences seem to vary between girls), whilst licking it with my tongue, and working my finger / fingers in and out of her pussy at the same time. I don't think this technique has ever let me down. If all else fails, it's the one I go to.

I also find the tongue-working-in-and-out-of-the-pussy-whilst-rubbing-the-clit-with-the-finger technique to be effective.

So, what other techniques should a guy have in his repertoire?

[Eilan]

Originally Posted by JohnZee

When I was 18 I had an affair with a 20 year old. She taught me to suck her clit between my lips (she liked it intensely, but preferences seem to vary between girls), whilst licking it with my tongue, and working my finger / fingers in and out of her pussy at the same time. I don't think this technique has ever let me down. If all else fails, it's the one I go to.

I also find the tongue-working-in-and-out-of-the-pussy-whilst-rubbing-the-clit-with-the-finger technique to be effective.

So, what other techniques should a guy have in his repertoire?

Fixed your post.

Women are all different and stuff. The most important technique you can have is the ability to listen to your partner and take your cues about what she likes from her.

[JohnZee]

Of course, you're totally right. But it's always good to know new techniques. You might learn something she likes, but doesn't know. Whilst porn can teach you a fair amount of tricks, it's mostly catering to a male audience, so doesn't pay as much attention to getting the girl off.

[fire_breeze]

Originally Posted by JohnZee

Of course, you're totally right. But it's always good to know new techniques. You might learn something she likes, but doesn't know. Whilst porn can teach you a fair amount of tricks, it's mostly catering to a male audience, so doesn't pay as much attention to getting the girl off.

And the rules of the United States, where Lit is located and based on, says 18.

The forum guidelines explicitly states, and I quote

2. You may not post sexually explicit pictures or stories featuring anyone under 18 years old. Literotica does not allow the posting of underage or animal sex pictures - or links to such - on the forum. Please Click Here for our full photo posting guidelines.

Therefore any discussion regarding what is conceived as underaged sex, which for Literotica is considered to be 18, is against the very few rules of the site. You may disagree, that's your prerogative, however seeing as these are the rules set out both by US law and the owners of the site, it might be best to keep them.

[LaughingHard]

Interesting he said he was 18, not when he was under 18. It must be the new math???

[LadyVer]

Depends on the guy.

[themilf]

Originally Posted by JohnZee

Whilst porn can teach you a fair amount of tricks, it's mostly catering to a male audience, so doesn't pay as much attention to getting the girl off.

John,

A) Get a girlfriend.

B) Ask her.

C) Do you really think porn was developed/created as a "how to" primer? Just curious.

[Miles Long]

The two most important techniques you can have are listening and paying attention. Every woman is different, and many women will not want oral (or any sexual activity) performed exactly the same way every single time.

[JohnZee]

Of course, finding out what your partner wants is the most important priority. But, speaking as a guy, I've had girls do things to me that I hadn't thought of (in some cases they were slightly kinky and I'm in two minds about whether developing a taste for such practice is a benefit...), that I now enjoy and request. With my last partner she thanked me for introducing her to new things. Expanding one's knowledge is a never-ending quest - hence my reason for starting the thread.

[JohnZee]

>Do you really think porn was developed/created as a "how to" primer? Just curious.

Where did I say that directly? I do, however, think that some porn does have an educative side to it; which can be beneficial - alongside the traditional means such as communication and using one's creativity / initiative. Most porn is formulaic jack-off material, I agree. At the same time, I can think of things I've used on girlfriends which they really liked. Where did the porn director get the idea from in the first place?

Porn's potential (note use of 'potential') for educating has been elucidated by numerous high-profile thinkers over the years - fact.

[BeachMomma]

If you want new ideas to try out, I'd suggest going to the main Lit site and reading stories by *female* authors. Or if your masculinity allows (lol), you could invest in some of the erotica that's commercially available - for example, Harlequin Blaze. Those will give you lots of ideas, but as everybody has already said, your girlfriend/wife is the only person who can speak for herself. Alternately, you could read the stories with her and ask her directly, "Do you think that's something you'd like me to do to you?"

[Rainshine]

Maybe it's an Australian thing but I have never once heard cunnilingus referred to as head.

[Rainshine]

Oh, and if you're learning from porn I'd strongly suggest NOT spitting on her.

[NightL]

Originally Posted by JohnZee

Porn's potential (note use of 'potential') for educating has been elucidated by numerous high-profile thinkers over the years - fact.

Priceless - fact

[Edensgarden]

Originally Posted by Rainshine

Oh, and if you're learning from porn I'd strongly suggest NOT spitting on her.

There's a difference between spitting and dropping a little saliva. Saliva is a natural lubricant.

[Rainshine]

Originally Posted by Edensgarden

There's a difference between spitting and dropping a little saliva. Saliva is a natural lubricant.

Saliva might be natural but it's certainly not a great lubricant.

[Miles Long]

Originally Posted by Edensgarden

There's a difference between spitting and dropping a little saliva. Saliva is a natural lubricant.

Originally Posted by Rainshine

Saliva might be natural but it's certainly not a great lubricant.

Uh oh.... Cat fight! Let's settle this in the ring, ladies...

[Rainshine]

Originally Posted by Miles Long

Uh oh.... Cat fight! Let's settle this in the ring, ladies...

Miles, I thought we talked about this before... I will not wear lycra. It's very unforgiving. Plus... she'd kick my arse.

[Miles Long]

Originally Posted by Rainshine

Miles, I thought we talked about this before... I will not wear lycra. It's very unforgiving. Plus... she'd kick my arse.

Would you feel safer in a pillow fight?

[Rainshine]

Originally Posted by Miles Long

Would you feel safer in a pillow fight?

That's how all my girly sleep-overs end. Well, right before we all get naked and spit on each other.

[pmann]

I think that Eden should prove her point to Rainshine. Show her. I'll be there, of course, to take notes and handle all the sciency shit for such an experiment as this. The things I do in the name of science.

[Miles Long]

Originally Posted by Rainshine

That's how all my girly sleep-overs end. Well, right before we all get naked and spit on each other.

Here's proof that I have issues. I can't even fully enjoy that photo because I look at them playing Scrabble and I say who plays Scrabble on the bed? There's no way those tiles are going to stay in place as these women move around. Board games should be played at a table, end of story. ESPECIALLY one that depends on so many small pieces staying in place. Sheesh!

[Rainshine]

Originally Posted by Miles Long

Here's proof that I have issues. I can't even fully enjoy that photo because I look at them playing Scrabble and I say who plays Scrabble on the bed? There's no way those tiles are going to stay in place as these women move around. Board games should be played at a table, end of story. ESPECIALLY one that depends on so many small pieces staying in place. Sheesh!

You're absoloutely right. Unless it's travel scrabble which is magnetic.

[Rainshine]

Originally Posted by pmann

I think that Eden should prove her point to Rainshine. Show her. I'll be there, of course, to take notes and handle all the sciency shit for such an experiment as this. The things I do in the name of science.

Big talk, pmann. Big talk.

[pmann]

Originally Posted by Rainshine

Big talk, pmann. Big talk.

Fucker.