Gift for my Dom

[molly113]

Hi there! So my Dom has decided to collar me (yay!) and it's going to be a private event with just the two of us, no other ceremony. I feel so blessed to be receiving my collar and I wanted to be able to present him with some sort of gift or token of my submission but I have no idea what that what he. Any ideas????

[DVS]

Originally Posted by molly113

Hi there! So my Dom has decided to collar me (yay!) and it's going to be a private event with just the two of us, no other ceremony. I feel so blessed to be receiving my collar and I wanted to be able to present him with some sort of gift or token of my submission but I have no idea what that what he. Any ideas????

You aren't gift enough? How about a nice red ribbon tied in a bow as a collar with a long red ribbon leash attached.

[Red Sonja]

Originally Posted by DVS

You aren't gift enough? How about a nice red ribbon tied in a bow as a collar with a long red ribbon leash attached.

The leash idea is a good one.

[Primalex]

Originally Posted by molly113

I feel so blessed to be receiving my collar and I wanted to be able to present him with some sort of gift or token of my submission but I have no idea what that what he.

Despite the fact that the sentence didn't make much sense:

You are the one who is fucking him, how shall we know more about him than you? And what's the point of the collar if you two don't even know that much about each other?

[molly113]

Alright honey, sorry about the typo but you don't have to be a dick. I know him very well and if I was buying a Christmas present, I wouldn't need any advice. I've never been collared before and didn't know if there was something symbolic or appropriate to give to him during this special occasion. I really like the leash idea and will definitely think about it!

[IrisAlthea]

Originally Posted by molly113

Alright honey, sorry about the typo but you don't have to be a dick. I know him very well and if I was buying a Christmas present, I wouldn't need any advice. I've never been collared before and didn't know if there was something symbolic or appropriate to give to him during this special occasion. I really like the leash idea and will definitely think about it!

To me, it seems like a situation that calls for something very personal and relationship-specific.

[Ahlam]

Originally Posted by molly113

Hi there! So my Dom has decided to collar me (yay!) and it's going to be a private event with just the two of us, no other ceremony. I feel so blessed to be receiving my collar and I wanted to be able to present him with some sort of gift or token of my submission but I have no idea what that what he. Any ideas????

Congratulations, Molly.
I recommend asking your Dom. He might have some good ideas for you and such deference, however minor, might also be a token of your submission.

[Curious_in_Cali]

Celebrations among humans tend to have food and drink involved in there someplace so maybe make or get him his favorite(s)? A special cake? Bottle of wine? Chocolate? Caramel? Flowers? Balloons? Maybe consider less of a token gift and more of a gesture. Sometimes how something is given really does make the gift that much more special. I know for me the most amazing gifts are the ones that are personal and custom made. So think about that thing he smiles about the most and give him that. Or maybe a simply a hearty second helping.

Congratulations to you both for making it this far, and my best wishes that your tomorrows just keep getting better and better.

[Sir_Winston54]

Originally Posted by molly113

Alright honey, sorry about the typo but you don't have to be a dick. I know him very well and if I was buying a Christmas present, I wouldn't need any advice. I've never been collared before and didn't know if there was something symbolic or appropriate to give to him during this special occasion. I really like the leash idea and will definitely think about it!

Oh, someone should have warned you, molly. qp tends to be a dick most of the time. Every once in a while, just to throw us off, he actually posts something that is on topic, makes sense, and even occasionally shines a light into the dark corners where the dust bunnies hide. Those rare occasions are why we tolerate him when he's being his normal self.

When he *is* being dickish, the best thing to do is just pass on by and pretend you don't see him... sort of like the street person lying in his own vomit surrounded by empty bottles of Thunderbird and MD2020.

[Primalex]

Originally Posted by Sir_Winston54

Oh, someone should have warned you, molly. qp tends to be a dick most of the time. Every once in a while, just to throw us off, he actually posts something that is on topic, makes sense, and even occasionally shines a light into the dark corners where the dust bunnies hide.

1) I'm nearly never off-topic.
2) I always make sense.

You know why the language has a lot of adjectives? Because they have different meanings. Really. "Impolite" for example means something different than "false".

So, is some brain damage the cause that you can't distinguish between different necessary adjectives or do you tell lies about me intentionally?

[Sir_Winston54]

Originally Posted by Sir_Winston54

Oh, someone should have warned you, molly. qp tends to be a dick most of the time. Every once in a while, just to throw us off, he actually posts something that is on topic, makes sense, and even occasionally shines a light into the dark corners where the dust bunnies hide. Those rare occasions are why we tolerate him when he's being his normal self.

When he *is* being dickish, the best thing to do is just pass on by and pretend you don't see him... sort of like the street person lying in his own vomit surrounded by empty bottles of Thunderbird and MD2020.

Originally Posted by Primalex

1) I'm nearly never off-topic.
2) I always make sense.

You know why the language has a lot of adjectives? Because they have different meanings. Really. "Impolite" for example means something different than "false".

So, is some brain damage the cause that you can't distinguish between different necessary adjectives or do you tell lies about me intentionally?

In *my* estimation, you are "never off-topic" only in the sense that your diatribes are usually tangentially connected to the topic. And yes, you do, within the context of your own posts, usually make sense. However, the perception of others, *because* that sense is primarily within your own context rather than the context and/or intent of the original or previous posters, is that you're not making sense.

So... if one has to be 100.394% accurate, my post was somewhat lazy and misworded. The fact remains, though, that what you appear to define as "impolite" is more often defined as "dickish" by others.

And if you need an excuse, I'll blame my recent illness for the laziness and lack of clarity/accuracy in the quoted post above. I'll still stand by my last paragraph, though, in its entirety.

[midwestyankee]

Originally Posted by molly113

Alright honey, sorry about the typo but you don't have to be a dick. I know him very well and if I was buying a Christmas present, I wouldn't need any advice. I've never been collared before and didn't know if there was something symbolic or appropriate to give to him during this special occasion. I really like the leash idea and will definitely think about it!

I disagree with this thinking as it doesn't make sense. If you know him well enough to buy a holiday gift that will tilt his mistletoe then you know him well enough to buy an appropriate collaring/wedding/last-day-of-school gift. And if you don't really know him this well, then the whole collaring thing will be a waste of time. Sorry for the bluntness but there is a huge disconnect in your thinking and I wonder if that's actually evidence of something more troublesome going on.

[game_master24]

Originally Posted by DVS

You aren't gift enough? How about a nice red ribbon tied in a bow as a collar with a long red ribbon leash attached.

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[molly113]

Thanks to everyone that was helpful! My experience in this lifestyle has been mostly with play partners and I never expected that a man would come along that would be a right fit for me as a Dom and relationship partner. I had done a lot of research on collaring and the various ceremonies and couldn't find a lot of ideas on appropriate and symbolic gifts from the sub to her Dom. I apologize that I don't believe this occasion is akin to Christmas or a birthday where I might give him a video game or a first edition of his favorite book. I felt this specific occasion called for something more symbolic to the a actions that are going to take place. I'm sorry if this confused anyone but I see that a leash may be just the ticket. I can't wait for this next step in our journey and I want to extend a heartfelt thanks to those of you who PM'd me with your kind thoughts and congratulations.

[th_rio]

Well, again, congrats Molly and I hope the leash pleases him a lot.

[molly113]

I hope so too!!! I can't wait

[IrisAlthea]

Originally Posted by molly113

Thanks to everyone that was helpful! My experience in this lifestyle has been mostly with play partners and I never expected that a man would come along that would be a right fit for me as a Dom and relationship partner. I had done a lot of research on collaring and the various ceremonies and couldn't find a lot of ideas on appropriate and symbolic gifts from the sub to her Dom. I apologize that I don't believe this occasion is akin to Christmas or a birthday where I might give him a video game or a first edition of his favorite book. I felt this specific occasion called for something more symbolic to the a actions that are going to take place. I'm sorry if this confused anyone but I see that a leash may be just the ticket. I can't wait for this next step in our journey and I want to extend a heartfelt thanks to those of you who PM'd me with your kind thoughts and congratulations.

I don't think anyone said they thought you should give him a videogame or something you would give him for christmas. What people said was that you should have knowledge enough to find something that would be right for him, for your relationship and this kind of occasion.

Oh, and the "thanks to everyone that was helpful"-thing is about as annoying as "this is my thread" or "only this kind of people can answer".

[molly113]

Thanks everyone for the kind words, especially those who were so sweet and sent PM's. The leash was perfect and I can't wait to wear it out and about

The ceremony was everything I hoped it would be and my collar is stunning. I'm such a lucky girl

[Beck31]

Originally Posted by molly113

Thanks everyone for the kind words, especially those who were so sweet and sent PM's. The leash was perfect and I can't wait to wear it out and about

The ceremony was everything I hoped it would be and my collar is stunning. I'm such a lucky girl

I'm glad the ceremony went well and that your collar was stunning.
Congratulations albiet a little late.

-Beck

[Red Sonja]

So happy for you, Molly! I'm glad that the leash worked well...