women and orgasms

Is it normal that I dont orgasm from penetration? ever, and I never have. My boyfriend is very willing to give me oral sex and do anything to give me an orgasm but it would be nice to have one while having sex with him. We have tried so many positions and while it feel amazing I just never seem to get there.

Very normal. From what I have heard, MOST women do not orgasm from penetration.

No stimulation is the main way I orgasm....not penetration

very normal as i see it

any clitoris or nipple stimulation while he's inside you? my ex wife loved using her vibrator on her clit during intercourse (me on top). she also really loved our vibrating nipple clamps. being inside her while she had orgasms was something else.

with her on top and me twisting, pinching and sucking her nipples, it didn't require as much afford as above, as she was able to grind out on my pubic bone into some intense orgasms

Totally normal.

I mean, I CAN orgasm with penetration, but only because he's got me all worked up with stimulating my clit before he does.

Yeah being penetrated does not usually prevent orgasm, it's just for many women not enough on its own so you have to supplement with fingers or a bullet vibe on your clit, or whatever you think would help get you over the edge.

Totally normal. The clitoris is basically a tiny penis we do not urinate out of. Since most men can only achieve orgasm from direct penile stimulation, it follows that clitoral stimulation is what a lot of women need in order to reach orgasm.

I don't have a great breadth of experience, having had one lover in my life so far, but my understanding is that it's quite normal to not orgasm solely from penetration. Something like 3 women in 4 fall into the category.

A potential tactic: whenever my ex got on top of me, the first thing I would do is go for her clit. It was somewhat difficult to actually have sex, or at least engage in thrusting, but that way she could cum whilst I was actually inside her. (By sheer coincidence, she was one of the few who can orgasm solely from penetration, at least if our experiences in missionary were any indication, but whenever I had access I would stimulate her clit anyhow. It just seemed the polite thing to do.)

As everyone's said, it's totally normal not to have earth-shattering orgasms purely through penetration.

However, I have only in recent years come to realise and identify the massive range of orgasms my body provides. G-spot orgasms are SO different to clitoral orgasms, for me.

Whilst a clitoral orgasm (to me) is like climbing a huge mountain and then sky-diving off the edge, with a massive burst of localised pleasure & heat, I'm finding g-spot orgasms are more like a gradual build-up, without the intense muscle-tension. I feel things swell and tingle, then all of a sudden my legs, arms and face all start tingling - like goose-bumps - with my nipples going solid. My vagina swells on the inside and my g-spot gets larger (the phyiscal 'proof', lol).

The g-spot orgasms are like pleasant shivers, again, to ME, which can be built on to become 'OMG!'.

It *could* be that you're like me, and you're not realising that those feelings of tingling etc ARE an orgasm. When you connect the two, it's much easier to work on cumming via penetration. And yes, adding some clitoris stimulation at the same time can be amazing!

Or, perhaps you just won't/can't ever cum through penetration. That's fair enough, lots of women don't. I never did, until I discovered what I've outlined above. I just thought it might be worth contributing my own experience in the matter!

HorneeLadee said:

Is it normal that I dont orgasm from penetration? ever, and I never have. My boyfriend is very willing to give me oral sex and do anything to give me an orgasm but it would be nice to have one while having sex with him. We have tried so many positions and while it feel amazing I just never seem to get there.

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i agree with everyone else...i don't know any women who cum solely from penetration every girl i've ever been with the best orgasms involved other forms of stimulation too...don't be afraid to do whatever you need to to get off...when my ex would rub her clit while I was inside...it felt really good to me too. ..the vibe idea while having sex was a great one.

Oh, definately not the only one! Penetration rarely leeds to orgasm. Though, it's not that bad not to orgasm from penetration. Most women can climax by their clit. Sometimes, it happens your man's organ to dive in so deep that could offer you an orgasm by hitting your G-spot but this requires training!

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I think I can count the number of times I have climaxed from vaginal stimulation only on one hand. However, a lover who is listening to you will rub your clit with his pelvis as he makes your insides feel good too. My first climax with a guy was from dry humping, so I knew what would make me feel good.

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According to some massive study / poll I think in the UK something like 73% of women said they NEVER orgasm during intercourse. Another few % said they did SOMETIMES but it wasn't an everytime event. Only a small % stated that they came each time although many of them mentioned a LOT of oral and then intercourse so ... the fuse was already lit, so to speak.

Biologically and anatomically the plumbing is just WRONG. the clit is too high and in most positions the erection is well below where it could stimulate the clit. Many women have never discovered any of the INTERNAL spots that CAN result in orgasm.

I started the TRY THIS thread for couples who wanted to explore and had not found the magic of the GSPOT prior to reading the thread. The "magic" is that the GSpot can be triggered over and over and over again whereas the clit becomes hyper sensitive in most women and ONE HUGE orgasm is often all that happens. G-Gasms on the other hand can go on for as long as your partner can move a limb - any limb. As long as they can insert a thumb YOU can keep coming. Certainly for me and a few others (600,000 reads so far) it has been a spectacular success - most of the time.

Other than the repeating orgasms the other thing that stimulating the GSpot does, according to many women / couples is hyper-activate the GSPOT area of the vag so that lubrication is better, the walls of the vagina are MUCH more sensitive and, because the GSpot "knows" what it feels like to be stimulated it is uch easier for the woman to twist or angle her pelvis so that his erection is boppin the area of the GSpot. Often this gets women orgasming during intercourse when it's never happened before.

So read the TRY THIS thread. If it works for you then COMBINE the thumb action with intercourse. Whatever you are doing though sex really is like an Olympic event. It is something that needs knowledge and practice and repetition and variation to reach a point where it works really really well. Too many couples think sex just happens and it should ALL work, work WELL and ALL the time. An ever increasing bag of "tricks" is what we all need to make the act a wonderful bonding but still exciting event all the time or at least most of the time.

G'luck.

Media creates the myth that the only mind blowing orgasms come from penetration and that it is important that the both of you cum together. Reality is each person is different with differing need. It is quite possible that you may not be able to reach orgasm through penetration or that in time you might be able to do this. The one thing I would recommend trying is maybe have sex in two sessions. First session is to bring your boyfriend to orgasm and then let him recover. After he recovers, in theory, he should last longer and him lasting longer might be enough for you to experience a vaginal orgasm from penetration.

I've come to orgasm many times from penetration, but we have to be in the exact right position (he sat on the couch or with his back against a headboard and I straddled him, doing all the work, pretty much just bouncing on his dick until I came). It's a much better orgasm for me but my day has to have been restful, it's a lot more work!