Old 01-30-2014, 02:48 PM   #1
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Porn made me gay?

When I first started watching porn at about 13, I watched it for the girls and wanted to fuck them. This continued to Im about 16 then I started concentrating on the cocks.

Now when I try and focus on the girl I go soft, but I look at his cock and think of being asub slut to him anbd I blow my load.

Has porn somehow conditioned me to this? ( I watched ALOT of porn).
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Old 01-30-2014, 03:04 PM   #2
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When I first started watching porn at about 13, I watched it for the girls and wanted to fuck them. This continued to Im about 16 then I started concentrating on the cocks.

Now when I try and focus on the girl I go soft, but I look at his cock and think of being asub slut to him anbd I blow my load.

Has porn somehow conditioned me to this? ( I watched ALOT of porn).
I rather doubt it. People's sexual orientation often changes over time. A lot of it may have to do with social conditioning ... at some period when your orientation was still unformed, you knew that you were expected to get off on girls and not on boys, so that's what your libido allowed you to do. After your gayness started to strengthen and become dominant, your taste in porn changed. I wouldn't worry about it.

The only thing to really worry about, regarding watching lots of porn, is whether it starts to interfere with establishing real live sexual and emotional relationships with people, whether gay or straight. If you're honest enough with yourself to recognize when that's happening and then take steps to mitigate it, you should be all right.
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Old 01-30-2014, 05:09 PM   #3
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My taste changed over time. Some non-gay porn will make my cock stir but gay porn is what I get off to and watch almost exclusively. I used to never watch gay porn...didn't like it at all. But now, watching men....Love it! Occasionally watch gay group sex but I love watching two men make love. My masturbation has totally changed as well. I love anal penetration and have cum a few times just from that. Has it made me gay? Probably just uncovered something that was already inside of me. The thought of being with another man used to turn me off. Now, with the right guy under the right circumstances, absolutely!
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I rather doubt it. People's sexual orientation often changes over time. A lot of it may have to do with social conditioning ... at some period when your orientation was still unformed, you knew that you were expected to get off on girls and not on boys, so that's what your libido allowed you to do. After your gayness started to strengthen and become dominant, your taste in porn changed. I wouldn't worry about it.

The only thing to really worry about, regarding watching lots of porn, is whether it starts to interfere with establishing real live sexual and emotional relationships with people, whether gay or straight. If you're honest enough with yourself to recognize when that's happening and then take steps to mitigate it, you should be all right.
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Old 01-30-2014, 11:12 PM   #5
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My taste changed over time. Some non-gay porn will make my cock stir but gay porn is what I get off to and watch almost exclusively. I used to never watch gay porn...didn't like it at all. But now, watching men....Love it! Occasionally watch gay group sex but I love watching two men make love. My masturbation has totally changed as well. I love anal penetration and have cum a few times just from that. Has it made me gay? Probably just uncovered something that was already inside of me. The thought of being with another man used to turn me off. Now, with the right guy under the right circumstances, absolutely!
I can totally relate to this. I still love the female body and enjoy sex with women, but after years of watching porn my tastes have also changed. First it was all about the blowjobs and the cum shots, then it was about seeing a women take on multiple cocks at once, deep throating and swallowing. I got so turned on seeing a women suck a cock the way I want my cock sucked and it made me think that I would like to also suck cock. I have not sucked cock yet, but now I think about it all the time. I am married with kids so its my little secret. Then I started to watch gay porn and it was like a whole new frontier. It is such a turn on. I actually bought some realistic cock dildos that I practice deep throating and fucking. So yes, maybe porn is making me bi and someday maybe I take the plunge. I too think that with the right guy and the right timing that I would go for it.
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Old 01-30-2014, 11:16 PM   #6
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No question about it. Watching porn is a continum; what gets you off today, won't tomorrow. I'm in the same boat. It has been studied and is well documented. Walking away sounds easy but it isn't.
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Old 01-31-2014, 12:32 AM   #7
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Hmmm ?

Ok I got to admit I can see a chance that maybe it does have some effect...but I would highly doubt it is solely responsible. Here's why ...I have seen alot of str8 porn over the years and it has not turned me hetero ...maybe it has different effect however.

I mean cocks are incredibly erotic ...they stand out ....and are the essence of erotisism ..in many ways ...I mean a vagina is as well no doubt , but it is more subtle ...other than squirting occasionally it does not release cum ..the way a cock does ..lets face it that is intensely erotic compared to a female orgasm visually ...female is audio based climax ...male is very much more video based in porn..so it is focused on.

Also A vagina does not perform the penetration ...it recieves it ...a cock penetrates ...so it is there weather it's blow jobs ...anal or vaginal ...again it recieves more attention by the viewer.I would think this can indeed leave a subconcious picture of what is erotic in the brain.Not the case in lesbain porn of course ...but again in lesbian porn alot of dildo ,vibrator ,or strap penetration actionon is involved.

And lastly ..if you look at alot of what is hard core porn it involves the end result of a cum shot in the mouth ...in a vaginia or around it...in an anus or around it ..on tits ...on faces ...it's 80 % or so about the ejacultion of cum from a penis.There has got to be some effect of viewing that repetiously or frequently over years for a male ...because he relates to that form of orgasam.

Basically in many ways hard core str8 porn at the end scene is a form of Gay porn In that final scene ...it's a cock ejaculating ...weather on a female face or other body part ..the main focus is on the male gentailia releasing cum.

Do not get me wrong on the part about a hard stiff cock being more erotic than a very attractive hard body female ..lets face it that is what we see pumped out in adverstising and it is basically the real societial form of sexual erotic visualaztion.But in porn it is directly about the act of sex and penetration except lesbian ( much more a sensual thing if no pahalic substitute is used).

I mean if you look at transgender porn ...I would bet more str8 or hetero oriented guys watch it than Gay men.And even perhaps women ...why because there is a cock ...sure it's attached to a female shaped and contoured body ..from the clothes to the make up to the hair...so str8 guys are not watching it for the female attraction alone or they would stick to lesbian or str8 less hard core stuff.

Bottom line is porn is not going to influence a female near as much as a man in changing what sexually excites her.I trully believe it can have a profound effect on a man. The female see's the same visual of the male sex organ ...no big thing ..it's what as a hetero female she is attracted to ..a man see's it repeatedly over time ...it is not nessarily what he is attracted to but over time and alot of viewing it might. Then add the emphasis of ejaculation and well ...quite possibly yes it can stir something that might not other wise have been woken.

Last note ...while growing up how do women bond ...emotionally and communication for the most part.

Men ..yes some of that ..but more physical contact ..we wrestle ..we fight ..we express prowess with each other ..we are far more physical in our bonding.We are naturally condition to admire each others physical attributes and physical abilities. I won't swear it but yeah I do think you add naked male bodies in the act of hetero sex in many of it's hard core forms and phalic dischrages of semen ...men take that visual imformation in ...and I do think it gets played back and stirs desires.Does it make a man Gay...no thats emotional ..but sure can make him think ...hmmm wonder what a cock in my mouth would be like.

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Old 01-31-2014, 12:41 AM   #8
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It probably helped make something okay that you had been raised to suppress and believe was not okay. maybe gay porn just gave you the fodder for your fantasies and awakened some of your innate sexuality.
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Old 01-31-2014, 02:14 AM   #9
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I think that porn may have had some influence on making me want to fuck guys. I was as straight as they come all through high school, u. il my senior year. Hell, I. adn. even seen porn until I was 16. But I started with the usual mf porn, then when that got boring I moved on to lesbian porn. I had no interest in watching guys fuck girls in porn. My thought was if I want to watch a guy fuck a girl, I would go do it myself.

Then when the lesbian stuff got boring I moved onto group sex, i.e. gangbangs. Then one day I stumbled upon a bi mmf video, and it blew my mind. I started getting more and more into the bi porn, because again I wasnt quite ready to just watch two guys fuck. And besides, the guys were always real feminine, and Im not into that. So anyways, the bi porn morphed into watching two guys stroke and suck each other. I wasnt interested in anal or watching them making out. About this same time was when my own curiosity started up, and I went out and started exploring that side of me.

It was actually after I had a few encounters with guys that I actually started getting into gay porn, as now I enjoy getting fucked, and Ive gotten into making out.

Long story short, I do think that porn may have some influence, not necessarily on sexual orientation, but what kinks you might be into when youre at home late at night. I dont know that itwas necessarily one particular thing, I put more of it on how hot it was to watch a man and a woman sucking the same dick at the same time, then one guy with a cock buried in his ass while he's thrusting into her pussy. I am happily married to a fantastic woman who, unfortunately, doesnt share the same interests as I do. I would love to share a man with her.
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No not in your case I don't think.

Allthough I did state in length in my other post it can have an effect I think and I gave a somewhat lenthly description of how. I do not think it did in your case if you are still quite young.

I too began amazed by the female body and what it stirred in me and loved nude mags ...was no real porn available to 13 year old in my youth.But hard core mags and penthouse were around.

But by 15 I was completely sexually attracted to other males.1st sex was Gay sex..at 16 and it was both oral and anal with me being the bottom.Did not start with mutual masterbation ...it was not confused experiment ...it was what I knew was natural for me.

No outside media caused this ...it was from with in and kicked in once my puberty and sex drive beagn to form.

In your case I think same may be true ...sure your 1st stirrings were hetero in nature ...but once puberty and your sex drive kicked in and mixed with the emotional aspect you were and are attracted to other men.

Maybe even Bi-sexual ...but if bottoming and accepting a man in you orally or anally is what really hit's the spot for you 100% of the time ..should you begin exprimenting.Well then that was not induced by visual media alone.Could be it's just some fantasy that if tried won't be what you thought it would..and it will pass..a new fantasy will take it's place perhaps.

As a Gay man I will just say it plain and clear and honestly ...I get off sexually by having a man cum inside me ..I practice safe sex if not partnered with a man for a while ...but deep down having a man sexually climax in side my ass (best) or mouth is what does it for me emotionally ...I just can't change that ...to me thats making love ..not just sex...hearing him and feeling him realease, looking up at him as he goes thru that male climax of sexual desire and comes to that point where he pumps and gasps out his last sexual strength....There is simply no way you can be conditioned by visual to love that as much or more than your own climax. It may well make you decide to think and even act on gay sex as an act ...but it does not make you Gay ...

Allthough I can not trully say what makes a Gay man that just Tops tick.

Have known very few and just do not seem to be able to figure them out....maybe porn comes into play there I have no clue.
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Old 01-31-2014, 03:40 AM   #11
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You are what you are, and always have been. Please enjoy being you, whatever that is. You don't have to fit into any "box". Sometimes I wish we could throw all the labels in a bin and just be ourselves. Love Yourself, then you will love others. Sex is only one aspect of LOVE.
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When I first started watching porn at about 13, I watched it for the girls and wanted to fuck them. This continued to Im about 16 then I started concentrating on the cocks.

Now when I try and focus on the girl I go soft, but I look at his cock and think of being asub slut to him anbd I blow my load.

Has porn somehow conditioned me to this? ( I watched ALOT of porn).
no i dont think watching porn has conditioned you ,i suspect you were always that way inclined and it took a trigger to bring it out but either way dont over think it just be happy with who you are.
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Old 01-31-2014, 10:04 AM   #13
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It probably helped make something okay that you had been raised to suppress and believe was not okay. maybe gay porn just gave you the fodder for your fantasies and awakened some of your innate sexuality.
Conditioning can have extremely strong effects on behaviour. That said, I agree with other posters that porn probably doesn't significantly change whatever your innate orientation (straight, gay, bi) might be but merely what gets you off best. If porn did change your orientation, 'homosexual deprogramming' wouldn't be the farce that it actually is.
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Old 01-31-2014, 10:19 AM   #14
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It probably helped make something okay that you had been raised to suppress and believe was not okay. maybe gay porn just gave you the fodder for your fantasies and awakened some of your innate sexuality.
Instead of repeating whats already been written on the thread several times.... I'll just say I agree with this and all the other similar posts!

Maybe this is a positive aspect of internet pornography. Although I doubt its an argument that'd gain much traction with the christian right....
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When I first started watching porn at about 13, I watched it for the girls and wanted to fuck them. This continued to Im about 16 then I started concentrating on the cocks.

Now when I try and focus on the girl I go soft, but I look at his cock and think of being asub slut to him anbd I blow my load.

Has porn somehow conditioned me to this? ( I watched ALOT of porn).
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When I first started watching porn at about 13, I watched it for the girls and wanted to fuck them. This continued to Im about 16 then I started concentrating on the cocks.

Now when I try and focus on the girl I go soft, but I look at his cock and think of being asub slut to him anbd I blow my load.

Has porn somehow conditioned me to this? ( I watched ALOT of porn).
I wouldn't say that the porn its self has a direct affect on you. As some other posters have said your interests can change overtime. I can say from experience that I have swung back and forth between maledom and sissy porn in just a few months a few times.
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Old 02-02-2014, 06:15 PM   #17
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Labels, labels.

I was totally straight until I was in my twenties, turned on by men but not by women. I consider myself essentially straight today. But then I fell in love with another woman, and all those labels went out the window.

Yes, I worried that I was really Lesbian, and that I'd been hiding my true identity for years. Then I fell in love with men again, and worried that I was somehow failing myself as a Lesbian, and all my Lesbian sisters who would frown on that sort of thing. But it eventually got through my thick skull that I was falling in love with people, not bodies with appendages that may or may not match mine. I wanted to make love with them, soul to soul as well as body to body. That was all that mattered.

To be frank, some of my most prized relationships, with both men and women, have been entirely sex-free, and I want to keep them that way. Something happens when a non-sexual relation turns into a sexual one, and it's not necessarily a good thing. I suppose there's a label for that, too.
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To be frank, some of my most prized relationships, with both men and women, have been entirely sex-free, and I want to keep them that way. Something happens when a non-sexual relation turns into a sexual one, and it's not necessarily a good thing. I suppose there's a label for that, too.
I wonder why that is? I have a bff and I love her in a non-sexual way, we're very close and it's almost like sex would become a distraction. On the other hand, when you run out of words to say how you feel, then sex seems a natural step
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Dude, you are born gay/bi. The porn just helped you to realize that you are gay/bi.
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