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Old 02-09-2015, 08:54 AM   #1
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How do you deal with heartbreak?- The NRJ Chronicles

So...this morning I received a breakup text. She was going to come out for a few days this week but suddenly blindsided me with a "I need to break things off. Please don't write me back" text. I'm absolutely confused and devastated right now. I'm kind of amazed I'm about to go into work actually. Heh

But my question...how do you guys deal with heartbreak? What's happened to you in the past? How did you move past it?

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Old 02-09-2015, 09:10 AM   #2
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Old 02-09-2015, 09:18 AM   #3
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So...this morning I received a breakup text. She was going to come out for a few days this week but suddenly blindsided me with a "I need to break things off. Please don't write me back" text. I'm absolutely confused and devastated right now. I'm kind of amazed I'm about to go into work actually. Heh

But my question...how do you guys deal with heartbreak? What's happened to you in the past? How did you move past it?
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Old 02-09-2015, 09:31 AM   #4
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Dude. Sorry to hear. It sounds like it blindsided you, which I guess makes it worse (that's a debate for another day, I suppose).

The thing about heartbreak, it takes time. Maybe that's all it takes. But you want it to be over now.

It doesn't work that way, which is why this is so painful. As you begin to accept that this will take time, the forces at work remind you that its going to take longer than you wanted. This is another punch to the gut.

2 or 3 months from now, you'll have moved on with your life and the sun will be shining again. WHEN that happens, post it on here.

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Old 02-09-2015, 09:41 AM   #5
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So...this morning I received a breakup text. She was going to come out for a few days this week but suddenly blindsided me with a "I need to break things off. Please don't write me back" text. I'm absolutely confused and devastated right now. I'm kind of amazed I'm about to go into work actually. Heh

But my question...how do you guys deal with heartbreak? What's happened to you in the past? How did you move past it?
I remember a couple of big hearbreaks in my life, some to do with women, some to do with other things. In essence, the overall sense of despair and hopelessness is the same.

I don't think there is a quick fix, and I don't have a magic cure.

I remember when I ended things with my girlfriend of 5 years. Although I knew it was time to end it, the following days and weeks were awful. For the last 5 years in any situation that came up, I had her to talk to. Suddenly, I was distraught, and the one person I wanted to talk to it about, I couldn't. I felt lost and alone, but I was and still am, lucky to have a supportive family and friends who were awesome at keeping me busy etc..

I often listen to sad songs at time of heart ache. Some people criticise this, but I find the lyrics sometimes help me make sense of how I am feeling.

I went through all sorts of feelings towards her, anger, hatred, longing and then despair. Its all pretty natural.

Maybe in time she'll tell you why, or you may never know. You have to put your faith in time to heal, but it won't necessarily change the situation. Things hurt less, you learn to smile again, and you will find someone who is right for you.

I wish you the warmest luck possible, and hope that you can pick yourself up, brush yourself down and rememebr that one day, you will think of this as just a memory.

The picture is burned at the edge
And you're looking away
Looking for what's next
And strange how through time we look the same
Your eyes and mine looking away
Too scared to see human remains

And soon enough soon enough
This will all be a memory
And soon enough soon enough
This will fade like the photograph
Of you and me

Our history is just in our blood
And history like love is never enough
And I recognize so much of you
In these eyes always so blue
Why always so blue

And soon enough soon enough
This will all be a memory
And soon enough soon enough
This will fade like a photograph

Those things that I've lost and things that I've sold
This case is now closed the trail has gone cold
And your sticks all are snakes I throw them aside
They twist till they break but they never die
This is not enough this is not enough
This is not enough this is not enough for me
This is not enough this is not enough
This is not enough for any of us to be

The picture is burned at the edge
And you're looking away looking for what's next
Tell me what's next
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Old 02-09-2015, 09:44 AM   #6
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Old 02-09-2015, 09:46 AM   #7
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This has been a fav of mine. You got sucker punched & may never know the reason why. It happens. All you can really do is roll with it...

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Old 02-09-2015, 10:15 AM   #8
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distraction!
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Old 02-09-2015, 10:19 AM   #9
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distraction!
sorry, what was that?
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Old 02-09-2015, 11:36 AM   #10
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Old 02-09-2015, 11:39 AM   #11
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Sorry NRJ - I'd seen your posts about looking forward to this.

Marshall Tucker says it pretty good in their 'This Ol' Cowboy' Lyrics

Well I'm sittin' down in San Anton'
Waiting on an eight o'clock train
My woman left me here last night
Things ain't been quite the same
I gotta get back to Dallas
And tie up a few loose ends
I'm gonna work a week make a hundred dollars
and hit the road again

So I don't want you to think
That you're the first one
To leave me out here on my own
Cause this ain't gonna be the first time
This ol' cowboy spent the night alone

Now honey I've been a fool but a bigger fool
I can't remember when I've been
Just to open up my heart
And let you walk right in
Now there's one thing in this life
Ain't hard for me to do
That's as soon as I kiss the lips of another woman
I'm gonna forget all about you


So I don't want you to think
That you're the first one
To leave me out here on my own
No this ain't gonna be the first time
This ol' cowboy spent the night alone

If you wrote all the woman's names down I know
And let me pick one out
I don't think there'd be one in the whole bunch
Aw I'd give a hoot about
So I don't want you to think

That you're the first one
To leave this ol' boy out here on his own
Cause this ain't gonna be the first time
This ol' cowboy spent the night alone
No this ain't gonna be the first time
This ol' cowboy spent the night alone
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Old 02-09-2015, 11:41 AM   #12
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just pick a country song - somebody's always losing their girl, their man, their dog...

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Old 02-09-2015, 11:46 AM   #13
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Old 02-09-2015, 11:50 AM   #14
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Sorry for the shitty treatment nrj..

No offense... But treating this place as a dating site is a mistake...i said something similar recently and a guy on here gave me a really hard time about it... Then posted a sad story about being used by someone from here not long after.

Long distance relationships have got to be the most ridiculously hard ones to have. I know, because I've made the mistake. It's impossible to know anyone that you have not met face to face, and even further not having spent any significant time in each other's space.

From what I understand about where you live is that there are lots of women there... Get out and find one... You got game, use it.

BTW... If this is that chick from Canada.... You're not the first one she flaked on... Hopefully you're the last tho.
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Old 02-09-2015, 12:11 PM   #15
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I know it sounds cliche and everyone is going to say it but eventually the right woman whom you deserve will come along and truly make all this worth it.

Sometimes when you least expect it sunshine is brought upon dark places to shine light like you have never seen before.

You are an amazing friend. One who helped me laugh at times I forgot to. And you have an amazing heart with an awesome personality. YOU my dear sir will find some hip chick who will give you a run for your money and love you like no lady has ever loved you before.

Til then I will offer you boobiesquishin' hugs... Remember to text those you need when you need to talk you have friends who love ya bunches
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Old 02-09-2015, 12:22 PM   #16
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The thing is is that I've rarely used this place for actual DATING. And I'm careful. It's awesome making friends and all that, but this time I really thought was different so I let her in. And now...yeah. Here we are. It went from "This is awesome" to "dodged a bullet". I don't fault her for having things to figure out, just the way she handled me was pretty cruel.

Anyway, moving on...thanks everybody.
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Old 02-09-2015, 01:25 PM   #17
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Old 02-09-2015, 02:06 PM   #18
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I feel very sorry for you, NRJ.

Eat some chocolate.
Watch some porn.
Cook an elaborate meal just for you, with the most expensive ingredients you are able to buy. Then eat dry bread and drink plain water until your budget is alright again.
Buy a suit you'll never wear.
Buy shoes you'll never wear.
Have a few beers with a mate.
Watch a funny movie while eating chocolate.
Work out like never before.
Clean your garage.
Wash your car and polish it.
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Old 02-09-2015, 02:09 PM   #19
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I feel very sorry for you, NRJ.

Eat some chocolate.
Watch some porn.
Cook an elaborate meal just for you, with the most expensive ingredients you are able to buy. Then eat dry bread and drink plain water until your budget is alright again.
Buy a suit you'll never wear.
Buy shoes you'll never wear.
Have a few beers with a mate.
Watch a funny movie while eating chocolate.
Work out like never before.
Clean your garage.
Wash your car and polish it.
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Old 02-09-2015, 02:09 PM   #20
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HUGS for all hearts.. broken, mending and the lucky whole ones!
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Old 02-09-2015, 02:27 PM   #21
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Don't tell him, it will go to his head, but I agree with Slinger.

Texas is a great state to be single in.

Here is my list of things to do when I am feeling especially depressed/stressed in the Lone Star State...
1) Hit up a Taco Casa (must be an actual Taco Casa) and order the Nachos. It will be the best $6 you have spent I promise.
2) Go to Pete's. I personally like the one in FW. Drink and sing, loud.
3) Go to SA and hit up the Mexican restaurant on the river walk that has the 64 oz Margaritas.
4) Now that you are loose after your 2, since they limit them, margaritas, walk the river walk and compliment every woman you see, especially the ones not dressed like hoochies, the ones who maybe plain, or shy, jeans and a tee kind of girls.... those are the ones who have a tiger inside.
5) If you are in Houston, head to Galveston. There is nothing good in Houston.
6) If you are in Austin, do exactly the same thing you would do at the river walk but do it on 6th street. Go to a UT game, find a co-ed (and send me pictures).

Go out, don't stay in and HAVE fun. The best way to move on, move! Get up and GO. If you are sitting still, nothing will ever get better.
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Old 02-09-2015, 02:30 PM   #22
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I don't think we've ever connected or talked but I've seen you posting and always found you interesting and sexy

So hell yes you must have game...cos I'm not that easily interested in people I don't connect with

Best way to get over heartbreak? Get out, round up a bunch of friends and have fun.
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If you are sitting still, nothing will ever get better.
OMG. Best. Advice. EVER. I think I'm gonna have that tattooed on my forehead. Backward. So I see it every time I look in the mirror.
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what?
Ohhhhhhh you meant I need a distraction. I apologize I just got confused momentarily. My brain isn't working today. Sorry.

But your right I do need a distraction, don't I?
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Don't tell him, it will go to his head, but I agree with Slinger.

Texas is a great state to be single in.

Here is my list of things to do when I am feeling especially depressed/stressed in the Lone Star State...
1) Hit up a Taco Casa (must be an actual Taco Casa) and order the Nachos. It will be the best $6 you have spent I promise.
2) Go to Pete's. I personally like the one in FW. Drink and sing, loud.
3) Go to SA and hit up the Mexican restaurant on the river walk that has the 64 oz Margaritas.
4) Now that you are loose after your 2, since they limit them, margaritas, walk the river walk and compliment every woman you see, especially the ones not dressed like hoochies, the ones who maybe plain, or shy, jeans and a tee kind of girls.... those are the ones who have a tiger inside.
5) If you are in Houston, head to Galveston. There is nothing good in Houston.
6) If you are in Austin, do exactly the same thing you would do at the river walk but do it on 6th street. Go to a UT game, find a co-ed (and send me pictures).

Go out, don't stay in and HAVE fun. The best way to move on, move! Get up and GO. If you are sitting still, nothing will ever get better.
you're brilliant.

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OMG. Best. Advice. EVER. I think I'm gonna have that tattooed on my forehead. Backward. So I see it every time I look in the mirror.
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