PM asshattery

[BeachMomma]

While I definitely agree that some people are just asshats, I tend to believe that most people hiding behind an anonymous screen name and monitor probably take advantage of the anonymity to engage in poor manners that would get their asses kicked at home. I'd bet money that they'd never EVER consider speaking to their wives the way they speak to the ladies of Lit. I'll even go a bit farther and say that I bet they're pussy-whipped to the nth degree - and take their frustrations and secret desires out on the women of Lit - or wherever else they tend to hide online.

[MsQuote]

Originally Posted by BeachMomma

While I definitely agree that some people are just asshats, I tend to believe that most people hiding behind an anonymous screen name and monitor probably take advantage of the anonymity to engage in poor manners that would get their asses kicked at home. I'd bet money that they'd never EVER consider speaking to their wives the way they speak to the ladies of Lit. I'll even go a bit farther and say that I bet they're pussy-whipped to the nth degree - and take their frustrations and secret desires out on the women of Lit - or wherever else they tend to hide online.

I suspect a lot of these men don't want their wives to be sexually evolved in any way. They probably want their wives to be the wholesome mom types ... the types that are involved in the PTA and cook the holiday dinners for their extended families. Then they complain that their wives don't want indulge in their kinks and fetishes are. Some (like my ex-live-in boyfriend) don't even think of sharing their fantasies with their significant others.

I'm extremely lucky that I have a special man in my life with whom I share a very open line of communication about everything ... and not just sex. There are some kinks I have an interest in that he doesn't, but it's OK. They're not deal breakers. I wouldn't want him any other way.

[satindesire]

Originally Posted by silverwhisper

why satindesire, sure you aren't advocating people own their behavior and comportment like rational adults?!

ed

How dare I?!

[BeachMomma]

Originally Posted by MsQuote

I suspect a lot of these men don't want their wives to be sexually evolved in any way. They probably want their wives to be the wholesome mom types ... the types that are involved in the PTA and cook the holiday dinners for their extended families. Then they complain that their wives don't want indulge in their kinks and fetishes are. Some (like my ex-live-in boyfriend) don't even think of sharing their fantasies with their significant others.

I'm extremely lucky that I have a special man in my life with whom I share a very open line of communication about everything ... and not just sex. There are some kinks I have an interest in that he doesn't, but it's OK. They're not deal breakers. I wouldn't want him any other way.

The old "you marry a lady, but you sleep with a tramp" double standard? You could be right. If so, they deserve the hell that they've found themselves in. They created it.

How many men do you know who would dare say the things these asshats say to you in real life? I'm personally very easy-going, a big joker, and an even bigger flirt. My male friends know I won't take offense at anything they say. They STILL won't say things that obnoxious to me. I've had a few who have taken flirting to a level that's either obnoxious or downright creepy, but even those men have a certain line they won't cross. I can't help but think the men who write these degrading PMs are spineless, ball-less pigs. They're depending on the anonymity of the internet to give them a pair that they don't have in real life.

It's really kind of sad. It's almost like a virtual Viagra. Instead of getting a hard on, however, they think they're making themselves into a real man. Nothing could be farther from the truth. They're showing themselves for the emotional eunuchs that they really are.

We've been saying it consistently through this thread, so they won't listen to this now either. I'll try anyway. Asshats, I mean men, if you want to pick up a woman on Literotica? I have a hint for you; it works much the same way here that it does in real life. Let her get to know you first. When she shows interest in taking your virtual relationship to the next level, make love to her mind first, then her virtual body will follow. Show respect at all times - even when talking dirty. But for God's sake, let her make the first sexual move. If she's interested at all, she'll show you. Women, even on the internet, respond much better to genuine interest in her as a whole person. We rarely respond well to being treated like a common prostitute. On the other hand, if you're trying to piss us off or give us a reason to make fun of you, keep doing what you're doing. It works. It won't get you cyber-laid, but it'll amuse the hell out of us to verbally cut off your balls with a rusty butter knife and force-feed them to you.

[Ashley761]

Originally Posted by BeachMomma

We've been saying it consistently through this thread, so they won't listen to this now either. I'll try anyway. Asshats, I mean men, if you want to pick up a woman on Literotica? I have a hint for you; it works much the same way here that it does in real life. Let her get to know you first. When she shows interest in taking your virtual relationship to the next level, make love to her mind first, then her virtual body will follow. Show respect at all times - even when talking dirty. But for God's sake, let her make the first sexual move. If she's interested at all, she'll show you. Women, even on the internet, respond much better to genuine interest in her as a whole person. We rarely respond well to being treated like a common prostitute. On the other hand, if you're trying to piss us off or give us a reason to make fun of you, keep doing what you're doing. It works. It won't get you cyber-laid, but it'll amuse the hell out of us to verbally cut off your balls with a rusty butter knife and force-feed them to you.

Too bad we can't make this a sticky on every thread!

[Sweetdaisymae]

Stands up and applauds!!!
WTG BeachMomma!! You are spot on.

[Cipher]

Originally Posted by Sweetdaisymae

Stands up and applauds!!!
WTG BeachMomma!! You are spot on.

Yep, what daisy said! Spot on.

[Porkwarrior]

Originally Posted by BeachMomma

It won't get you cyber-laid, but it'll amuse the hell out of us to verbally cut off your balls with a rusty butter knife and force-feed them to you.

Is it wrong that I got turned on a bit reading that?

Okay as a horny male and relative Litster noob I am going to wade in and defend my gender as a whole before my E-Viagra buzz wears off...
I blame a stunted sexual adolescence on Internet douchebaggery...men (well most men) are taught when they are still boys that women are in charge of all things sexual in a relationship. They call the shots, and generally there is an undertone of "nice girls don't".
When they finally grow up a bit, and learn or see a woman that is in command of her sexuality, and actually flaunts it, revels in it, in appropriate places at appropriate times, their poor little heads explode and some just do silly things in the mistaken belief that some women's interest in some sex means they just love ALL sex...and well they do their best to replicate a dog so excited he just starts chasing his own tail.

Merry Christmas everyone!



But ofcourse there are some men that just never really grow up, they are just kids that hair over.
(runs away before Momma can find her "special" knife in the cutlery drawer!)

[BeachMomma]

Originally Posted by Porkwarrior

Is it wrong that I got turned on a bit reading that?

Okay as a horny male and relative Litster noob I am going to wade in and defend my gender as a whole before my E-Viagra buzz wears off...
I blame a stunted sexual adolescence on Internet douchebaggery...men (well most men) are taught when they are still boys that women are in charge of all things sexual in a relationship. They call the shots, and generally there is an undertone of "nice girls don't".
When they finally grow up a bit, and learn or see a woman that is in command of her sexuality, and actually flaunts it, revels in it, in appropriate places at appropriate times, their poor little heads explode and some just do silly things in the mistaken belief that some women's interest in some sex means they just love ALL sex...and well they do their best to replicate a dog so excited he just starts chasing his own tail.

Merry Christmas everyone!



But ofcourse there are some men that just never really grow up, they are just kids that hair over.
(runs away before Momma can find her "special" knife in the cutlery drawer!)

Wrong? Maybe. Disturbing? Definately. Will it earn you a date with my rusty knife? Nah. You have to work a lot harder than that. LOL

Welcome to Lit. You'll find that there are a lot of good people here. Yes, it's an erotic site, and that's what drew most of us here. The forum is a little different from the main site though. For that matter, the sub-forums all have a different flavor. As a general rule, it's a friendly place with lots of banter. We're just more open to talking about anything sexual. As long as you're respectful, everybody will also treat you with respect. If someone wants to act like a jerk, well, let's just say that some of the ladies and gentlemen here aren't afraid to call them out on it.

A lot of the ladies of Lit are a little bit more mature - 30s, 40s, and even beyond. We're self-confident and secure in our sexuality. We know what we want, and we aren't afraid to ask for it, insist on it, and to go after it. By the same token, we know what we don't like as well, and we typically don't tolerate fools and asshats well. We want to be treated with the same respect that we would insist upon in real life.

When men learn that women aren't just body parts, that we have a mind and a heart and soul, and treat us as a whole person instead of just a breathing, walking sex doll, we're actually quite pleasant to be around. In the meantime, we have this thread to call them out on their bad behavior.

Merry Christmas and thanks for your input.

[Killjoy24]

Well said BeachMomma!

[deehere]

Originally Posted by BeachMomma

While I definitely agree that some people are just asshats, I tend to believe that most people hiding behind an anonymous screen name and monitor probably take advantage of the anonymity to engage in poor manners that would get their asses kicked at home. I'd bet money that they'd never EVER consider speaking to their wives the way they speak to the ladies of Lit. I'll even go a bit farther and say that I bet they're pussy-whipped to the nth degree - and take their frustrations and secret desires out on the women of Lit - or wherever else they tend to hide online.

You hit the nail on the head for sure.. Those asshats ruin it for the majority of the men who are decent here.

[Cipher]

Originally Posted by deehere

You hit the nail on the head for sure.. Those asshats ruin it for the majority of the men who are decent here.

Exactly, and there are decent ones on here for sure.

Stupid asshats

[Eilan]

Originally Posted by Porkwarrior

Okay as a horny male and relative Litster noob I am going to wade in and defend my gender as a whole before my E-Viagra buzz wears off...

I get what you're saying, but how about this: Instead of defending men to the ladies, why not publicly call out men when you see them being asshats?

[AngelicaPink]

Got this one just now.

Originally Posted by ...

I hv a fantasy to make love a woman while her man watches us.. he then joins us to give his wife the pleasure of being loved by 2 men.. 2 tongues 2 pair of lips and hands caressing her... and ofcourse to mention.. 2 dicks... does it turn u on?

I am [x years old] male single from [let's say somewhere in Asia]... can we chat and know each other?

Sure, 'cause I want to hear about your threesome/cuckold fantasy first and get to know you second. Why do I think people are developing a taste for starting things backwards?

[Cipher]

Here's one i got at 207am-
Fr: Douchebag #2,525 (lol)


Douche:
Nice prof. i luv latinaz. sexy j-lo pussy, those dark areas that circle your tits that make me want to rub my wet cock allover i'm so horny for some latin pussy! can i ask what race of mexican are you?


Me:
It's "Latinas". J-lo pussy? You've seen hers? Impressive!

Those dark circles are called "Areolas" FYI!

Apparently you don't register what you read. Rubbing anything on or over me without me tasking you is a no no.

Some kind of Mexican? There's more than one kind? Wow!

Hey, you're one of them "special" kind of dumbasses aren't you?


I hate when they never reply to my questions..

[AngelicaPink]

In his defense, however, at 2:07 a.m., drunken brains have a hard time working...

Okay, no, no Christmas Spirit for this one. :P

[BeachMomma]

It doesn't matter what time it is. The human body has a set volume of blood supply. Men have enough blood for their brains or their penis but not enough for both. If all the blood is in their penis, there's none left to supply the brain.

[Killjoy24]

Originally Posted by BeachMomma

While I definitely agree that some people are just asshats, I tend to believe that most people hiding behind an anonymous screen name and monitor probably take advantage of the anonymity to engage in poor manners that would get their asses kicked at home. I'd bet money that they'd never EVER consider speaking to their wives the way they speak to the ladies of Lit. I'll even go a bit farther and say that I bet they're pussy-whipped to the nth degree - and take their frustrations and secret desires out on the women of Lit - or wherever else they tend to hide online.

I absolutely love you're point of view! Just had another one tell me that I have a mans ass! How many men have an ass like mine? (see my AV). Geez!

[IcariusInHiding]

Originally Posted by Killjoy24

I absolutely love you're point of view! Just had another one tell me that I have a mans ass! How many men have an ass like mine? (see my AV). Geez!

Just out of interest, how exactly would I go about getting an ass like yours? I feel like it would bring extra traffic to my pic thread, at least.

But yeah, totally agree with BeachMomma. It's a bit depressing the amount of misogyny and aggression the women on Lit have to put up with. :/

[Killjoy24]

Originally Posted by IcariusInHiding

Just out of interest, how exactly would I go about getting an ass like yours? I feel like it would bring extra traffic to my pic thread, at least.

But yeah, totally agree with BeachMomma. It's a bit depressing the amount of misogyny and aggression the women on Lit have to put up with. :/

Work and workout at a gym almost everyday and eat right! Not bad for a 34 year old ass is it?

[IcariusInHiding]

Originally Posted by Killjoy24

Work and workout at a gym almost everyday and eat right! Not bad for a 34 year old ass is it?

Wow, not bad at all! Congratulations, I think you might be perfect.

i have a thing for women in their 30's

[mdbigdee]

I publicly apologize to you,saucyminx. I am an aspiring writer who is looking for feedback on my writing style and content. In retrospect I should have introduced myself first before sending you a sample of my writing. I do not make it a habit of sending unwanted PMs to those who wish not to receive them. Again,I am sorry.

[Killjoy24]

That kind of respect is rare around here. Merry Christmas to all!

[MsQuote]

I thought this newbie was trying to be polite, but I didn't want him to get eaten by the wolves.

Originally Posted by MsQuote

I see that you're new to this site but I have to warn you that a lot of women aren't into "erotic exchanges." If you don't see any indication that a woman is into stuff like that, don't bother PM'ing them no matter how polite you are about it. Most women get hit up on a pretty regular basis, and from what I hear they use the "Delete" button pretty frequently.

If that's what you're into, try starting a rapport on the message boards before taking conversations privately. The role playing message board might be a good place to start if that's what you're looking for.

Good luck!

[Killjoy24]

Originally Posted by MsQuote

I thought this newbie was trying to be polite, but I didn't want him to get eaten by the wolves.

That was nice of you!
There really are some nice guys on here and they should be commended. As for the Asshats, they should take a lesson on respect and consideration.

Guys, some of us are here for companionship - we don't just come here to get "Virtually Laid". Talk to us as if you are looking at us in real-world and you will have a better chance.
Would you just walk up to a woman and ask her if you could lick her ass?
I didn't think so. Don't do it here if you want a response!
(at least from my PM Box)!