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Old 11-05-2016, 10:58 AM   #1
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Do you feel submissive when you suck a cock?

First off, a little background. I am 67 and happily married for over 40 years. My wife and I had an active sex life until about 7 or 8 years ago, when she became very disinterested in any form of sex. I tried to coax her into some unconventional avenues, like having sex with other men, if she wanted to. She rejected the idea straight away and insisted that she had just lost interest in sex, not in me. I accepted her explanation, even though I wish she had taken me up on my offer of being free to play around.

My fascination of imagining her having sex with other men did not end there. It was fueled by reading 'Hot Wife' and 'Cuckold' stories in various forums, like Literotica, and watching whatever porn vids that were related. It was a slow transformation, to where I soon began imagining myself injected into the whole scenario. I would jerk off while thinking about eating another man's cum from my wife's freshly fucked pussy, or sucking her lover hard before inserting him inside her. I was absolutely enthralled by this and fantasised about it a lot. Every time I stroked myself, this entered my mind and took control.

It came to me one day that I was becoming just as interested in the cock as I was the pussy. The stories, and the vids, and my fantasies were fairly centered around cock. My wife sucking on them, or being fucked was becoming secondary. I wanted the cock. I wanted to taste one, lick one and suck one.

Sucking cock was now my new obsession. After a few years of dreaming about it and wishing for it to happen, it did. I met with a guy from a chat site for coffee and we ended up engaged in mutual oral sex. He got the ball rolling, by sucking me off first, then my much anticipated debut went off perfectly. We met three times altogether and I found it thrilling, exciting, and all the things that sex is about. Above all, I found it quite natural to take a man's cock in my hands and mouth and make him cum.

I had always been the dominant partner in my marriage and took on a rather strong leading role wherever I worked. It was just who I was. The first time I sucked my buddy's cock I couldn't help but feel proud as he praised my efforts and refused to accept that his, was the first cock I had sucked. (At least that is what he told me). I was glowing. I then had an overwhelming compulsion to ask for him to call me a 'cocksucker'. He looked at me, smiled and called me a cocksucker. I loved it. Right then, I would have done anything that he asked me to, or told me to.

Now for the part about the question. I have found that over the past two years, I want the buddies I meet to take on a leading role in our adventures. I tell them it is okay to call me a cocksucker, to tell me what they want me to do, to take physical control of the moment and hold my head on their cock as I suck them. I want them to be in control, more and more. I have preferred to make all of my encounters to be about mutual satisfaction. I blow you, you blow me. The last two were not. The last one, I just sucked the guy off as he leaned back against a tree in an outdoor trail. When he finished and I swallowed, he suddenly became afraid of being caught and insisted we vacate the area. The one before that I was naked in bed with my buddy and he was like the puppeteer. He had told me to strip naked when I walked in the door, and I did. He told me to follow him to the living room where we kissed and felt each other up. Then he directed me to go wait for him on his bed, and I did. When he came in, he pretty much took control of all the action and had me crawl up from the foot of the bed and suck his cock as he held me there. When he filled my mouth, and I swallowed he pulled me up along side him and had me jerk off on his cock and balls, and I did. I loved it. He was definitely in charge and I loved it.

I felt like I had no choice in the way things happened during my last two meetings and it is truly an exciting prospect for me to feel this way. I am thinking that there is no way I would ever accept being humiliated or being made to call anyone 'Sir' or 'Master', but I do enjoy being told what to do and how to do it. It is almost a relief, not being in charge. Maybe it's a lowering of testosterone, or growing older. Whatever it is, I am finding that I enjoy being the submissive, when I know I am going to be sucking a cock.

What do you think guys?
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Old 11-06-2016, 08:31 AM   #2
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Is oral sex naturally submissive? It can be ..there's a lot of potential for head grabbing and taking what you need and using some pleasant force, add a collar and a lead and there's even more

Lots of dominant personalities enjoy letting go the controls ...that what makes the control spectrum so delicious to play on

Performing oral can put you in a dominant position if that's how you choose or in submissive headspace

Go with what works in the moment

And enjoy it

And get your wife to see her doctor .sounds like some hormone replacement could help
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Old 11-06-2016, 09:14 AM   #3
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Is oral sex naturally submissive? It can be ..there's a lot of potential for head grabbing and taking what you need and using some pleasant force, add a collar and a lead and there's even more

Lots of dominant personalities enjoy letting go the controls ...that what makes the control spectrum so delicious to play on

Performing oral can put you in a dominant position if that's how you choose or in submissive headspace

Go with what works in the moment

And enjoy it

And get your wife to see her doctor .sounds like some hormone replacement could help

Thank you for your comments and insight. It seems that I really do enjoy 'letting go of the controls'. It certainly gives me a new perspective, in addition to the obvious equipment change. As to how far the submissiveness goes, will very much depend on my future play mates. As long as I am comfortable, I can let the limits continue to grow.

As for my wife, we have discussed the possibility of HRT, yet she has made no move to do so.
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Old 11-08-2016, 05:21 AM   #4
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First off, a little background. I am 67 and happily married for over 40 years. My wife and I had an active sex life until about 7 or 8 years ago, when she became very disinterested in any form of sex. I tried to coax her into some unconventional avenues, like having sex with other men, if she wanted to. She rejected the idea straight away and insisted that she had just lost interest in sex, not in me. I accepted her explanation, even though I wish she had taken me up on my offer of being free to play around.

My fascination of imagining her having sex with other men did not end there. It was fueled by reading 'Hot Wife' and 'Cuckold' stories in various forums, like Literotica, and watching whatever porn vids that were related. It was a slow transformation, to where I soon began imagining myself injected into the whole scenario. I would jerk off while thinking about eating another man's cum from my wife's freshly fucked pussy, or sucking her lover hard before inserting him inside her. I was absolutely enthralled by this and fantasised about it a lot. Every time I stroked myself, this entered my mind and took control.

It came to me one day that I was becoming just as interested in the cock as I was the pussy. The stories, and the vids, and my fantasies were fairly centered around cock. My wife sucking on them, or being fucked was becoming secondary. I wanted the cock. I wanted to taste one, lick one and suck one.

Sucking cock was now my new obsession. After a few years of dreaming about it and wishing for it to happen, it did. I met with a guy from a chat site for coffee and we ended up engaged in mutual oral sex. He got the ball rolling, by sucking me off first, then my much anticipated debut went off perfectly. We met three times altogether and I found it thrilling, exciting, and all the things that sex is about. Above all, I found it quite natural to take a man's cock in my hands and mouth and make him cum.

I had always been the dominant partner in my marriage and took on a rather strong leading role wherever I worked. It was just who I was. The first time I sucked my buddy's cock I couldn't help but feel proud as he praised my efforts and refused to accept that his, was the first cock I had sucked. (At least that is what he told me). I was glowing. I then had an overwhelming compulsion to ask for him to call me a 'cocksucker'. He looked at me, smiled and called me a cocksucker. I loved it. Right then, I would have done anything that he asked me to, or told me to.

Now for the part about the question. I have found that over the past two years, I want the buddies I meet to take on a leading role in our adventures. I tell them it is okay to call me a cocksucker, to tell me what they want me to do, to take physical control of the moment and hold my head on their cock as I suck them. I want them to be in control, more and more. I have preferred to make all of my encounters to be about mutual satisfaction. I blow you, you blow me. The last two were not. The last one, I just sucked the guy off as he leaned back against a tree in an outdoor trail. When he finished and I swallowed, he suddenly became afraid of being caught and insisted we vacate the area. The one before that I was naked in bed with my buddy and he was like the puppeteer. He had told me to strip naked when I walked in the door, and I did. He told me to follow him to the living room where we kissed and felt each other up. Then he directed me to go wait for him on his bed, and I did. When he came in, he pretty much took control of all the action and had me crawl up from the foot of the bed and suck his cock as he held me there. When he filled my mouth, and I swallowed he pulled me up along side him and had me jerk off on his cock and balls, and I did. I loved it. He was definitely in charge and I loved it.

I felt like I had no choice in the way things happened during my last two meetings and it is truly an exciting prospect for me to feel this way. I am thinking that there is no way I would ever accept being humiliated or being made to call anyone 'Sir' or 'Master', but I do enjoy being told what to do and how to do it. It is almost a relief, not being in charge. Maybe it's a lowering of testosterone, or growing older. Whatever it is, I am finding that I enjoy being the submissive, when I know I am going to be sucking a cock.

What do you think guys?
I feel in a very similar position as yourself. I am a 62yo married man. I met a man only very recently and sucked cock for the first time. However the experience wasn't entirely satisfactory from my point of view because we sort of 'made love' which isn't quite what I'm hoping for. Personally I would very much prefer the scenario you portray with more active control being taken by the other man and being 'made' to take a more submissive role. To give up control and be more or less told what to do by him is an exciting prospect for me.
Hence I am still looking for Mr Right.
I am pleased that things appear to be working in the direction of your preference.
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Old 11-08-2016, 08:48 AM   #5
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You have almost described my life over recent years as I have also turned towards cock as my marriage is sexless.
I was a boss for many years and I now love the feeling of having no control and being told what to do, just being the person who is not in charge is quite a turn on.
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Old 11-08-2016, 08:51 AM   #6
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I so agree I am so sub for guys and love it
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Old 11-08-2016, 10:31 AM   #7
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Thank you for the replies

I know that I am not alone out here with my transformation, if I can call it that.
It is nice to get the re-assurances that there are many more men that feel as I do.
I hope that we can all get what we want and desire.
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Old 11-08-2016, 11:04 AM   #8
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Honestly, I don't feel submissive when I am trying to get a guy off. What I really feel is being super active, like paying attention to his response and making little changes on the fly (no pun intended). Each man or woman is a little different , so I find little changes need to be made in order to follow the path that will drive them toward a strong orgasm. Also, the bi men I have been with are not particularly dominant. They tend to be very considerate and grateful for the attention.

Maybe I am just attracted to that type of lover. The only time I ended up with a dominant was with a woman. That was really instructive and I miss her now, but I found out that I am not a submissive person by nature.
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Old 11-08-2016, 12:19 PM   #9
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Honestly, I don't feel submissive when I am trying to get a guy off. What I really feel is being super active, like paying attention to his response and making little changes on the fly (no pun intended). Each man or woman is a little different , so I find little changes need to be made in order to follow the path that will drive them toward a strong orgasm. Also, the bi men I have been with are not particularly dominant. They tend to be very considerate and grateful for the attention.

Maybe I am just attracted to that type of lover. The only time I ended up with a dominant was with a woman. That was really instructive and I miss her now, but I found out that I am not a submissive person by nature.
I certainly am not and I don't believe the OP is talking dominance in terms of abuse or humiliation. Simply the other man being 'in charge' of proceedings and taking the lead role. Such as making the first move. Stroking your cock first and/or taking your hand and placing it on his crotch as he says something like, "take it out and stroke it for me". "Now kneel and lick my cock". More along those lines than being 'dominant. If that makes sense?
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Old 11-08-2016, 01:16 PM   #10
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My experience

For me it can go either way. I have been submissive with some guys. My most recent experiences have been with me controlling how I suck him. He comes when I am ready for him to cum. I decide where his cum goes.

What I found interesting is that once I started sucking cock I became somewhat sexually submissive to my wife. She was aware that I had sex with guys and approved.
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Old 11-08-2016, 03:41 PM   #11
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Do you feel submissive when you suck a cock?
No more than when I go down on a woman. I just like sucking cock (probably more than cunnilingus) and I enjoy it when a guy cums in my mouth. That's all there is to it.
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Old 11-10-2016, 07:32 AM   #12
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Feel so hot and sub when down on a good cock...
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Old 11-10-2016, 12:38 PM   #13
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Not really when i suck a guy off it can be submissive with some guys it has been mostly it is just that i love cock in my mouth and that is all and girls it is the same
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Old 11-10-2016, 05:29 PM   #14
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I would say that yes, I do feel very submissive when I am sucking a cock. It is my goal to please the man I am with. Even if I do not get sucked or even get off, I just want him to be happy. This is a far cry from when I am with my wife. She is always the submissive one.
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Old 11-10-2016, 07:57 PM   #15
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Absolutely! 💗

Absolutely, I feel submissive when I'm sucking cock! Deliciously submissive! 💓

First...my physical posture alone is the essence of submission...on my knees...lower than the alpha male I'm servicing!

Second...I'm abjectly "SERVING" a man's sexual pleasure...with absolutely NO regard for my own pleasure! And, as soon as I kneel before a man for his pleasure, offering him both my mouth and my ass to that purpose, I am utterly and submissively committing myself to do absolutely ANYTHING to bring him the orgasmic ecstasy and release that he deserves! That's submissive in itself!

Finally...by the very sex acts I'm willing and eager to perform purely for other men's pleasure...receiving his cock and balls and, ultimately, his semen, in my mouth...or his cock and cum deep in my ass...homosexual acts that are still largely frowned upon by a very significant portion of society...I brazenly and openly declare my complete submission to men's pleasure and lust! My submission is complete when I, a man, drop to my knees to perform wet, slavish, homosexual acts with men!

And I absolutely LOVE being in that submission to horny, dominant men! 💓💋😈
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Old 11-10-2016, 11:13 PM   #16
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I think submissiveness first to my wife and then to the lover who plays with us when I'm fully dressed is an important component. I do what they tell me and thrill to lose control. They both do very well ensuring that my fetishes and desires are triggered, played with and satisfied.

So I'm feeling very submissive when I suck George's cock and love it. I don't really need him to suck mine so that doesn't happen any more. I prefer to cum from him or my wife's strapon in my ass.
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Old 11-11-2016, 10:31 AM   #17
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Not interested in being intimate with a guy, just would like the sex part. If he took control that would be fine with me. I could handle him sitting on a couch with his pants removed and me on my knees playing with and going down on him and him telling me to go slower or faster or deeper. If he wanted to hold my head down when he cums so he could get the full benefit of his climax I have no problem with that either.
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Old 11-12-2016, 12:24 AM   #18
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For the most part, yes.
Even more so for black men, in fact all the time.
But usually the bigger the cock, the easier I am to control.
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Old 11-12-2016, 03:29 AM   #19
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No more than when I go down on a woman. I just like sucking cock (probably more than cunnilingus) and I enjoy it when a guy cums in my mouth. That's all there is to it.
This is definitely me. Thanks for posting
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I love the feel of a cock in my mouth, but since I only date sissies and CD's, they are mostly bottoms. I have no need to dom anyone, but it seems the girls I date like it. I am just so glad to be with a CD that I have no need to dom her. If U just let her do what she wants, she will make you soooo happy. Women respond to kindness, and so do sissies, since they are women too.
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Old 11-15-2016, 09:43 AM   #22
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As stated above, I am not interested in intamacy with the men I service. Even though I am masculine in every other situation and relationship, I am absolutely submissive when I am sucking cock. I rarely desire reciprocation. Instead, I receive pleasure as if my mouth were a pussy. It gives me immense pleasure when a hard cock is sliding in and out of my mouth. I really get into being called names like cocksucker or cumslut and I love it when he holds my head and takes control, thrusting his cock in and out, fucking me to give himself pleasure without considering me as anything beyond a means to an end. I also love being cockslapped and having him rub his spit soaked cock and balls all over my face. My cock gets hardest when I am on my knees with a nice hard cock (esp. bbc) penetrating my face.

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Old 11-15-2016, 09:48 AM   #23
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As stated above, I am not interested in intamacy with the men I service. Even though I am masculine in every other situation and relationship, I am absolutely submissive when I am sucking cock. I rarely desire reciprocation. Instead, I receive pleasure as if my mouth were a pussy. It gives me immense pleasure when a hard cock is sliding in and out of my mouth. I really get into being called names like cocksucker or cumslut and I love it when he holds me head and takes control, thrusting his cock in and out, fucking me to give himself pleasure without considering me as anything beyond a means to an end. I also love being cockslapped and having him rub his spit soaked cock and balls all over my face. My cock gets hardest when I am on my knees with a nice hard cock (esp. bbc) penetrating my face.
I cum the best on my back in the bed, with a warm wet cock squirting down my throat.
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Old 11-15-2016, 09:56 AM   #24
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Yes I do. Because I'm lower than him, he's standing over me or I'm being mounted. Yes I'm the submissive one
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Old 11-15-2016, 09:59 AM   #25
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