Like Big Men?

Teddy_Bear1990 said:

I wanted to start a thread for people can discuss why some girls do or do not like big men, please ladies and gentlemen, post your thoughts on the subject

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chelleb said:

For one, as your username indicates, it's like having my very own teddy bear....all for me. As a child, having stuffed animals around comforted me....having my own live teddy bear. When I need to hold on to someone/something and be comforted there is no substitute for him.

Along the same lines...I'm a bbw, and having a man that's bigger than me makes me feel protected too. I want someone who's arms I can get wrapped up in, who can put his arms around me and make me feel like the most important person in the world to him. It might sound cliche, but that's how I feel.

I also want someone I can cling too when needed...someone that doesn't feel like I could snap him like a twig. I'm talking about literally hanging on and not letting go. Once you experience that, there's nothing else quite like it. I want someone I can snuggle up against when sleeping.....arms and legs draped over him....and not worry about smothering him.

I guess that's it in a nutshell, lol.

~Chelle

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Teddy_Bear1990 said:

thank you Chelle, I just always have found that any girl I've ever approached has always wanted a guy who is "Perfect" perfect body, perfect personality, perfect everything, I always feel like that guy that is going to be alone because of my body it seems like none of the girls where I live like big guys like me

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Teddy_Bear1990 said:

thank you Chelle, I just always have found that any girl I've ever approached has always wanted a guy who is "Perfect" perfect body, perfect personality, perfect everything, I always feel like that guy that is going to be alone because of my body it seems like none of the girls where I live like big guys like me

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chelleb said:

Perfect is in the eye of the beholder. However, I know how you feel, I used to feel the same way. Only when I decided I didn't care what other people thought and I was who I was, did it seem that more guys paid attention to me. It still isn't easy by any means...and there does seem to be a disparity between those that claim they like bbw and what you find in real life.

I've actually had more success meeting people online. I know it sounds crazy, but I have. The last one actually lives only a few towns over from me. I'm not making speculations, lol, I'm just taking it as it comes.

Good luck, you will find her out there!

~Chelle

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curvywetness said:

I didn't read any of the other replies, so I apologize if this sounds similar to any one else who posted.

I'm a BBW, and having a guy that is bigger than me makes me feel safe, protected. Also, I can steal his clothes to wear around the house. I also feel that I can let myself go sexually with him...as in not worry about how hard I ride him, etc. I feel like I won't break them. It also makes me feel much less self-conscious.

I just find that big men are so much more sexier and attractive to me. Most of them have confidence, humor, and are just a big teddy bear. I love cuddling with them as well. I love the belly, their ass, etc. More of them to love. Sadly I haven't found many big handsome men in the new town I moved in. I'm trying to get back into dating and not having much luck. I am trying the online dating thing as well, I think that might be better, who knows! Anyway, enough about me and my dating situation! I just love big men.

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strapon_tales said:

Oh, I know how that feels. No one's interested in the chunkier models, only slimline.

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Nevyn_Black said:

I can relate to this. I've been a bigger guy most of my life. I was 25 when I lost my virginity and had my first date. She was married and had ulterior motives.

Then I was 27 when I met my current GF who is 45. I've never really even been flirted with in RL. When I had the courage to ask girls out, there was always a lot of tension and discomfort. Not only did they say 'No' but it usually spelled the end of any comfortable interaction with them.

To be honest, women have even avoided being friends with me. I've become somewhat angry and bitter toward the opposite sex for these among many other reasons. Women can be so very destructive and cruel...

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subme01 said:

I teared up a little reading this thread. I like guys who are bigger than me, in height and solidity. Being a larger woman myself, I'm less self conscious with larger guys and like many of the other women on this thread, I love having someone who can make me feel physically protected. I've dated skinnier, smaller guys in the past and inevitably I've felt like a bit of a 'mum' to them. I guess it's just the way the physical dynamic works for me.

This morning I was at the checkout at the supermarket and idly reading the cover of one of the trash magazines that deal in c list celebrities. On the cover were 4 different weight stories. Apologies to nonBrits who don't regocnise the names.
1. Jordan's a size 6 and still doesn't think she's skinny enough
2. Posh has lost her baby weight but considering plastic surgery on saggy tummy
3. Claire from Steps says she won't ever diet again but may consider liposuction
4. This summer's beach body disasters

The media are responsible for so many of our hang ups and you know next week they'll be criticising the same people for being too skinny! Or one of the ones they celebrate for being 'curvy' one week will condemned as 'fat' the next. I'm learning to enjoy my body and treat it healthily and in a balanced way, but I deal with so many teenage girls in my job who cry if they're asked not to wear make up because they can't stand the sight of themselves without it. Makes me want to scream.
Sorry for going on, but that mag cover really got to me this morning. Rant over.

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123hot said:

You're not going on at all (though I'm about to ), it's nice to read that there are people who look beyond the size of a person. I hate those mags - everytime I see them they're full of rubbish as you describe but then luckily I'm a guy so I supposed I'm not meant to like them haha. Mind you, we have Men's Health with countless pictures of six packs or, err, Nuts......

Someone at work sent around one of those funny e-mails today. It was pictures of people in walmart and was basically a mickey-take/laugh in disgust, aimed at the way people look/dress in public. Having heard the whole office giggling away looking at it while I was busy, I was looking forward to a laugh. A bit disappointed to find that all but 2 of the 20+ pictures were big people. The same sorts of people who might treat me okay to my face and be seen to look past my size just let out their prejudice every now and then. For example a former manager of mine never commented on my size but every single time some other larger person (M or F) walked by she'd give them an almighty stare. She wouldn't know it, but I could just tell she had a problem with them simply because they're 'overweight'. Same with friends - spend all the time acting like it's not an issue but the number of times they'd refer to others in a derogatory manner for their size. Sometimes wonder if they even notice I'm there.....

It's a sad old life, but as Bachman-Turner Overdrive would say, 'we've just gotta keep on keeping on'

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123hot said:

. Same with friends - spend all the time acting like it's not an issue but the number of times they'd refer to others in a derogatory manner for their size. Sometimes wonder if they even notice I'm there.....

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