PM asshattery

[lilmischief]

Originally Posted by BuckyDuckman

A word from a "nice guy" who visited this thread out of writer curiosity....

How do I know I might be a nice guy? I have never PM a woman with a suggestive comment.

That said, have I wound up meeting some remarkably wonderful, vibrant, intelligent, sexy women online? You betcha.

How did I do it? (Guys trolling this thread, pay attention): I did it by being me. I didn't try to hit her up with some great line I heard somewhere. You want to know why? Because the woman I would want to be with wouldn't fall for ANY line I could possible give her.

As far as I know, I never once forced my desire to have sex on a woman. Why? (Again, guys, pay attention) Because I never wanted a woman who wanted me just for my dick. Guess what, most women who say they are that interested in your dick or equally (or more so) interested in your wallet, too. That's been my experience. Your mileage may vary, of course. Still, I've been with women who thought I had a nice sized dick and I've been with women who honestly revealed they had bigger. (For the record, I've never been told I have a small dick, thank you very much, and according to the scientific literature I've read, I'm average to slightly above average.) What I'm saying to any guys trolling this thread is this: She doesn't really care how much you're packing down there. Oh sure, there's a thrill to being a size queen and a "prize in the box of cereal" thrill to coming across a bigger than expected prick, but MOST women will tell there is a limit to how big and long they want. Here's the deal guys: she already KNOWS you want to have sex. Showing her the size of your dick or regaling her with how you have a tongue like a frog doesn't mean much to her. All guys at least SAY that, okay?

So, what's my "secret" with women? HA! As if I have one! Personally, I think I've just been lucky. I've had the pleasure to meet some remarkably wonderful, passionate women in my life who were real people with real interests. And sometimes that interest included getting to know me... and sometimes, getting to "know" me included sex, too.

So any guys trolling this thread - stop it. It's as effective as whistling at a hot woman from a construction site. Do you really think anyone ever got laid doing do that? I'm willing to say, in the history of men, it's never happened.

I get it. I know you're lonely. I know you've taken good care of yourself, you work out, you have a big dick and you're a nice guy. I realize you're willing to be any kind of guy a woman wants you to be if only she'll tell you how to be. But guys? Here's the deal: she doesn't want that kind of guy. That's NOT who's going to end up between her legs. It's going to be the guy who is GENUINELY interested in her and who GENUINELY is interesting to be with.

Who's getting laid tonight? It's going to be a guy like me. An average looking guy with an average sized dick who doesn't care if he gets laid tonight or not. I don't have a fancy line to lay on the ladies. I'm not other there (or here) trolling. I'm just busy being me and looking for someone else who might like me for being just that... me. And when we hook-up, we're going to have a LOT of fun because we like each other.

Okay... that said... my PM's are turned on. (And if that didn't make you pee yourself a bit with laughter, you weren't paying attention to this thread!)

Such a great perspective and so very true!

[Aurantica]

Originally Posted by MsQuote

Wow. Not that I'd be truly threatened by a PM, but that guy is scary.

I hope you reported him.

No one deserves to be PM'ed like that.

Turns out he did write back. Our conversation follows.


Him: And why dont you have the patience to assume that it was perhaps a typo rather then wrong spelling??

Him again, minutes later: As a sub, you need to understand your role

Me: Look bucko, just because it says submissive on my profile does NOT mean I will be submissive to any ill-behaved dimwit with an account. You have acted very childishly and have proven yourself to NOT be the kind of man I am looking for. Please do not contact me in the future.

[JoyDyan]

Originally Posted by lilmischief

Such a great perspective and so very true!

Love it!

[MsQuote]

Asshat: Ms Quote, allow me to introduce myself. I am Mr. Xxx.

(I didn't respond. )

(Eight hours later ...)

Asshat: So, you're mentally challenged and enjoy it?

Gee, to pass up a guy so special that he doesn't feel the need to give me a compelling reason why I should engage in an online conversation with him, I suppose I am mentally challenged.

I don't get why some men think that women are supposed to immediately respond (or respond at all) to their (on-demand) requests to be paid attention ... especially those who are conversationally challenged. Don't they know we get messages like these all the time? And why do they get pissed off and rude when we don't respond? As if that's going to compel me to get back to them and pry and search of a reason for why they wanted to talk to me in the first place?

[charming_monk]

Originally Posted by MsQuote

Asshat: Ms Quote, allow me to introduce myself. I am Mr. Xxx.

(I didn't respond. )

(Eight hours later ...)

Asshat: So, you're mentally challenged and enjoy it?

Gee, to pass up a guy so special that he doesn't feel the need to give me a compelling reason why I should engage in an online conversation with him, I suppose I am mentally challenged.

I don't get why some men think that women are supposed to immediately respond (or respond at all) to their (on-demand) requests to be paid attention ... especially those who are conversationally challenged. Don't they know we get messages like these all the time? And why do they get pissed off and rude when we don't respond? As if that's going to compel me to get back to them and pry and search of a reason for why they wanted to talk to me in the first place?

And yet ironically, men wouldnt like women who would reply to others pm as the woman responds to theirs. Silly creatures we are.
Although i do respect women who prefer to not dignify things with a response, a silence hurts much more to a male ego than a caustic reply. Its as painful as a metaphorical kick in the nuts.

[MsQuote]

Originally Posted by charming_monk

And yet ironically, men wouldnt like women who would reply to others pm as the woman responds to theirs. Silly creatures we are.
Although i do respect women who prefer to not dignify things with a response, a silence hurts much more to a male ego than a caustic reply. Its as painful as a metaphorical kick in the nuts.

If you've read some of the posts on this thread, one-line PM's that are very non-specific in starting a conversation are a dime a dozen. Women get these PM's ALL THE TIME. Assuming that the PM'er is sincere in starting a polite conversation (which is unlikely), it shows poor effort in approaching a woman and trying to get her attention.

Secondly, I'm not on Lit to entertain random bored and horny men. It's not my problem to solve. There's nothing on my profile that says, "I'm looking and available," or "I welcome private sex chats." There should be no expectation that I or any woman should respond.

Thirdly, most men who send out PM's like this assume that women on Lit are nothing more than free and on-demand porn bots. They don't understand that we are women -- mothers, sisters, aunts -- who happen enjoy sex and open enough to admit it. It doesn't mean we're sluts who don't require any sense of politeness, respect or dignity.

[photograph]

Originally Posted by MsQuote

If you've read some of the posts on this thread, one-line PM's that are very non-specific in starting a conversation are a dime a dozen. Women get these PM's ALL THE TIME. Assuming that the PM'er is sincere in starting a polite conversation (which is unlikely), it shows poor effort in approaching a woman and trying to get her attention.

Secondly, I'm not on Lit to entertain random bored and horny men. It's not my problem to solve. There's nothing on my profile that says, "I'm looking and available," or "I welcome private sex chats." There should be no expectation that I or any woman should respond.

Thirdly, most men who send out PM's like this assume that women on Lit are nothing more than free and on-demand porn bots. They don't understand that we are women -- mothers, sisters, aunts -- who happen enjoy sex and open enough to admit it. It doesn't mean we're sluts who don't require any sense of politeness, respect or dignity.

Very well said!

[Eilan]

Originally Posted by charming_monk

And yet ironically, men wouldnt like women who would reply to others pm as the woman responds to theirs. Silly creatures we are.
Although i do respect women who prefer to not dignify things with a response, a silence hurts much more to a male ego than a caustic reply. Its as painful as a metaphorical kick in the nuts.

Don't send unsolicited PMs and you won't have to deal with the pain of rejection.

And what MsQuote said.

[charming_monk]

Originally Posted by MsQuote

If you've read some of the posts on this thread, one-line PM's that are very non-specific in starting a conversation are a dime a dozen. Women get these PM's ALL THE TIME. Assuming that the PM'er is sincere in starting a polite conversation (which is unlikely), it shows poor effort in approaching a woman and trying to get her attention.

Secondly, I'm not on Lit to entertain random bored and horny men. It's not my problem to solve. There's nothing on my profile that says, "I'm looking and available," or "I welcome private sex chats." There should be no expectation that I or any woman should respond.

Thirdly, most men who send out PM's like this assume that women on Lit are nothing more than free and on-demand porn bots. They don't understand that we are women -- mothers, sisters, aunts -- who happen enjoy sex and open enough to admit it. It doesn't mean we're sluts who don't require any sense of politeness, respect or dignity.

I agree, heck, i wouldnt dignify a one liner pm with a response, it just shows lack of effort on part of the sender and it pisses me of, its is real life equivalent of replying to someone with nothing but monotonic yes's and noes.

Also i agree, like any interaction, it should be beneficial to both parties, the expectation that i could extract as much pleasure from you without bothering about your needs is absurd and obnoxious and yet sadly prevalent. But i guess there is nothing we can do about it other than ignoring and if needed banning the sender of such pm's.

As far as a woman's freedom to express her sexuality goes, its free world and no one should be judged for what they do, i frankly do not understand the use of the world "slut" at all, if sexual expression is so wrong, it should be used for both genders and if trading sex of money and/or other things is wrong, why does that profession exist in the first place. Its just that we as a society like to live in our own world of superiority and need barriers that keep us feeling better than others.

Well, in short, i cant agree more with you. The point is, i dont see a better way to discourage such behavior than to not dignify such messages with a response, atleast not online. One persons vice is others fantasy, these people usually are mass messagers, sending out feelers to random people expecting a lucky reply and usually not reply takes care of it.

[JoyDyan]

Originally Posted by MsQuote

If you've read some of the posts on this thread, one-line PM's that are very non-specific in starting a conversation are a dime a dozen. Women get these PM's ALL THE TIME. Assuming that the PM'er is sincere in starting a polite conversation (which is unlikely), it shows poor effort in approaching a woman and trying to get her attention.

Secondly, I'm not on Lit to entertain random bored and horny men. It's not my problem to solve. There's nothing on my profile that says, "I'm looking and available," or "I welcome private sex chats." There should be no expectation that I or any woman should respond.

Thirdly, most men who send out PM's like this assume that women on Lit are nothing more than free and on-demand porn bots. They don't understand that we are women -- mothers, sisters, aunts -- who happen enjoy sex and open enough to admit it. It doesn't mean we're sluts who don't require any sense of politeness, respect or dignity.

What she said.

Word, MsQuote.

[lilmischief]

Originally Posted by MsQuote

If you've read some of the posts on this thread, one-line PM's that are very non-specific in starting a conversation are a dime a dozen. Women get these PM's ALL THE TIME. Assuming that the PM'er is sincere in starting a polite conversation (which is unlikely), it shows poor effort in approaching a woman and trying to get her attention.

Secondly, I'm not on Lit to entertain random bored and horny men. It's not my problem to solve. There's nothing on my profile that says, "I'm looking and available," or "I welcome private sex chats." There should be no expectation that I or any woman should respond.

Thirdly, most men who send out PM's like this assume that women on Lit are nothing more than free and on-demand porn bots. They don't understand that we are women -- mothers, sisters, aunts -- who happen enjoy sex and open enough to admit it. It doesn't mean we're sluts who don't require any sense of politeness, respect or dignity.

Well put MsQuote

[Cipher]

Originally Posted by MsQuote

If you've read some of the posts on this thread, one-line PM's that are very non-specific in starting a conversation are a dime a dozen. Women get these PM's ALL THE TIME. Assuming that the PM'er is sincere in starting a polite conversation (which is unlikely), it shows poor effort in approaching a woman and trying to get her attention.

Secondly, I'm not on Lit to entertain random bored and horny men. It's not my problem to solve. There's nothing on my profile that says, "I'm looking and available," or "I welcome private sex chats." There should be no expectation that I or any woman should respond.

Thirdly, most men who send out PM's like this assume that women on Lit are nothing more than free and on-demand porn bots. They don't understand that we are women -- mothers, sisters, aunts -- who happen enjoy sex and open enough to admit it. It doesn't mean we're sluts who don't require any sense of politeness, respect or dignity.

Tell it sister!!!

[kittykatx]

I hope the sexy story made your nipples hard and your bottom a little moist sweet lady......omg i almost died laughing at that part!!!

[OTCurve]

Originally Posted by Sweetdaisymae

you read it? all of it?....wow! I didn't get past the first couple of lines before the urge to evacuate my bowels became overwhelming.
I stand in awe

Funny, after the first few lines I started to see government forms...wait, never mind...not as different as I first thought.

[OTCurve]

Originally Posted by MsQuote

If you've read some of the posts on this thread, one-line PM's that are very non-specific in starting a conversation are a dime a dozen. Women get these PM's ALL THE TIME. Assuming that the PM'er is sincere in starting a polite conversation (which is unlikely), it shows poor effort in approaching a woman and trying to get her attention.

Secondly, I'm not on Lit to entertain random bored and horny men. It's not my problem to solve. There's nothing on my profile that says, "I'm looking and available," or "I welcome private sex chats." There should be no expectation that I or any woman should respond.

Thirdly, most men who send out PM's like this assume that women on Lit are nothing more than free and on-demand porn bots. They don't understand that we are women -- mothers, sisters, aunts -- who happen enjoy sex and open enough to admit it. It doesn't mean we're sluts who don't require any sense of politeness, respect or dignity.

Beautifully stated, MsQuote. <quiet applause>

[Sweetdaisymae]

Asshat "wanna see my cock?"
Me "nope"

Can't say fairer than that!

[xBuxombabex]

Today's offering: Hi Have such a hard on for my girlfriends older sister at the moment her name is sylvia.

I'm so tempted to reply 'I know her, she loathes you'

[Cipher]

Originally Posted by xBuxombabex

Today's offering: Hi Have such a hard on for my girlfriends older sister at the moment her name is sylvia.

I'm so tempted to reply 'I know her, she loathes you'

LMAO!

I like your reply idea LoL

Or saying this :

Well since i don't care about your hard on, maybe your girlfriends sister might-Good Luck Assclown


LoL

[JoyDyan]

Originally Posted by xBuxombabex

Today's offering: Hi Have such a hard on for my girlfriends older sister at the moment her name is sylvia.

I'm so tempted to reply 'I know her, she loathes you'

I love it! Because telling me how hot you are for someone else is going to get me going.....sheesh!

[Saucyminx]

Originally Posted by Sweetdaisymae

Asshat "wanna see my cock?"
Me "nope"

Can't say fairer than that!

Could also go with the classic, "Wait just a second. . . I must find my magnifying glass. "

[photograph]

Originally Posted by xBuxombabex

Today's offering: Hi Have such a hard on for my girlfriends older sister at the moment her name is sylvia.

I'm so tempted to reply 'I know her, she loathes you'

See, I would have responded with something like "Oh really? Go jack off with a handful of rusty razor blades." You are much more diplomatic than I.

[OTCurve]

Originally Posted by xBuxombabex

Today's offering: Hi Have such a hard on for my girlfriends older sister at the moment her name is sylvia.

I'm so tempted to reply 'I know her, she loathes you'

Or with, "Her older sister..oh yes I know Fred...um, Sylvia well."

[imemkay]

Originally Posted by Saucyminx

Could also go with the classic, "Wait just a second. . . I must find my magnifying glass. "

I tried this reply tonight. Asshat's response: "too funny "

I give up!

[silverwhisper]

why not a nice & simple, "i don't fucking care, fuck off"?

when you come right down to it, you don't know if the asshat is big into humiliation. so don't feed it, i say.

ed

[BeachMomma]

Originally Posted by Saucyminx

Could also go with the classic, "Wait just a second. . . I must find my magnifying glass. "

Magnifying glass is SOOOOO pre-internet! These days, you need a microscope.