How to Give Good Cyber

[Cupcake5]

Seeing as you are all experienced in the art of good cyber I thought I would pick your collective brain! Where (if anywhere) is a good place to find people who want to do this? I used to use Yahoo chat but that is no more. Any help gratefully appreciated!

[quicksylver69]

This is a fantastic thread. I'm not hugely into cybering but on the occasion I am in the mood it is very, very difficult to find a partner who is as eloquent as I would like. My chat box is full of people saying 'u r hot' and the like. No capitals, no punctuation and poor spelling and grammar. In fact in the 10 years I have been on the site 2 single people have actually had what I consider excellent writing skills.

As an aside, I noticed a poster above talking about having 69 on the end of their name and that affecting how people see you. Is this true? Unfortunately I created this account when I was 18 and thought it was appropriate. Dies anyone know if its possible to get you name changed or if it would even be worth it?

[MichaelinChina]

Originally Posted by Cupcake5

Seeing as you are all experienced in the art of good cyber I thought I would pick your collective brain! Where (if anywhere) is a good place to find people who want to do this? I used to use Yahoo chat but that is no more. Any help gratefully appreciated!

Why not Lit? It's a community bursting to the rafters with people who can weave erotic fantasies in ways that (arguably) are much better than the average IM / yahoo user.

[MichaelinChina]

Originally Posted by quicksylver69

This is a fantastic thread. I'm not hugely into cybering but on the occasion I am in the mood it is very, very difficult to find a partner who is as eloquent as I would like. My chat box is full of people saying 'u r hot' and the like. No capitals, no punctuation and poor spelling and grammar. In fact in the 10 years I have been on the site 2 single people have actually had what I consider excellent writing skills.

As an aside, I noticed a poster above talking about having 69 on the end of their name and that affecting how people see you. Is this true? Unfortunately I created this account when I was 18 and thought it was appropriate. Dies anyone know if its possible to get you name changed or if it would even be worth it?

Um you are on an erotic fantasy site. Assuming you enjoy 'sixtyniners' why not hang on to '69' as part of your nic?
Of course that might limit some people's imaginations to that particular position or make them think you specialise in 69's but hey..it's only a number and a possible talking point - a leap off point into other topics.
Changing your nic might be as easy or as difficult as changing your address (email or residential) - you have to tell your friends who you become.
Again I say, unless it really bothers you - don't bother.

[GiggLeGasm]

Originally Posted by quicksylver69

This is a fantastic thread. I'm not hugely into cybering but on the occasion I am in the mood it is very, very difficult to find a partner who is as eloquent as I would like. My chat box is full of people saying 'u r hot' and the like. No capitals, no punctuation and poor spelling and grammar. In fact in the 10 years I have been on the site 2 single people have actually had what I consider excellent writing skills.

You are most certainly correct. Many people have a difficult time with grammar.

[deanball]

Well if any ladies want to help me get to grips with RP and cyber then please don't hesitate to get in touch (or is that being too forward?)

Anyway dont mean to be rude but if you do just want to begin a non heavy chit chat and see where things go then please PM

[Andrew_Stone]

My (minor) experience has shown me to take a little time to get a conversation rolling. Even if it takes a few tries. Then once things are comfortable and you have a good idea what your common fantasy will be seduce her with words. Don't try to fuck. Try to get into their head. The body always follows. Well, it does with me.

[Justine42D]

Wow thinks for that I will keep this in mind

[DaddyCeann]

Originally Posted by GiggLeGasm

You are most certainly correct. Many people have a difficult time with grammar.

I don't! I love both my grammas

[DaddyCeann]

Originally Posted by quicksylver69

This is a fantastic thread. I'm not hugely into cybering but on the occasion I am in the mood it is very, very difficult to find a partner who is as eloquent as I would like. My chat box is full of people saying 'u r hot' and the like. No capitals, no punctuation and poor spelling and grammar. In fact in the 10 years I have been on the site 2 single people have actually had what I consider excellent writing skills.

As an aside, I noticed a poster above talking about having 69 on the end of their name and that affecting how people see you. Is this true? Unfortunately I created this account when I was 18 and thought it was appropriate. Dies anyone know if its possible to get you name changed or if it would even be worth it?

I agree with MIchealChina - If people are that shallow then It's probably better off they don't talk to you. Real people who want to know you will read your profile and do research before sending a PM

[Eliphaz]

The best is when you start getting turned on just from seeing the person's name show up in your PM list.

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I have almost 30 years experience with hypnosis, and what I do is program myself to tune-in to the subtle clues women offer for consideration and follow-thru. I do not meditate on how I'll respond, I simply respond to their clues. And the interesting thing is, what works is often illiogical and counter-intuitive.

On one occasion I mistook the identity of the woman respondent and replied to her prompt with a rude KISS MY ASS AND GO AWAY. I really believed she was someone else. Well, the fur and insults flew for many rounds, and ended when I drove 800 miles to see her, and we had sex 45 times. I counted.

[NightL]

I just don't want this one to go away - love you jim-bobbly-boo

Originally Posted by JAMESBJOHNSON

I have almost 30 years experience with hypnosis, and what I do is program myself to tune-in to the subtle clues women offer for consideration and follow-thru. I do not meditate on how I'll respond, I simply respond to their clues. And the interesting thing is, what works is often illiogical and counter-intuitive.

On one occasion I mistook the identity of the woman respondent and replied to her prompt with a rude KISS MY ASS AND GO AWAY. I really believed she was someone else. Well, the fur and insults flew for many rounds, and ended when I drove 800 miles to see her, and we had sex 45 times. I counted.

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Originally Posted by NightL

I just don't want this one to go away - love you jim-bobbly-boo

Its true.

You never know what trips a womans trigger if you try and work it out with a calculator and a ouija board.

[NightL]

and all this time I thought you had me on ignore... start whistling Carly Simon song to myself

still love you jimbly-bibbly-jiblet

spread your love

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Originally Posted by NightL

and all this time I thought you had me on ignore... start whistling Carly Simon song to myself

still love you jimbly-bibbly-jiblet

spread your love

See! I like to be mysterious and ghostly. Ha! I invented humility.

[Aphroditiac]

oh my God, I am in stitches over here.

So worth the price of admission.

[Leslie22]

"Differentiate between dialog, stage directions and real-life talk."

This is huge and few people seem to do it. Also, don't take forever to send a 1 sentence message.

[Opalesce]

I've had some really great experiences with cybersex. I agree with pretty much everything I've read here.

If not already been mentioned here's my ¢2 worth:
There's nothing more annoying or discouraging than having to ask if the other person is still there. My experience has been that happens for two reasons:
1. You're not connecting, you're not hitting her buttons, etc. This happens sometimes and is to be expected.
2. "She's" enjoying what I'm typing and just wants to read. This is really frustrating. I think that most of the time this happens is because "she" is a "he." But ladies, seriously: if your partner is doing a good job, let him know. It's all about interaction.

Sneak up on vulgar terms. Start with terms like breast, thigh, between your thighs, panties, etc. Be demure. Then, as things heat up talk a about her "very C’s, her U’s and her T’s and thus makes she her great P’s". So to speak.

[MadWriter]

Yes, this.

Originally Posted by Opalesce

But ladies, seriously: if your partner is doing a good job, let him know. It's all about interaction.

Arousing my lover is the single biggest turn on for me. And most men. Let us know if we're doing the trick!

[MichaelinChina]

Originally Posted by Leslie22

"Differentiate between dialog, stage directions and real-life talk."

This is huge and few people seem to do it. Also, don't take forever to send a 1 sentence message.

This is the key to good cyber, and so simply put.

[Opalesce]

I agree.

I would also say that good dialog is good cyber.

[cole4258]

Originally Posted by Cupcake5

Seeing as you are all experienced in the art of good cyber I thought I would pick your collective brain! Where (if anywhere) is a good place to find people who want to do this? I used to use Yahoo chat but that is no more. Any help gratefully appreciated!

Did you ever get an answer to your question?

[Opalesce]

Originally Posted by Cupcake5

Seeing as you are all experienced in the art of good cyber I thought I would pick your collective brain! Where (if anywhere) is a good place to find people who want to do this? I used to use Yahoo chat but that is no more. Any help gratefully appreciated!

I've been wondering the same thing. Where is a good place these days?

[MichaelinChina]

Originally Posted by Opalesce

I've been wondering the same thing. Where is a good place these days?

I used to go to a chat room called wcool, but it got out of hand and has closed.

Best is to get to know someone from here (who better in erotica?) and use skype!!