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Old 10-06-2012, 03:23 AM   #1
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I never orgasm! Anyone else?

Just wondering if anyone else has ever had this problem?

I am an extremely sexual (and pervy :P) person, but it's like my body never got the memo. I've tried everything under the sun, it seems like. Every fetish, therapist or technique I can think of. Who else has this problem, if anybody? What have you done or plan to do, to work on it?

Is there any hope of one day getting there?! I'm twenty-five. In my humble opinion, the time should be extremely freaking nigh. >

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Old 10-06-2012, 03:26 AM   #2
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I've seen a thread about this subject, probably on the How To forum.
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Old 10-06-2012, 03:30 AM   #3
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I'll have to look that one up as well. Do you remember the name?
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Old 10-06-2012, 03:31 AM   #4
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Never had that problem. I wonder if it is a legit post though. The person actually put her facebook page on her prof. Sounds like someone wanting to embarrass her.
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Old 10-06-2012, 03:35 AM   #5
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I'll have to look that one up as well. Do you remember the name?
No... Probably something like not being able to orgasm. Shouldn't be too hard to find. A search may help.


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Never had that problem. I wonder if it is a legit post though. The person actually put her facebook page on her prof. Sounds like someone wanting to embarrass her.
You never know on Lit.
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Old 10-06-2012, 03:40 AM   #6
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Very true. My apologies if it is legit Rose.
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Old 10-06-2012, 03:54 AM   #7
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I've been with women who were unable to orgasm.I was able to help them orgasm on a regular basis.If you care to discuss feel free to p.m.me.
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Old 10-06-2012, 12:53 PM   #8
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Old 10-06-2012, 01:46 PM   #9
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Old 10-06-2012, 01:54 PM   #10
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Old 10-06-2012, 01:57 PM   #11
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I wasn't able to until I got my first vibrator. :3 And sometimes even then it doesn't work. Usually what I do is make sure a fresh battery is in it (so it vibrates nice and hard) and find some REALLY good porn that I get hot over. Then I watch that and just... take care of myself! Anything I think that will help (touching certain places, pretending to be the girl in the videos, pretending to be with someone watching them, etc) I usually do as well of course.
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Old 10-06-2012, 02:03 PM   #12
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Old 10-06-2012, 02:08 PM   #13
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I was with a woman for a while who also had trouble achieving orgasm, but was very sexually driven. She could achieve orgasm, but it took her a LONG time, and I think that she only had orgasms about 1/3 (or less) of the time even when masturbating.

In her case (which may not be the same as yours) she had not explored her erotic side, and had spent her sexual history only 'enjoying' physical sex.

One of the things that we found that worked for her was when I made erotic audio recordings, tailored to her tastes. When she had a quiet evening, she would play these on her iPhone through earphones (to get the sound straight into the brain), while playing with herself. She found that she could achieve orgasm within a few minutes.

Some of the reasons that this worked were: 1) the anticipation of having to wait all day for the time to be alone, 2) that she knew that they were from me, not a total stranger, and not something downloaded from the internet, and 3) while I created ideas for her, the visuals she created in her mind were hers so she felt like she was not in control, but was in fact using her own creative sensual side at the same time (did that make sense?).

She also tried writing a few erotic stories, and said that it got her very hot, but she did not enjoy, or was not used to the writing process.

That may not help your particular situation, but perhaps something for others to think about.

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Old 10-06-2012, 02:14 PM   #14
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I was with a former crush and she always said she couldn't orgasm. I tried to not worry about it b/c sometimes you just can't get them there. It is frustrating when you try everything and cant cum.
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Old 10-06-2012, 02:20 PM   #15
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One of the things that we found that worked for her was when I made erotic audio recordings, tailored to her tastes. When she had a quiet evening, she would play these on her iPhone through earphones (to get the sound straight into the brain), while playing with herself. She found that she could achieve orgasm within a few minutes.
That is SO sweet! I have a friend (just a friend - we're very good friends and we've done some psuedo-sexual exploring but we're not interested in each other in such a way as to become lovers or anything more) who writes erotic stories for me, and I do the same for him. ^_^ It's really amazing, having someone who knows your kinks so well, and can write something so delicious just for you! It's better than doing it yourself, because you can imagine everything that happens, if that makes sense. None of it is a surprise. But if someone writes it for you, it's all new!
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Old 10-06-2012, 05:08 PM   #16
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I've been with women who were unable to orgasm.I was able to help them orgasm on a regular basis.If you care to discuss feel free to p.m.me.
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Old 10-07-2012, 03:32 PM   #17
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Thank you everyone for the wonderful responses, and yes, the thread is real and posted by me.
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Old 10-07-2012, 04:36 PM   #18
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You are very welcome Jessica. I am very glad it is a real thread with you making the posts. Too many people try to screw around these days.
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Just wondering if anyone else has ever had this problem?

I am an extremely sexual (and pervy :P) person, but it's like my body never got the memo. I've tried everything under the sun, it seems like. Every fetish, therapist or technique I can think of. Who else has this problem, if anybody? What have you done or plan to do, to work on it?

Is there any hope of one day getting there?! I'm twenty-five. In my humble opinion, the time should be extremely freaking nigh. >
Theres a reason your not letting your self go, maybe some incedent when you were younger some repressed feelings wish i could help.
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Theres a reason your not letting your self go, maybe some incedent when you were younger some repressed feelings wish i could help.
It quite correct, the problem could go back to her younger days, anybody can pm if they want to discuss the problem
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Just wondering if anyone else has ever had this problem?

I am an extremely sexual (and pervy :P) person, but it's like my body never got the memo. I've tried everything under the sun, it seems like. Every fetish, therapist or technique I can think of. Who else has this problem, if anybody? What have you done or plan to do, to work on it?

Is there any hope of one day getting there?! I'm twenty-five. In my humble opinion, the time should be extremely freaking nigh. >
Yes you need some body to explain what your body does, and how it feels. I suspect that something happened when you were younger? Pm me to discuss
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bumping this useful and interesting thread

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Old 10-08-2012, 10:37 PM   #23
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Just wondering if anyone else has ever had this problem?

I am an extremely sexual (and pervy :P) person, but it's like my body never got the memo. I've tried everything under the sun, it seems like. Every fetish, therapist or technique I can think of. Who else has this problem, if anybody? What have you done or plan to do, to work on it?

Is there any hope of one day getting there?! I'm twenty-five. In my humble opinion, the time should be extremely freaking nigh. >


I am just like you, JessicaRose. My body apparently never got the memo either.

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Old 10-08-2012, 10:39 PM   #24
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Having had the same problem and talked it over with my doc. and discovered it wasn't a physical issue, I was very nervous it was.

Now, realizing that being sensual doesn't always mean sexual. For me sensuality is a mental/emotional experience which includes all my senses, sight, sound, smell, touch and taste. The mind is a wonderfull aphrodisiac...without putting pressure on myselfef, I explored how my body reacted differently to each, some more pleasurable than others, remembering and sharing those discoveries with my partners

Just adding my two cents for worked for me...hope you discover the pleasure or orgasm, this membership allows for all kinds of questions and usually someone has had experience they can share to support and encourage you.
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Old 10-08-2012, 10:50 PM   #25
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Having had the same problem and talked it over with my doc. and discovered it wasn't a physical issue, I was very nervous it was.

Now, realizing that being sensual doesn't always mean sexual. For me sensuality is a mental/emotional experience which includes all my senses, sight, sound, smell, touch and taste. The mind is a wonderfull aphrodisiac...without putting pressure on myselfef, I explored how my body reacted differently to each, some more pleasurable than others, remembering and sharing those discoveries with my partners

Just adding my two cents for worked for me...hope you discover the pleasure or orgasm, this membership allows for all kinds of questions and usually someone has had experience they can share to support and encourage you.


It hasn't helped me so far to orgasm but it has helped me to enjoy sex as a whole experience much more- the suggestion of removing pressure from oneself is dead on, desiree_d. If I may ask, at what age did you finally orgasm ?
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