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Old 05-20-2014, 10:32 AM   #1
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What makes str8 men bi/curious in their advanced years?

Is it a hormonal thing?
Or, what?

Never had a m2m experience, but in my old age I have an increasing urge to suck cock and swallow cum.

Thus far, I'm just at the "curious" stage; given the right circumstances, I'm sure I would suckcumb to my urges!
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Old 05-20-2014, 10:47 AM   #2
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I don't know - but I'm going through the same thing. If I wasn't happily married to a vanilla sex wife (and kids), I'd be experimenting.

So for now, I'm just into sneaking anal play for masturbation. I'm slowly trying to get her into anal play on me.
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Old 05-20-2014, 10:53 AM   #3
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From my point of view it's loosing hang ups .
I don't consider things bi or gay as long as it's good fun
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Old 05-20-2014, 12:56 PM   #4
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I agree its more about, whats fun and disregarding gender.
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Old 05-20-2014, 01:27 PM   #5
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Part of the answer for me has to do with seeking adventurous sex, and knowing that most men do not associate an adventurous sexual experience with a long term commitment. Most bi-men I have met are not looking for a LTR with another man. Separating sex from commitment at times can be very liberating.

The whole key to reconciling this need for sexual adventure with protecting the health of my female significant other is practicing safe sex. I have had several very satisfying experiences by simply using my hands to slowly (or quickly) get another man off. This sort of safe sex is nothing that I feel compelled to reveal to my somewhat conservative SO, any more than I would feel compelled to reveal my sexual thoughts at a business meeting.
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Old 05-20-2014, 01:35 PM   #6
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From my point of view it's loosing hang ups .
I don't consider things bi or gay as long as it's good fun

Have to agree its being secure with your sexuality. Knowing what you enjoy and that if the situation arises, you feel safe trying it out. I dont play around like I use to, but it doesn't mean i Dont dream of throbbing manhood and dripping cocks. wife knows and is ok but that's where i end it.
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Old 05-20-2014, 01:50 PM   #7
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With me anyway, I think it's a combination of

a. a long-term and currently sexually unexciting marriage,
b. the taboo of it makes it seem all the more exciting,
c. memories of playing with other boys as a youngster,
d. the ability to discuss it openly with others of a like mind here, and
e. readily available visuals of bi-sex on the internet.
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Old 05-20-2014, 01:57 PM   #8
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Excellent post, BendOver. But of course, you ARE the house MD, after all.
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Old 05-20-2014, 05:58 PM   #9
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I've reached middle age and there's the beginnings of regrets for things I haven't tried yet. I've done quite a bit with my life but there's a sense of look back at missed opportunities for new things. I'd also add that I'm much less hung up on societal mores and labels. We all have flaws, oddities, and unique things about us. I'm much less inclined to worry about the flaws or opinions of others and it's somewhat liberating.
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Old 05-21-2014, 04:00 AM   #10
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Its a good question. I didnt know any gay men. I enjoyed sucking cock....met up with guys on a phone chat line. Its funny how many men are bi! They wont admit it, but once i give them a toe curling blow job. Once a guy tries man to man sex, he will want more. I guess its more about taking that first step.
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Old 05-21-2014, 05:45 AM   #11
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From my point of view it's loosing hang ups .
I don't consider things bi or gay as long as it's good fun
totally agree!! wish everyone else felt the same way... :\
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Old 05-21-2014, 06:05 AM   #12
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From my point of view it's loosing hang ups .
I don't consider things bi or gay as long as it's good fun
I also agree with this .
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Old 05-21-2014, 08:51 AM   #13
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I gave it a try at 53, still married still love fucking my wife but every few months I go liking for a cock to suck and have mine sucked. It is very hot and feels real good
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Old 05-21-2014, 08:53 AM   #14
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Well, my wife hurt her foot 4 months ago and I haven't had sex in ages. At the moment I'd fuck absolutely anything.
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Old 05-21-2014, 09:11 AM   #15
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I am not sure what it is but i look at cocks more then pussy lately. I want to have a go at a male but it has to be the right one. So i will be patient and let the right time happen. Good day to all
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Old 05-21-2014, 09:56 AM   #16
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Is it a hormonal thing?
Or, what?

Never had a m2m experience, but in my old age I have an increasing urge to suck cock and swallow cum.

Thus far, I'm just at the "curious" stage; given the right circumstances, I'm sure I would suckcumb to my urges!
I wish I could at least understand 'why' we turn our attention towards cock as we age. I can probably assume that some of it has to do with our dwindling sex life at home. But that doesn't completely explain it either. If we, and I mean older men, are sex starved, why don't we look for another woman to have our fun with. Is it somewhere in our minds, that if we suck a cock or have sex with another man, it is not cheating on our wives. I am sure that there is no simple answer to the simple question of 'why?" It is a very complex issue. What intrigues me in addition to the 'why', is the amount of men that are here and expressing their desire to suck a cock, or in some other way engage in bi-sexual conduct. As I age (65 and counting) it has become one of my biggest fantasies to suck a cock.
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Old 05-21-2014, 01:27 PM   #17
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Good reply from BenDoverMD above. Still married, still enjoy the m/f romps, but definitely beyond the 'curious' stage with discreet m/m experiences (which did come at a later age). Why the urges then? I'll never know, but glad I acted.
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Old 05-21-2014, 07:57 PM   #18
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With me anyway, I think it's a combination of

a. a long-term and currently sexually unexciting marriage,
b. the taboo of it makes it seem all the more exciting,
c. memories of playing with other boys as a youngster,
d. the ability to discuss it openly with others of a like mind here, and
e. readily available visuals of bi-sex on the internet.
Kinsey found that among those interviewed a very large majority of males, and a smaller majority of females had experienced at least one same sex expereince. I buy the longing for a missed or misspent youth angle.

I have a feeling that if all the crappy, negative stuff were peeled away, all or almost all persons would be bisexual. We are all, after all, able to respond (physically) to the stimuli, if we don't let our brains get in the way.

If someone were sucking me from behind a curtain, I would not care what sex they were if they were good at it.
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Old 05-21-2014, 11:52 PM   #19
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I would think most men are hardwired for bisexuality. When we look at porn, there are big dicks and cum shots. We're always looking at dicks and buff men. As men get older they realize they have had plenty of experience with tits and ass and maybe people with the same equipment as you might be good at playing with your equipment. While I've never had same sex sex I'm fairly confident I could suck the chrome off a trailer hitch and take a cock balls deep in my ass and beg for more. I know what I like, I've watched my wife and girlfriends do it all my life...I think I could do it to.
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Old 05-22-2014, 12:35 PM   #20
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Now verses then

Let’s not overlook how much more acceptable it is now verses the way it was when most of us were growing up. All of this in the past was strictly backroom and in the closet. To venture out—even for experimentation—risked everything. I think many men hid their desires deep inside themselves for safety sake and didn’t even feel comfortable acknowledging that they had the desires as they established themselves as husbands and fathers and nurtured their careers. Now, with internet porn readily accessible and gay rights established firmly in our minds and society, the desires that were always there are beginning to seep up through the cracks and feelings and fantasies that we never allowed ourselves are making their way toward the front. Personally, I think we’ve all been bisexual all along, we just didn’t have the opportunity or a strong enough self-concept to handle indulging ourselves. We’re halfway there, anyway. We’re indulging our fantasies now more frequently. The next step—a huge step—is to indulge those fantasies. Not all of us will be able to handle the guilt and fear of it. It is difficult to truly face oneself, regardless of your age.
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Old 05-22-2014, 12:42 PM   #21
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Let’s not overlook how much more acceptable it is now verses the way it was when most of us were growing up. All of this in the past was strictly backroom and in the closet. To venture out—even for experimentation—risked everything. I think many men hid their desires deep inside themselves for safety sake and didn’t even feel comfortable acknowledging that they had the desires as they established themselves as husbands and fathers and nurtured their careers. Now, with internet porn readily accessible and gay rights established firmly in our minds and society, the desires that were always there are beginning to seep up through the cracks and feelings and fantasies that we never allowed ourselves are making their way toward the front. Personally, I think we’ve all been bisexual all along, we just didn’t have the opportunity or a strong enough self-concept to handle indulging ourselves. We’re halfway there, anyway. We’re indulging our fantasies now more frequently. The next step—a huge step—is to indulge those fantasies. Not all of us will be able to handle the guilt and fear of it. It is difficult to truly face oneself, regardless of your age.
I think all of that is true, but I also think that as we get older we sometimes desire to no longer be the ones who are supposed to be in control. We want to allow ourselves to surrender to our baser sexual instincts. And what is more basic than surrendering to another man and his cock?
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Old 05-22-2014, 12:47 PM   #22
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Might it not be because of the lower level of testosterone as we get older ?
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Old 05-22-2014, 02:18 PM   #23
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Let’s not overlook how much more acceptable it is now verses the way it was when most of us were growing up. All of this in the past was strictly backroom and in the closet. To venture out—even for experimentation—risked everything. I think many men hid their desires deep inside themselves for safety sake and didn’t even feel comfortable acknowledging that they had the desires as they established themselves as husbands and fathers and nurtured their careers. Now, with internet porn readily accessible and gay rights established firmly in our minds and society, the desires that were always there are beginning to seep up through the cracks and feelings and fantasies that we never allowed ourselves are making their way toward the front. Personally, I think we’ve all been bisexual all along, we just didn’t have the opportunity or a strong enough self-concept to handle indulging ourselves. We’re halfway there, anyway. We’re indulging our fantasies now more frequently. The next step—a huge step—is to indulge those fantasies. Not all of us will be able to handle the guilt and fear of it. It is difficult to truly face oneself, regardless of your age.
Very good post- I can relate big time to what everything that ConradBird stated!!
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Old 05-22-2014, 02:21 PM   #24
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Maybe you're bored, want to push previously held boundaries just for the experiencd and think wtf if I don't try now I will never know?
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Old 05-22-2014, 02:55 PM   #25
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With me anyway, I think it's a combination of

a. a long-term and currently sexually unexciting marriage,
b. the taboo of it makes it seem all the more exciting,
c. memories of playing with other boys as a youngster,
d. the ability to discuss it openly with others of a like mind here, and
e. readily available visuals of bi-sex on the internet.
I would have to agree with all of these!
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