Stella_Omega
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I just found a wonderful article. it's kinda right in line with my current hobby horses that you all have been watching me ride lately...
it's difficult to choose any one quote from it, but here;
“What is it that makes dominant women uncomfortable with femdom? There are a lot of things. One of the biggest is the sexist attitude that is rampant in the BDSM community. It often seems like women have to remain ice queens, untarnished by actually having penile-vaginal intercourse with their male subs. However, if they want to they can become more male, and thus, more dominant by strapping on and becoming – duh duh duh – The Penetrator. This isn’t to say that there’s anything wrong with strapping on (I’m a fan myself), but a sex act does not a Dominant (or a submissive) make and we can’t just superimpose the male-female dichotomy onto Dominant-submissive and expect that to make anyone happy.”
The article talks about loving and adoring her male sub-- and saying so in public-- the devaluation of male subs, the devaluation of women in general (as women, as above).
go, read, and follow the links too, if you like.
http://delvingintodeviance.wordpress.com/2011/06/03/the-devaluation-of-male-submission/
Thoughts?
it's difficult to choose any one quote from it, but here;
“What is it that makes dominant women uncomfortable with femdom? There are a lot of things. One of the biggest is the sexist attitude that is rampant in the BDSM community. It often seems like women have to remain ice queens, untarnished by actually having penile-vaginal intercourse with their male subs. However, if they want to they can become more male, and thus, more dominant by strapping on and becoming – duh duh duh – The Penetrator. This isn’t to say that there’s anything wrong with strapping on (I’m a fan myself), but a sex act does not a Dominant (or a submissive) make and we can’t just superimpose the male-female dichotomy onto Dominant-submissive and expect that to make anyone happy.”
The article talks about loving and adoring her male sub-- and saying so in public-- the devaluation of male subs, the devaluation of women in general (as women, as above).
go, read, and follow the links too, if you like.
http://delvingintodeviance.wordpress.com/2011/06/03/the-devaluation-of-male-submission/
Thoughts?
I think that blog might have some good stuff for you. 
) just reminded me of the other end of the ugly stick; it isn't just women that get taken advantage of and treated like crap by the industry, but also the well-adjusted men that aren't all about the TnA and power fantasies that the likes of cape stories champion. It's all definitely a symptom of a much bigger problem.
