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Old 10-10-2013, 04:48 PM   #1
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Isolated blurts about Sex etc

A thread for those random thoughts that crop up regarding sex, sexuality, the sexual aspects of gender identity and relationships, stuff like that. And I do hope-- sex. Genitals. Sticking it in, and what you stuck in there. The graphic shit. Sex adjacent can be anywhere all the time, after all...

Contradictions can be expected, sometimes in the same sentence. Start a new thread if you need to debate or flame okay?

Blurts! I meant blurts! damn lit and it's no-rewriting titles policy. Whyyyyy...
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Old 10-10-2013, 04:52 PM   #2
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I grew up with Playboy in the house. I looked at all of those pretty naked ladies-- I thought my genitals were unattractive because all those ladies had pretty, pink, discrete pussies that were hidden when they closed their legs. I know now that was because of the obscenity laws. But even later when Playboy started showing beaver, they only showed one kind-- a small clitoris, nice even inner lips, no dark skin around everything.

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Old 10-10-2013, 05:00 PM   #3
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Stella, in case you missed where we posted about this in another thread
http://www.greatwallofvagina.co.uk/home
There's a video where he talks about why he started this project in the first place. But there are so many, I can't find it at the moment.
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Old 10-10-2013, 06:22 PM   #4
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Since I've been on testosterone my clitoris has about tripled in size. And there are growing pains-- or pangs. I am experiencing a less-visible version of the teenaged boy's spontaneous boner in class.
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People get really uncomfortable when they find out that being long-distance isn't hard for me. Either I have no emotions, don't love him, am using him, or are cheating.

It's interested that I've gotten the cheating theory and he hasn't, what with "females" not being interested in sex, and all.
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I keep saying this, and I wonder if it even makes sense to anyone;

I am very happy that asexuality and demisexuality are considered legitimate things these days. But me? I'm sexually focussed, and I actually resent the surprised reactions I've been getting lately when I turn down play that will not respect my needs during the course of the action. It's not better than nothing, ladies. After a while it is the very definition of nothing.


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It's interested that I've gotten the cheating theory and he hasn't, what with "females" not being interested in sex, and all.
Women aren't interested in sex, unless it's cheating. Recieved wisdom and all.
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Old 10-12-2013, 08:59 AM   #8
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I keep saying this, and I wonder if it even makes sense to anyone;

I am very happy that asexuality and demisexuality are considered legitimate things these days. But me? I'm sexually focussed, and I actually resent the surprised reactions I've been getting lately when I turn down play that will not respect my needs during the course of the action. It's not better than nothing, ladies. After a while it is the very definition of nothing.

Makes perfect sense to me.

No one even has a chance of having their wants, wishes and desires fully attended too if they foolishly settle for less on all fronts vs pushing onward in their search for a better, more sexually compatible relationship dynamic.

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People get really uncomfortable when they find out that being long-distance isn't hard for me. Either I have no emotions, don't love him, am using him, or are cheating.

It's interested that I've gotten the cheating theory and he hasn't, what with "females" not being interested in sex, and all.
That is...

What if he cheats? 'Who can blame him', with you all being ok with long distance and everything?

Me and my guy have been living apart together for about 8 years before circumstances forced us to move in together. It was not the disaster I thought it would be, but I never disliked the long distance thing, even while he isn't an online kind of person. I always thought that we'd end up living in the same street, in different houses. Right now, we bought a house. But we have our own bedrooms. People are SO surprised at the separate bedrooms, already. Can't imagine what you'd hear all day. :/

In other news, these days I'm talking to a sassy 18yo genderqueer about kink. Kids these days, really, damn I feel old at 34, people! If I had known about either of those things at that age...
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Since I've been on testosterone my clitoris has about tripled in size. And there are growing pains-- or pangs. I am experiencing a less-visible version of the teenaged boy's spontaneous boner in class.
Oh, those were the days. Hmmm...maybe I should take a class and rekindle the magic?
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Oh, those were the days. Hmmm...maybe I should take a class and rekindle the magic?
Oh man, that last period of the day, when you were so tired of thinking and just wanted to shut your brain down...
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Oh man, that last period of the day, when you were so tired of thinking and just wanted to shut your brain down...
Or because walking into Algebra class felt like you'd just had a frontal lobotomy during the passing period. I remember very clearly my first auto-boner - second grade. Weirdest moment in my life up to that point. I excused myself to the rest room and some redheaded girl seated in front of me giggled fiercely as I walked past her, my distended slacks no doubt right at her eye level. Why is it always the redheads, anyway?
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That is...

What if he cheats? 'Who can blame him', with you all being ok with long distance and everything?
I had a teammate (who was a bit of a notorious cheat) look at me with total bafflement when she asked me "How do you know he's not cheating?" and I said "I don't. But I assume he isn't because that's what trust is about."

mind. BLOWN.
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In other news, these days I'm talking to a sassy 18yo genderqueer about kink. Kids these days, really, damn I feel old at 34, people! If I had known about either of those things at that age...
I feel that. Talking to people 15 years younger than me and thinking "what the hell do I have to show for all those years?"
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In other news, these days I'm talking to a sassy 18yo genderqueer about kink. Kids these days, really, damn I feel old at 34, people! If I had known about either of those things at that age...
I often think that I wish I knew about kink at a younger age and with the ease of the internet (well that what I desired and liked was ok) but then I also think of this John Waters quote I thank God I was raised Catholic, so sex will always be dirty. And I'm glad I'm still exploring "new to me" kink at 40.
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I had a teammate (who was a bit of a notorious cheat) look at me with total bafflement when she asked me "How do you know he's not cheating?" and I said "I don't. But I assume he isn't because that's what trust is about."

mind. BLOWN.
Hm! Unheard of! What is this 'trust' thing you talk of?

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I feel that. Talking to people 15 years younger than me and thinking "what the hell do I have to show for all those years?"
OWYAH. That. Exactly.

I mean, to quote Louis CK. When I grew up "nobody had THEIR phone. There was just 'the phone'. This thing, that was in a room in your house." Our phone had a rotor to dial, still. Really.

That was just to illustrate why on earth I was actually happy when I got an old stack of Penthouses and Playboys from a friend at my 18th birthday.

(My mom: 'Oh, uh, haha, ahem, I never thought those things would enter my house that way.')

Fast forward YEARS later, now, when gender finally started to make sense since I read Kate Bornsteins books two years ago, and me and my SO frequent local play parties, being all 'omg this is crazy that we can finally do this'.

This 18yo genderqueer, on the other hand, might not have had a whip anywhere in the general vicinity of their person yet, but has 100+ hours of queer porn on their laptop, and experienced D/s with a fellow trans kid on skype.

Like. Wow.

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I often think that I wish I knew about kink at a younger age and with the ease of the internet (well that what I desired and liked was ok) but then I also think of this John Waters quote I thank God I was raised Catholic, so sex will always be dirty. And I'm glad I'm still exploring "new to me" kink at 40.
Oh hm. That is actually a pretty good way to look at it. I'm gonna try that.

Speaking of which. I see a distinct difference between older and younger kinksters when it comes to fear of outing.

Face up on FL? Yeah: "I don't care if anyone knows I'm kinky."

Really? Am I paranoid or are they naive?
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I had a teammate (who was a bit of a notorious cheat) look at me with total bafflement when she asked me "How do you know he's not cheating?" and I said "I don't. But I assume he isn't because that's what trust is about."

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Yes, apparently trust is going through their phone and email records every week and not finding anything incriminating.
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That sounds very trusting...for a schizophrenic anyway
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Ok that was... a hot way to start this monday. Thankyou. Off to the bus stop now.
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Face up on FL? Yeah: "I don't care if anyone knows I'm kinky."

Really? Am I paranoid or are they naive?
My face is on Fet. but I don't post nudes (aside from an ass shot). I've had a couple people recognize me from there. So what, I'm kinky. It's when they confuse kinky with easy, that doesn't go over well.
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。・・(>_<)・・。

It was all for the purpose of education, of course.
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My face is on Fet. but I don't post nudes (aside from an ass shot). I've had a couple people recognize me from there. So what, I'm kinky. It's when they confuse kinky with easy, that doesn't go over well.
Agreed. Anyone who sees my face on fetlife just might see me being kinky in real life too.

BTW you, my dear are very recognisable, very glamorous. Quelle est belle!
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