Originally Posted by NickCarraway12
I'm in my mid-forties and I'm on HBP medication and I have a stressful job/life.
The past few times my wife and I tried to have sex, I go limp. I can get somewhat hard at first but it goes limp pretty quickly. I used to get raging erections that were pretty big, too, I could go for a long time and I was very energetic, but this isn't the case anymore.
For starters, see an MD and discuss it honestly and frankly. You are entitled to a satisfying sex life and there is no embarrassment in asking for medical help.
You didn't mention weight. Normal, slightly overweight, obese? Extra weight is bad for blood pressure and bad for sexual performance. If you're overweight, or less than fit, work on it. It will help the ED issue.
I'll be 60 next month and though I don't have high blood pressure, and have never had classical symptoms of ED or an erection problem to the point that it really interfered with sex, I knew that my erections weren't as hard as they once were or might lose some of their rigidity (off and on) during sex. In that regard, I got some help from the MD and only occasionally, when planning a very special night of sex, would take either Viagra or Cialis to ensure that I was "all that I could be". Of the two, I prefer Cialis.
I was also overweight though I carried it well and most folks would never guess I weighed what I did.
Several months ago I had an epiphany (to be truthful I got disgusted with myself) and decided that I was going to make positive lifestyle changes. I changed my diet and limited fat intake (except for carefully chosen sources of monounsaturated fat). I cut back on red meats, eliminated added sugar and sugar containing products, cut back on carbs in general, added a whole slew of vegetables, and practice sensible portion control in general.
I used to be a distance runner, which was my primary means of maintaining fitness, but a cervical spine injury and multi-level discectomy and fusion surgery ended that and started my fitness decline. I can, however, WALK and I'm currently walking at least five miles a day at a rapid pace and am doing weight and resistance training to the extent that my spine condition will allow.
The results? As of today around 45 pounds lost with about 20 to go to reach my target. Energy levels are up. Erections are rock hard, I feel like the Energizer Bunny, I can last like I am a young man again, and everything about sex is more satisfying. Sexual positions that had become difficult with extra weight around the gut, are now back in the playbook again.
A friend of mine always used to joke, "For every ten pounds you lose your dick gains an inch." Well, not quite that, but when you no longer have flab on your gut and in your mons area, you certainly make the best of what you have. The sexual benefits of improved cardiovascular health are obvious and, to be blunt, I'm horny all the time again.
Stress? Yes, I have stress and though I'm retired from a very stressful occupation I now have the stress of being the President of a non-profit which, as they say, is like herding cats. Fitness makes that easier to deal with as well.
I'm not intending to be preachy, just enthusiastic. If you're not fit, just get up and start moving. The benefits are fantastic.