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Old 09-15-2012, 07:34 PM   #1
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Need Advice... Pussy spanking

Hello, I need some advice and think that this may be just the place to find it. I have recently met and fallen for a woman who is open and experimental about her sexuality and she is opening the both of us up to a wealth of experiences that are new to me.

She likes to be bent over my knee and spanked with my bare hand. I have large and calloused hands; so, can deliver quite a smack. We have gradually increased the duration and the intensity. I have found a side to myself that surprised me then enflamed me.

Lately, she has spread her legs and asked me to punish her pussy: spanking it like I have been doing to her ass. We both find this very erotic and sensual. She will sometimes tell me I must stop, only to recover and ask for more. My concern is with damaging her in any way. She approached me with a ruler, yardstick actually and asked me to use this on her pussy.

Any advice, caveats, concerns that any of you may have? Or, arer there any ramifictions you may have encountered?
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Old 09-15-2012, 07:45 PM   #2
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Pussy is pretty tough, evolved to take a pounding, so to speak, but I'd avoid hitting the clitoris directly, it is packed with nerve endings and pretty hard up against the pubic bone, it could conceivably result in nerve damage.
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Old 09-15-2012, 07:51 PM   #3
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What he said ^^

I love the sensation myself. A hand is marvellous, but something narrower like a ruler is scary-fun -- so targeted and intense.
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Old 09-15-2012, 08:02 PM   #4
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PGAS can reportedly result from trauma to the nerves in the pubic region, but I don't think it's predictable - numbness would be more statistically likely I should think, and that wouldn't be good.
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Old 09-15-2012, 08:37 PM   #5
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A crop is better than a ruler. More control over the intensity with a crop. It's much more forgiving.
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Old 09-15-2012, 09:03 PM   #6
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I would agree with no_naysayer, and with Stella (of course! ).

I have personally used my hand, breast/pussy mini-floggers, and a crop directly on the pubic area. One can't, of course, just go crazy because of the potentials for harm, but as xssve said, that region is "built to take a pounding" (why does the Timex commercial come to mind here?).
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Old 09-15-2012, 09:43 PM   #7
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Thank you all for your sane and cogent advice. I will show this thread to Danielle and we will indeed get a crop. She had suggested that as a possibility. I feel certain that she knows more about this sort of thing than I. However, the relationship which we are now nurturing has placed me in the role of decision maker and dominant: particularly concerning sexual matters.

The role is more arousing than I could have imagined. It is singular, the things you learn about yourself. I feet that this forum will prove edifying for me and thank you all again. My primary concern is causing any physical harm. I will read your responses again and take heed.
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Old 09-15-2012, 10:14 PM   #8
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hottest thing I've read in a while anyway. I was going to say you should probably trust her judgement, sounds like she knows when to say when.

You might look into vacuum stimulation, the two are often found in conjunction, in porn anyway, I don't know if that means anything or not, but the swollen labia might well serve to protect the more sensitive parts.
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hottest thing I've read in a while anyway. I was going to say you should probably trust her judgement, sounds like she knows when to say when.

You might look into vacuum stimulation, the two are often found in conjunction, in porn anyway, I don't know if that means anything or not, but the swollen labia might well serve to protect the more sensitive parts.
Thank you xssve. I will look into that. I have seen the vacuum used in bdsm clips and can see the correlation. What a nice surprise to introduce into a session. The trappings and devices assosciated with the realm are a definite stimulant.
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Plus the swollen parts gotta be all pins and needles. Awesome!
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Old 09-16-2012, 12:20 AM   #11
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It's all a matter of preference, but the tube you find on the bottom of some metal clothes hangers can give a pretty nice sting without doing a lot of damage. The impact is from a curved implement so it isn't as damaging as say a ruler, etc. and because it's hollow, there isn't any real weight behind it that could cause bruising.

It's not something that will be preferred by those into heavy bruising or impact pain, but if you are into some precise torment on sensitive areas, you can produce it with one of these tubes.

These tubes aren't limited to pussy play, either. They can be used on most any body part to get a nice sting, without fear of permanent damage. It's a great tool for those who are just starting out, or those who prefer to use mental torment and accent it with physical torment.

Oh, in case you didn't figure it out for yourself, you are suppose to discard the metal part of the hanger...unless you're mommy dearest or something.

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Old 09-16-2012, 06:11 AM   #12
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I am quite partial to my pussy being smacked a bit, gets my heart racing and 'juices flowing' if you know what I mean. But Iv never been laid over someones knee and done it.

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We had seen it in an adult video and decided to try it. We were experimenting with some BDSM play. We started with my hand giving her some love tabs. Sacrificed one of my supple leather belt to make a small leather belt just wide enough for her pussy. Once again she has to be highly horny and in the mood before I could spank her pussy. Not hitting hard but more like flicking at her pussy, the lips, the clit, the opening, ass hole ...

She has used it on my cock and balls too. Turn around is fair play with us.
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Old 09-16-2012, 07:02 AM   #14
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Plus the swollen parts gotta be all pins and needles. Awesome!
A turn on... as an inveterate doodler, I smile when I see your avatar. You should see my message pad when I get off the phone. I am amazed at what I have scribbled or drawn.I generally throw them out in case they are sent in for psychanalysis.
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It's all a matter of preference, but the tube you find on the bottom of some metal clothes hangers can give a pretty nice sting without doing a lot of damage. The impact is from a curved implement so it isn't as damaging as say a ruler, etc. and because it's hollow, there isn't any real weight behind it that could cause bruising.

It's not something that will be preferred by those into heavy bruising or impact pain, but if you are into some precise torment on sensitive areas, you can produce it with one of these tubes.

These tubes aren't limited to pussy play, either. They can be used on most any body part to get a nice sting, without fear of permanent damage. It's a great tool for those who are just starting out, or those who prefer to use mental torment and accent it with physical torment.

Oh, in case you didn't figure it out for yourself, you are suppose to discard the metal part of the hanger...unless you're mommy dearest or something.
What a fantastic idea. I have already discovered the joys of light tapping the same spot continuously. What starts out as an annoyance, becomes pain, then intolerable. Thank you for that.
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I am quite partial to my pussy being smacked a bit, gets my heart racing and 'juices flowing' if you know what I mean. But Iv never been laid over someones knee and done it.

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I should have explained that when we get into a prolonged bout of pussy spanking, she straddles my lap with her back pressed against me. I like to feel that by spreading my thighs I can control how open she is. There is also the element of being forced wide in this position. I will intermittently spank her pussy when she is over my lap, but to really get down to business I prefer this backwards cowgirl pose.
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We had seen it in an adult video and decided to try it. We were experimenting with some BDSM play. We started with my hand giving her some love tabs. Sacrificed one of my supple leather belt to make a small leather belt just wide enough for her pussy. Once again she has to be highly horny and in the mood before I could spank her pussy. Not hitting hard but more like flicking at her pussy, the lips, the clit, the opening, ass hole ...

She has used it on my cock and balls too. Turn around is fair play with us.
Thanks for that. I will certainly give that a try. I will get a crop and use a belt as you suggest. I would revel in the idea of laying out various implements without explanation. We both enjoy that: ritual is becoming a large part our experience. I love the set up. It is like foreplay and gives us both the appropriate time to slip into character: a truly marvelous escape from the day to day.

I don't know about her using it on me. The way we are developing, I would imagine that it may break the spell. Perhaps if I took complete control of the how and where and reacted erratically even whimsically to the results it might work for us. It's nice to hear how flexible the two of you are. I salute you.

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Thanks for that. I will certainly give that a try. I will get a crop and use a belt as you suggest. I would revel in the idea of laying out various implements without explanation. We both enjoy that: ritual is becoming a large part our experience. I love the set up. It is like foreplay and gives us both the appropriate time to slip into character: a truly marvelous escape from the day to day.

I don't know about her using it on me. The way we are developing, I would imagine that it may break the spell. Perhaps if I took complete control of the how and where and reacted erratically even whimsically to the results it might work for us. It's nice to hear how flexible the two of you are. I salute you.

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One of the fun part is having her legs spread with her pulling herself wide open for me. Pulling it tight she said it makes it more sensitive. Makes it easy for me to select my target. It does make a funny sound when I lay it right across the opening. Try it. Open your mouth and tab it with your hand. Funny isn't it?
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I love your sense of fun. It denotes a creative imagination. I'll give that a try. Thanks
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This is one of my Doms favorite things, he likes to hurt an area before he uses it. That includes between boobs before inter-mammary intercourse ;, my anus and of course my pussy.

Of the three, I love it the most when he has me go pidgeon toed, with heels on and bend over and grab my ankles. When aroused my pussy is quite puffy and protudes some from between my legs in this position. He will cane me and he has a nack for putting light but painful welts on my labia, which are heavy welts on my cheeks. Then he has me lay on the bed and spread myself for him and he uses a riding whip, which is like a a crop, but with a thin, not wide strip of leather, on my button. This leads to vaginal orgasms, which I wouldn't otherwise get without the stimulation of the pain.

Like all of this stuff, he has to be careful because once the endorphins start flowing, you only feel the pleasure of the pain. But you do feel the hurt for the next day or two if he gets carried away.

He will flog my boobs with one of three floggers ranging from "waste of time" to "Oh no, please not that one". There are a lot of variation that go along with this, clamps slapping, etc. I have very sensitive breasts and nipples and I have gotten knd of close to climaxing from just that, but I don't think it will ever happen .
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Thank you for that wealth of insight Kim_Burly. You have brought up a point that induced me to write in the first place. My Danielle can take a surprising degree of pain when we are in the throws of an encounter. She will often regret her own tolerance later. She too must be under the haze of endorphins when she urges me on. Or, resumes the 'give me some more' position.

That is a well placed warning and I will heed it. I loved your descriptions of your play with your Dom and will be experimenting soon. I have found that specific implements and rituals are becoming very important to us both. I enjoyed your "Not that one." comment. Exactly one of the responses that we are looking for.

Thanks again.

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I know I'm still a newbie here but this is probably my favourite thread thus far!

The closest I've come to this was during a playful threesome that involved a really powerful vibrator. The guy teased me with it for hours in front of his girlfriend and every so often would stop to spank my extremely sensitive and frustrated cunt. It wasn't too rough, just playing, but it was one of the most amazing things that's ever happened to my vagina. I never found that willing and skilled hand again.

Still though, keep the experiences and advice coming on this one!
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Hi Daxaea
I do hope you get to experience the "joys of" again and soon. We are addicted to it. I am surprised at my own compulsion to spank and torment her pussy. It somehow encapsulates the entire Dom thing in one act. Punishing the thing you love and desire, watching her submit to what is generally frowed upon, a wealth of emotion and lust. I have read about sub space of course but have found very little about Dom space. It seems to me that when we both get it right we are both transformed and feed off each other's focus. I am beginning to realize that the ritual and implements lay the carpet, so to speak, for our transformations.
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I do hope you get to experience the "joys of" again and soon. We are addicted to it. I am surprised at my own compulsion to spank and torment her pussy. It somehow encapsulates the entire Dom thing in one act. Punishing the thing you love and desire, watching her submit to what is generally frowed upon, a wealth of emotion and lust. I have read about sub space of course but have found very little about Dom space. It seems to me that when we both get it right we are both transformed and feed off each other's focus. I am beginning to realize that the ritual and implements lay the carpet, so to speak, for our transformations.
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The trusty wooden spoon is a handy instrument for pussy spanking.

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