Would you sleep with a married person?

[laurenstone]

and i have quite a few times, but only as part of a 3sum xxx

[deskuser]

Well I bet the man couldn't believe his luck.

[vibes]

Originally Posted by deskuser

Its usually the woman who gets the blame regardless. We are supposed to remain in control and respect our own familes and his, whereas the poor man no matter how intelligent, is ruled by his dick and testosterone and has a ready made excuse.

Woman who sleep with married men are detroyers and men who stray or seduce are 'jack the lads' or 'casanovas'.

Just the way it is.

I know, but it's fucked up

[Emerson40]

Originally Posted by ControlBitch

Yes. If I want someone then I go after them. Their relationship status means nothing to me.

Originally Posted by vibes

Understood.
Yet, I always fail to understand why the third person would be held liable for the family destruction, instead of who took the broken vows

Originally Posted by ControlBitch

Unless the wife was a friend of mine, I wouldn't care what they thought of me or if they blamed me.
But if the wife was a friend of mine then I wouldn't be sleeping with her husband in the first place.
I'm not married so it's not my problem.

This is a very cavalier attitude. I'm not saying its wrong or bad. Just not right for me.
But I do think, whether we'd like to think so or not, that we are responsible for our actions and play a part in the results of these actions. Even if we are long gone from the scene.

Curious... would the same thinking apply if, say for example, you were driving and cut somebody off. You had somewhere to be and well, they were diving too slow. You cut into the lane and drive off, happily on your way. The driver you cut off, responsible for their vehicle, swerves suddenly or brakes to avoid you, causing an accident. Maybe an accident involving other vehicles, other people.
You both picked up the car keys and headed out the door that morning, knowing that there are other cars on the road.
Do you think you'd be responsible at all for any the wreckage left behind on the roadway?

As far the wife or husband being a friend of yours or not. I don't see the difference in severity, only in how you'd feel or be affected directly - feelings of guilt, having to deal with the shit landing on your doorstep, how it would affect your relationships with common friends and how they'd treat you.
I knew a guy in college who was a thief, made a career out of it and would steel anything and everything. But he would tell you to your face, with great sincerity because he believed it so, that he was doing nothing wrong because he did not steel from friends or family. When it was pointed out to him that the cost of goods in the stores increase to cover the costs of his thefts from the store, and insurance rates go up, and that his friends and family are affected this way, he just smiled and shrugged it off. Not his problem.

Again, not judging anybody here folks. I don't think there are any hard and fast rules that could apply, or right or wrong answers. Just shared thoughts, experiences, and opinions.
Some of the things I've read in this thread, and in others on the board, have given me food for thought, and made me take another look at the way I think about some things.

Relationships, between 2 or 3 people, can be complicated, messed-up things and not always easy to navigate through.
But I do think choices made, actions taken, and the resulting consequences are the responsibility of all involved - the cheater, the one being cheated on, and the third person in. The degree of responsibility assigned to each will vary depending on circumstance, but I don't believe anyone come out completely clean or blameless.

[webjock]

Originally Posted by Beck31

I have and I would again given an attraction towards that particular person.

In just a few words: HELL NO! PERIOD!

[blue80driver]

been there...done that.

[cherylashi26]

I'd sleep with anyone right now. I'm desperate to lose the V. :-/

[blue80driver]

Originally Posted by cherylashi26

I'd sleep with anyone right now. I'm desperate to lose the V. :-/

If I was there I would love to sleep with you Cheryl.

[elphie69]

guilty

[Krane]

of course....with out a doubt or reservation

[DarkPleasures]

Been there, done that. In fact, I used to have a fetish for married men. I say "used to" because I am in a good relationship now and happy with where I am. (I was single when I tracked down married men.)

It was a strong pull, having that small bit of power. No matter if the marriage was good or bad, for the moment, he was with me. His orgasm was for me. His cum, for me. It was mine.

I also loved seeing married men jack off with their left hand and wedding ring on. Again, he was doing something "naughty" and his cum was for me.

[DRS_EROS]

Originally Posted by desertslave

We were both married to others when we met, none of the 4 of us particularly happy in our situations. Both of those marriages ended, and we got married not long after.

I think I can safely say that 3 of the parties are happier now. Of the repercussions, I think my kids were the most immediately affected. There was a period of adjustment but they've done extremely well, and I'm very proud of them.

My guess is that you are the unhappy one.

[imready2]

Originally Posted by ControlBitch

Unless the wife was a friend of mine, I wouldn't care what they thought of me or if they blamed me.
But if the wife was a friend of mine then I wouldn't be sleeping with her husband in the first place.
I'm not married so it's not my problem.

That was explained to me once and I always found that attitude very 'hot'! Love it, thank you!
Oh, yes, I would

[erinsdick]

I def have

[LovelLady4Ever]

Im a married person and I have had sex with 4 married men 2 I still do..

[BiTodd]

yes........

[BiTodd]

Originally Posted by deskuser

Depends on the circumstances. If it was just a one off for sex maybe but I wouldn't want to be a destroyer of families or anything.

I am ready for my one off........

[mantra23]

I've been with the same married women for 13 years, we both have good stable marriages and enjoy sex with our spouses. We have also managed to have a completely independent relationship with each other whether it be meeting for a walk, cup of coffee or afternoon in bed together.

I'm no expert, but at least for us, it works and has probably helped keep our primary relationships fresher and long lasting.

[sw4fun]

In my 20s I had 2 married women chase me. The sex was amazing as they released their pent up energy. I had another married woman introduce me to swinging. So yes I have and will continnuue to do so.

[dirtwrench]

Originally Posted by sw4fun

In my 20s I had 2 married women chase me. The sex was amazing as they released their pent up energy. I had another married woman introduce me to swinging. So yes I have and will continnuue to do so.

There is a name for guys like you- Lucky Bastard.

[Beck31]

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[skate and fuck]

I have. I will continue to do so. Some husbands know, some are present and involved, some are not.

[TeslaRose]

i have. i hope that i never will again

[TeslaRose]

unless i am married to him, of course

[RedHotMamaTN]

I believe in this day and age it is so much easier to cheat. We have cell phones, Facebook, internet made it so much easier for people to hook up than it use to when you could go to a bar. We know its not right, but some reason, we still do it.