Originally Posted by hikingman37
when I see a woman and wish I could be submissive with her, on my knees, licking her ass, letting her order me around, I wonder if she can tell by my unassertive demeanor. Any women shed some light on this?
Well I'm a man so I can only speak from observation of and experience with women.
She just thinks you're unassertive which won't get you far. You're a man, you'll have to open your mouth at some point and show interest. Learn how to talk to women, learn about seduction...THEN when she's yours you can role play and be the submissive one. Most women will go along with your kinks if they feel attraction to you.
Just remember, seduction is both an art and a science, and it takes practice and yes failure to master. If you accept that you will fail, you're ready to proceed!