I wish i was a transgender.

[Stella_Omega]

Originally Posted by EMPRESSLAINIE

I agree with everything you said. I have been my true self for over 5 years now....very few people have knowledge that I am trans; including a lovely woman I met the other day and had a little chat time with. UNTIL my gf's son used my old name and outed me the next day when they had a date.

Stupid kid.

How did the woman handle the info?

[EMPRESSLAINIE]

Stella, the kid is 49 and has no understanding of TS. His twin brother and his mom (my sort of fiancee - another story) does and knew Christine Jorgensen in person.

I think the lady is OK about it, and it made me feel wonderful that she had no clue I was a transwoman. She initiated the hugs after some 3way conversation with me and the mom.

[Stella_Omega]

Originally Posted by EMPRESSLAINIE

Stella, the kid is 49 and has no understanding of TS. His twin brother and his mom (my sort of fiancee - another story) does and knew Christine Jorgensen in person.

I think the lady is OK about it, and it made me feel wonderful that she had no clue I was a transwoman. She initiated the hugs after some 3way conversation with me and the mom.

He's a malicious little shit, then.

And it's gotta feel great to know you're so female!

... reminds me of someone I met a few times in my young adult days. I was and am a rocker, and always dressed on the flamboyant side, and I did not understand why anyone wouldn't.

This trans woman wanted to wear Lane Bryant sets, you know? It baffled me. But all she wanted was to be a lady.

[njlauren]

There have been plenty of shitstorms over being transgender, what it means, what it doesn't, etc, and yes, there is a wide range of gender expression out there, there are people who identify as hybrid or neither male nor female, there are crossdressers of variety (those who see it as a 'hobby', those who are strongly sexualized with it i.e when dressed become sexually hyperactive, you name it...).

Gender is complicated as hell and defining things get very tough. It is also very hard sometimes to tell what someone is, let alone determine what we ourselves are. There are plenty of people who id as cross dressers who later on decide that they really want to transition and live as women, get SRS, etc....(I am leaving out FTM here so as not to go too broad, though FTM's have similar stories as well as differences).

Sometimes people fantasize about being women watching porn as the OP did and that is simply how they cope with their gender feelings, through fantasy., it happens with some people that way.

Quite honestly, someone watching porn and fantasizing about being a woman and getting fucked could be a lot of things, there is no way really to know what they are or aren't. Saying that someone who fantasizes about being a woman and having sex is simply gay or whatever is as wrong as saying they are definitely transgender and should be looking at transition, hormones, etc.....there is just no way to know. If fantasizing about being a woman and having sex is all someone has, those fantasies, I personally would speculate they are prob not someone ready to go 'the whole way', if at all, but it would be just that.

The OP would need to find their own answers/path, could be they simply enjoy fantasizing about being a woman, there is no way for anyone on here to tell. What someone is can only be found when someone actually goes out and does things to find that out, and I am not talking about dressing up and going to bed with guys, you find out what you are by doing a lot of things (there is nothing wrong with exploring sexuality, but it isn't the same thing as figuring out gender identity or what you need). Having gone through the process and also seen what the internet did, good and bad, what concerns me is when I see things said like "of course, if you dress up like a hot women and have sex with men, you are truly meant to be a woman" or "if you truly are transgender, need to be a woman, of course you will want to sleep with men" and the like, among other thing, there are a lot of fetishistic crossdressers who when dressed love having sex with men, doesn't mean they really want to be women......Not to mention that roughly 40% of M to F trans people stay with women sexually (some of those might be bi, but still tend to aim for women)

. Likewise, you aren't a woman because you love to wear 5" heels or get your ears pierced or wear short skirts (though those things are wonderful, if that is what you are into as a woman) but doesn't define one, either. I have seen people fuck up their lives because they were told by people who didn't know jack shit they of course should transition, when they might have been perfectly happy being a part time cross dresser.....you aren't really 'a woman' because you want to be a submissive sex slut, you aren't 'a woman' because you wear tight, slutty outfits and heels, you aren't a 'woman' because all you talk about is fashion or the latest hot hollywood stud, you are a woman when you find that your identity totally is based around being that, whatever kind you are.

The trappings of the sexy woman are fun, especially as many come up from the ranks of crossdressers where the 'slut' look is de rigeur, and I found that fun (and still do) and sexy, but I also learned that my most profound experiences happened when the artifice wasn't there and I was simply out and around being me, where I could define it and say "yep, that is me". No, I am not one of those in the so called community who totally deny sexuality is part of being trans (we used to call them the grandma moses contingent, who seemed to believe that to prove you were 'real' you had to dress like grandma and deny sex *ick*), that is ludicrous, but if being trans means living for sexual encounters I question it, simply because sex is only a part of life, that's all, and the same would apply to women born that way, if sex was all they had to define who they are few would think that was good......It is why defining who you are in these cases is a process and takes a lot of work, because it involves stripping down and rebuilding in many cases And you never know what the final destination is going to be, the path is a weird one, as I know only too well.....

All I can say to someone who has feelings like "I dream of being a woman", is that that starts by actually going beyond fantasy and working at it, working on the emotions and the various other things that make up exploration and later, transition. One of the biggest tests of whether it is a fantasy or not is when someone takes hormones, given what HRT does to the male sex drive, it often is a good test, those who are on a fantasy jag when they lose male sex drive generally don't like it.....

[ncdude280]

Originally Posted by Hard4Dick

Im a guy who fantasies all the time about being a girl. I love seeing porn of girls sucking cock and wishing it was me that was her.I'm envious of the female body and wish I had one. I want to be made to suck cock and swallow Cum. I get off on being treated like a girl.

i know how you feel, or at least i think i do. one of my favorite fantasies is being a woman. the idea of being female really arouses me. i fantasize about having sex as a woman (usually with another woman), but also about being female in day to day life. sometimes i even wish i was a girl when i'm not fantasizing or masturbating. however, even though sometimes i wish i was, i am not transgender. i don't hate being male, i don't feel out of place in my body, and every time i take the cogiati (i know, i know, you can't put too much faith in an online test) it tells me i'm at most andgrogynous. so i've come to accept that i'm not transgender even though the idea arouses me. just thought i'd share my experience with you

[Stella_Omega]

ncdude, you can call yourself "genderqueer" and no one will argue with that.

[blade_rocknut]

I often wonder just how many folks are caught somewhere in the spectrum of gender confusion. I figure it's quite a lot; most not knowing what the feelings even mean.

[EMPRESSLAINIE]

The cogiati - I finally managed after 5 whole years of being and living as a complete female, got it to say I was category 5 transexual. I had to cheat to do it though.

[Davide_UK]

Originally Posted by Hard4Dick

Im a guy who fantasies all the time about being a girl. I love seeing porn of girls sucking cock and wishing it was me that was her.I'm envious of the female body and wish I had one. I want to be made to suck cock and swallow Cum. I get off on being treated like a girl.

Hi Dick

In order to give me a better understanding, do you mind telling us how you feel when you're walking down the High Street where there are lots of people about. What are you attracted to then. The men or the women?

[Stella_Omega]

Originally Posted by Davide_UK

Hi Dick

In order to give me a better understanding, do you mind telling us how you feel when you're walking down the High Street where there are lots of people about. What are you attracted to then. The men or the women?

Davide, that is indeed a measure of one aspect of someone's sexual preferences, but it wouldn't be a measure of their inner gender. Someone can feel like they are female and be attracted to women, men or both at different times-- or both all the time. Ditto someone who feels that they are male.

[Davide_UK]

Originally Posted by Stella_Omega

Davide, that is indeed a measure of one aspect of someone's sexual preferences, but it wouldn't be a measure of their inner gender. Someone can feel like they are female and be attracted to women, men or both at different times-- or both all the time. Ditto someone who feels that they are male.

Hi Stella

Is that your personal opinion or would medical professionals treating Transgendered people see it that way too?

[stickygirl]

Originally Posted by Davide_UK

Hi Stella

Is that your personal opinion or would medical professionals treating Transgendered people see it that way too?

eeeerrrrrrrrrrr...."treating Transgendered"??? I'll take that as a slip of the verb!

I found a diagram... picture=1000 words



So I'd go with what Stella has said

[newestclown]

I just wish that strong men would treat me like a girl - use me like their whore. I don't want to actually change my gender or be a girl all the time, just with strong older men

[blade_rocknut]

Originally Posted by Davide_UK

Hi Stella

Is that your personal opinion or would medical professionals treating Transgendered people see it that way too?

Yeah....gender ID =/= sexual preference. 'Tis fact. Matters not what medical "professionals" see.

[StacyTG]

Originally Posted by Celedriel

You know what? Being female doesn't mean being a cocksucking sex slave.

Preach it, sister! I'm transgender, and it's difficult to find people who truly understand who I am and what I'm going through. This has absolutely nothing to do with physical sex, and everything to do with struggling to reconcile the fact that the woman inside me is cursed with the body of a man. I'll never have children, or a period, and I'll never be able to freely express my gender in public without the fear of being ridiculed and physically threatened.

[stickygirl]

I'm still steamin angry about this. Please help with a petition

http://www.change.org/petitions/canc...-6-22-dec-2012

[littlegrizz02]

Originally Posted by Hard4Dick

Im a guy who fantasies all the time about being a girl. I love seeing porn of girls sucking cock and wishing it was me that was her.I'm envious of the female body and wish I had one. I want to be made to suck cock and swallow Cum. I get off on being treated like a girl.

I feel the same way.

[Stella_Omega]

Originally Posted by stickygirl

I'm still steamin angry about this. Please help with a petition

http://www.change.org/petitions/canc...-6-22-dec-2012

Signed, Stickygirl

[stickygirl]

http://lexiecannes.wordpress.com/201...housand-words/

20th November: place a flower x

[Stella_Omega]

now,you might want to notice how many of those women are not white... It's even more dangerous to be a trans woman of color than a white trans women.

[stickygirl]

*nods* - yea I did see that but I hate to speculate what that adds up to

[Stella_Omega]

Originally Posted by stickygirl

*nods* - yea I did see that but I hate to speculate what that adds up to

It's a little thing called "intersectionality" where gender phobia meets up with racism and that poor-people-don't-deserve-respect classism that American try so hard to pretend doesn't exist.

And it's lethal.

[bisexualsmoker]

Originally Posted by Hard4Dick

Im a guy who fantasies all the time about being a girl. I love seeing porn of girls sucking cock and wishing it was me that was her.I'm envious of the female body and wish I had one. I want to be made to suck cock and swallow Cum. I get off on being treated like a girl.

Lately I get excited thinking about
taking pills so I'd grow big tits.
I think I really would love to
be that way.

[stickygirl]

Originally Posted by bisexualsmoker

Lately I get excited thinking about
taking pills so I'd grow big tits.
I think I really would love to
be that way.

I do hope you're not serious… great fantasy though

[Arlan]

Originally Posted by Little Bird

sexual repruduction is a great thing, but making it that everyone gets only half the parts is the greatest unfairness of nature.

why can't we all be more like snails?

Sounds great, as long as we don't have to be like snails in a bunch of other ways too.