Erectile Dysfunction/High Blood Pressure/Stress

[NickCarraway12]

I'm in my mid-forties and I'm on HBP medication and I have a stressful job/life.

The past few times my wife and I tried to have sex, I go limp. I can get somewhat hard at first but it goes limp pretty quickly. I used to get raging erections that were pretty big, too, I could go for a long time and I was very energetic, but this isn't the case anymore.

She's commented about it...telling me I'm smaller than usual or less interested. We end up doing manual stimulation but even then, I'm at partial hard at the most. Orgasm can happen but it's very dull.

She says that she understands but I know she's not satisfied.

Anyone deal with this? What did you do?

[KUJACK]

Originally Posted by NickCarraway12

I'm in my mid-forties and I'm on HBP medication and I have a stressful job/life.

The past few times my wife and I tried to have sex, I go limp. I can get somewhat hard at first but it goes limp pretty quickly. I used to get raging erections that were pretty big, too, I could go for a long time and I was very energetic, but this isn't the case anymore.

She's commented about it...telling me I'm smaller than usual or less interested. We end up doing manual stimulation but even then, I'm at partial hard at the most. Orgasm can happen but it's very dull.

She says that she understands but I know she's not satisfied.

Anyone deal with this? What did you do?

cialis or viagra

[HisArpy]

As men age we naturally get less vigorous. Around 40 seems to be the point in time for this. Your meds and the stress situation aren't helping either. My advice:

Talk to your doctor. He may change your BP meds or prescribe one of the blue pills for you. Have him check your T level while you're there. It's a simple blood test. Testosterone supplements are available in different forms and they do work if your T level is low to help you with your desire levels. Not so much for erectile issues, but for desire and interest they do help.

Reduce your stress level. It is not helping you and is endangering your health by making physical changes in your body AND messing with your head because of those changes. Whatever it takes, do it. Or increase your life insurance. Your choice.

Eat better and exercise. Talk to your doc before beginning an exercise program because of your BP. Stop drinking coffee. Period.

There are also herbal supplements and things like cock rings that can help.

[FGB]

Ask the Doctor for some samples of cialis or viagra...exorcise more.

[onehotwife4u]

Originally Posted by FGB

...exorcise more.

In church or in private?

[UnderMyKilt]

Originally Posted by NickCarraway12

I'm in my mid-forties and I'm on HBP medication and I have a stressful job/life.

The past few times my wife and I tried to have sex, I go limp. I can get somewhat hard at first but it goes limp pretty quickly. I used to get raging erections that were pretty big, too, I could go for a long time and I was very energetic, but this isn't the case anymore.

For starters, see an MD and discuss it honestly and frankly. You are entitled to a satisfying sex life and there is no embarrassment in asking for medical help.

You didn't mention weight. Normal, slightly overweight, obese? Extra weight is bad for blood pressure and bad for sexual performance. If you're overweight, or less than fit, work on it. It will help the ED issue.

I'll be 60 next month and though I don't have high blood pressure, and have never had classical symptoms of ED or an erection problem to the point that it really interfered with sex, I knew that my erections weren't as hard as they once were or might lose some of their rigidity (off and on) during sex. In that regard, I got some help from the MD and only occasionally, when planning a very special night of sex, would take either Viagra or Cialis to ensure that I was "all that I could be". Of the two, I prefer Cialis.

I was also overweight though I carried it well and most folks would never guess I weighed what I did.

Several months ago I had an epiphany (to be truthful I got disgusted with myself) and decided that I was going to make positive lifestyle changes. I changed my diet and limited fat intake (except for carefully chosen sources of monounsaturated fat). I cut back on red meats, eliminated added sugar and sugar containing products, cut back on carbs in general, added a whole slew of vegetables, and practice sensible portion control in general.

I used to be a distance runner, which was my primary means of maintaining fitness, but a cervical spine injury and multi-level discectomy and fusion surgery ended that and started my fitness decline. I can, however, WALK and I'm currently walking at least five miles a day at a rapid pace and am doing weight and resistance training to the extent that my spine condition will allow.

The results? As of today around 45 pounds lost with about 20 to go to reach my target. Energy levels are up. Erections are rock hard, I feel like the Energizer Bunny, I can last like I am a young man again, and everything about sex is more satisfying. Sexual positions that had become difficult with extra weight around the gut, are now back in the playbook again.

A friend of mine always used to joke, "For every ten pounds you lose your dick gains an inch." Well, not quite that, but when you no longer have flab on your gut and in your mons area, you certainly make the best of what you have. The sexual benefits of improved cardiovascular health are obvious and, to be blunt, I'm horny all the time again.

Stress? Yes, I have stress and though I'm retired from a very stressful occupation I now have the stress of being the President of a non-profit which, as they say, is like herding cats. Fitness makes that easier to deal with as well.

I'm not intending to be preachy, just enthusiastic. If you're not fit, just get up and start moving. The benefits are fantastic.

[PapaRomantic]

Make an appointment to see a urologist - this is one of their specialties. They will examine all aspects of your life, including blood tests for low testosterone among other things. They can look at your meds and make recommendations for changes. If they determine meds are the answer, they will look at your lifestyle and make the proper recommendation for you.

My family doctor drug her feet on treatment, so I self-referred. Smartest thing I have ever done, except for marrying my wife, who stayed with me when she wasn't getting sex. Now we're back at it like bunnies again, having more sex in the last three months than at any period in our lives, and that includes our first year of marriage!

Good luck!

[bone251]

EDI have a bad case of ED. My treatment is incredible. I use the injection-able meds from a compounding pharmacy. The I use a rubber o ring. I put the o ring around balls and penis. They are $1 or so at the hardware store. I am really big and use a 2" . Just buy every size between too small and too big. Put the balls in first then the penis. the ring stops the blood flow from leaving the penis on the top. You want flow to go through the bottom. The best prices are at a compounding pharmacy for ED meds. Many do not market to the Dr offices so getting info from the pharmacy may help the Dr. Go to a Urologist. They do ED like a factory. They will teach how to inject and prescribe the meds. My wife calls me a telephone pole. Pills can have side effects. With injection-ables you can choose to use a full dose for intercourse or a smaller one for a hand job.

[Hedonboii22]

Exercising would be beneficial in many ways. Help increase circulation in the body, decrease stress levels/stress hormones, increase testerone production and could help with your hbp
An herbal test booster can help a lot too, they aren't cheap for ones that are actually going to raise levels. Taking l-arginine for blood flow would be great