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I was talking to a female friend of mine and we were talking about masturbation habits, you know, your standard daily conversation, and I mentioned the fact that I either masturbate spontaneously or sometimes it's pre-meditated. And after clarifying what I meant, she said she very rarely ever pre-meditates masturbation. So I was curious from both men and women what their habits were.

For the sake of this conversation, "spontaneous" is when you masturbate because you're physically (or psychologically/emotionally, whatever) aroused. For instance, in my case, if I wake up in the middle of the night with an erection and I know my wife has to be up early/busy day, i.e. I'm not waking her up... I'll knock it out because I'm aroused and ready.

"Pre-meditated" is when you plan to masturbate and "start from scratch." For example, if you're driving home from work and thinking "I'm going to throw on some porn and touch myself..."

So... breakdown? I thought about it a bit and I would say it's probably something like 75/25 in favor of "spontaneous" for me (I hope that when I'm "premeditated" my wife will be available! But obviously we can't always be so lucky...)
 
I am about 50/50. Sometimes plan it out thinking I'll get to play after work, etc. or when I have some time away, want to take a long hot shower with some toys. Quite often I'm just overwhelmed with the need and HAVE to do it right then, no planning.
 
Is there a word for when you have no intention of masturbating but you start reading stories on here and slowly get more and more aroused, and then you sort of start to touch & tease a bit, still not intending to go "all the way" and then after a few more minutes its time to make a descision, either you stop right now, get your hands out of there and go take your mind off it, or else you are going to have to continue and orgasm!! :devil:
 
Cathyanne said:
make a descision, either you stop right now, get your hands out of there and go take your mind off it, or else you are going to have to continue and orgasm!! :devil:
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I never seem to choose the "stop" option....:D

I know the option is there...but it never wins in the decision making process.
 
Pretty much spontaneous. I don't have time to plan out when I'm going to pleasure myself.
 
sdnt said:
Pretty much spontaneous. I don't have time to plan out when I'm going to pleasure myself.
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Really? I enjoy planning things, but I'm single and have too much spare time on my hands (when I'm not at work).

I pick a night and make it a big deal. Wine, candles, a bubblebath, the whole deal.

I'm not really a fan of spontaneous quickies. If I do get horny at an unplanned time I usually just hold off and save it for later.
 
Cathyanne said:
Really? I enjoy planning things, but I'm single and have too much spare time on my hands (when I'm not at work).

I pick a night and make it a big deal. Wine, candles, a bubblebath, the whole deal.

I'm not really a fan of spontaneous quickies. If I do get horny at an unplanned time I usually just hold off and save it for later.
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I don't live alone so I can't spoil myself like that lol.
 
Mostly pre-meditated

Most days, when I come on here, I reckon I'll probably read my PMs and masturbate. I almost always type one-handed on Lit.
 
sdnt said:
I don't live alone so I can't spoil myself like that lol.
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From what I'm hearing, this sounds super standard for women who are married/kids. The days of "Oooh, I'm going to run a bath, have a glass of wine and grab a toy" disappear in a hurry. That's too bad.
 
CharlieGG said:
From what I'm hearing, this sounds super standard for women who are married/kids. The days of "Oooh, I'm going to run a bath, have a glass of wine and grab a toy" disappear in a hurry. That's too bad.
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Thats my entire sex life, so Id better not have kids anytime soon:eek:
 
Probably 60/40, premeditated/spontaneous for me.

I usually know I want to masturbate beforehand, and seek out some porn or something to watch.

But I'd say probably 40 per cent of the time, i'm just reading on here, or messing around online, and I'll see something that REALLY turns me on, and just go for it...
 
I think I'm mostly spontaneous, it usually happens as a result of arousal, although I quite like the sound of a candles, bath, etc :)
 
CharlieGG said:
I was talking to a female friend of mine and we were talking about masturbation habits, you know, your standard daily conversation, and I mentioned the fact that I either masturbate spontaneously or sometimes it's pre-meditated. And after clarifying what I meant, she said she very rarely ever pre-meditates masturbation. So I was curious from both men and women what their habits were.

For the sake of this conversation, "spontaneous" is when you masturbate because you're physically (or psychologically/emotionally, whatever) aroused. For instance, in my case, if I wake up in the middle of the night with an erection and I know my wife has to be up early/busy day, i.e. I'm not waking her up... I'll knock it out because I'm aroused and ready.

"Pre-meditated" is when you plan to masturbate and "start from scratch." For example, if you're driving home from work and thinking "I'm going to throw on some porn and touch myself..."

So... breakdown? I thought about it a bit and I would say it's probably something like 75/25 in favor of "spontaneous" for me (I hope that when I'm "premeditated" my wife will be available! But obviously we can't always be so lucky...)
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I'd say I'm at about 65/35 or 70/30. Sometimes it's fun to pre-plan and let the excitement of anticipation build...
 
Spontaneous for me, but reading PMs, e-mails and Lit threads makes me want to be 'spontaneous'.
 
Friendly_Guy said:
I never seem to choose the "stop" option....:D

I know the option is there...but it never wins in the decision making process.
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I'm with Friendly Guy...once I start, for whatever reason, I am going to finish, come hell or high water! I become a man on a mission, and the mission is jerking off!
 
Is it considered to be spontaneous if 1) you get off a lot and 2) if you do it every day?

Haha, sorry for the stupid question.
 
Yes dear, I think that is called "seduction" if I am not mistaken! Or being seduced! Either way, I go through it at this site alot myself! lol
 
I jerk off about a quarter of the time because I'm horny and about the other three-quarters of the time because I'm either bored at work or have the house to myself!
 
Well. . . .

My wife and I live apart due to career conflicts, so there are long stretches of time when self abuse is the best abuse! (or at least the ONLY abuse!) But I would say I'm about 80/20 on the spontaneous/planned ratio.
 
I'd say it's about 20/80 for me. But then again...my 20 might be like others 50. Who knows.
 
Interested_Girl said:
Is it considered to be spontaneous if 1) you get off a lot and 2) if you do it every day?

Haha, sorry for the stupid question.
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I know Im gping to be horny at some point every day.....I know Im not going to hold back.....so yeah good point. I dont know what time itll happen....so that part is spontaneous I guess...
 
Friendly_Guy said:
I know Im gping to be horny at some point every day.....I know Im not going to hold back.....so yeah good point. I dont know what time itll happen....so that part is spontaneous I guess...
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I know, right? Seriously. Need self love all the time.
 
Both

There is no contradiction -- sometimes spontaneous and sometimes pre-meditated.

All is good
 
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