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Old 03-03-2015, 02:09 PM   #1
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I think my husbands BI.

I think my husbands bi. I found out a couple of years ago that he had slept with a man. He told me that it was drug induced and it was way before we got together. Now I can't quit thinking about it, or wanting to see it. I want to see him with another man. The thought of it makes me so wet. How do I ask/tell him that I think he's bi and that I would love to see it?
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Old 03-03-2015, 02:13 PM   #2
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just come out and ask him ill bet he will love it i know i would
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Old 03-03-2015, 02:16 PM   #3
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Let him catch you watching some guy/guy porn...or looking at pics. I bet he'd be curious enough to ask you in you like what you see
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Old 03-03-2015, 02:16 PM   #4
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Old 03-03-2015, 02:25 PM   #5
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I have left gay porn up on my tablet just to see. He has never said anything. That's why I think he likes it. I think I'll try harder on dropping the hints! Thanks for the support
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Old 03-03-2015, 03:58 PM   #6
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lol Then maybe reverse the situation and leave it up on your tablet...and ask him if it's something that interests him. Be encouraging...and Good luck!!
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Old 03-03-2015, 05:02 PM   #7
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I suggest the next time you are making love and he is inside you, put your hand on his face and one of your fingers near his mouth. If he doesn't start sucking your finger, put it in his mouth and say something like, "Wow, that's hot." If he responds positively, you can take it from there until you are comfortable suggesting a penis instead of your finger. Just an example, but the idea is to test what he responds to.
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Old 03-03-2015, 05:21 PM   #8
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Eh, coming from the virgin, this will sound weird, but... just tell him. If he is for it, go ahead full steam, but if he doesn't care for the idea, just leave it alone.
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Old 03-03-2015, 10:50 PM   #9
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Old 03-03-2015, 11:14 PM   #10
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...How do I ask/tell him that I think he's bi and that I would love to see it?
How many times have you and your husband discussed his prior M2M activities? Was he openly willing to discuss his prior activities or was he defensive?

Do you have any concrete indications that your husband currently has any interest in other men? If not, the single prior occurrence you mentioned may truly have been a one-time event or a curious point in his life at that time.

Are you wanting to be a spectator or are you wanting a MMF threesome? There are a whole set of differing dynamics, challenges, and exciting opportunities between the two.

None of us know the personal dynamics of your marriage. Hence, we cannot reasonably make suggestions on how you should approach this sensitive, and potentially explosive, subject with your husband.

Once you are sure you want to proceed, you might want to address your suspicions and desires incrementally. Since most of us guys are not great (or straightforward) communicators anyway, make sure his attitude and behavior are receptive to further in-depth revelations, desires and fantasies.
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Old 03-04-2015, 06:06 PM   #11
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I suggest the next time you are making love and he is inside you, put your hand on his face and one of your fingers near his mouth. If he doesn't start sucking your finger, put it in his mouth and say something like, "Wow, that's hot." If he responds positively, you can take it from there until you are comfortable suggesting a penis instead of your finger. Just an example, but the idea is to test what he responds to.
I have begun doing this with my wife. She was teasing my lips with her fingers and I sucked them in. It has now become a regular part of our play....She moans as she finger fucks my mouth and I love it....small steps for us and we are expanding our boundaries!

So...... I agree that it is a good start and it can start slow and can open up some good discussions.
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Old 03-04-2015, 07:06 PM   #12
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Wow, he's a lucky guy to have you! Push each other's boundaries, as long as you are both having fun!
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Old 03-04-2015, 10:07 PM   #13
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Wow, he's a lucky guy to have you! Push each other's boundaries, as long as you are both having fun!
Agreed.

And thanks so much for sharing. You two are living the fantasies of a lot of us.
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Old 03-04-2015, 10:22 PM   #14
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I think my husbands bi. I found out a couple of years ago that he had slept with a man. He told me that it was drug induced and it was way before we got together. Now I can't quit thinking about it, or wanting to see it. I want to see him with another man. The thought of it makes me so wet. How do I ask/tell him that I think he's bi and that I would love to see it?
I'm not sure what would be the best way to break this to him. But I do know that he is a lucky guy, to have you for his wife. You would be a dream cum true for a lot of us guys.
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Old 03-04-2015, 11:10 PM   #15
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Let's remember your husband is a man. As such, he does not understand the concept of hints. Best to suck it up and bring it out in the open. Even if he's not interested in a repeat with another man, he'll appreciate knowing it's a turn-on for you.
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I think my husbands bi. I found out a couple of years ago that he had slept with a man. He told me that it was drug induced and it was way before we got together. Now I can't quit thinking about it, or wanting to see it. I want to see him with another man. The thought of it makes me so wet. How do I ask/tell him that I think he's bi and that I would love to see it?
ask him.x
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Old 03-05-2015, 05:45 PM   #17
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ask him.x
Best advice yet

Are you ok with it?

If he sees you are ok with it, he may open up to you about his feelings
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Old 03-05-2015, 06:36 PM   #18
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Old 03-05-2015, 06:47 PM   #19
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It should be easy enough to watch a movie with him that includes guy sex and show him that it arouses you.
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Old 03-05-2015, 07:01 PM   #20
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It should be easy enough to watch a movie with him that includes guy sex and show him that it arouses you.
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Old 03-07-2015, 02:35 PM   #21
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I have left gay porn up on my tablet just to see. He has never said anything. That's why I think he likes it. I think I'll try harder on dropping the hints! Thanks for the support
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Old 03-08-2015, 01:57 AM   #22
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Let's remember your husband is a man. As such, he does not understand the concept of hints. Best to suck it up and bring it out in the open. Even if he's not interested in a repeat with another man, he'll appreciate knowing it's a turn-on for you.
This is correct.
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Old 03-08-2015, 05:26 AM   #23
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just ask him. tell him you are ok with it, be honest and just ask.
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Old 03-08-2015, 09:05 AM   #24
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You could tell him you'd like to go to an adult store to look for a vibrator/dildo. And then look at some strap ons and see what he says about it. Maybe he'll want to pick one out or other like toys.
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I think my husbands bi. I found out a couple of years ago that he had slept with a man. He told me that it was drug induced and it was way before we got together. Now I can't quit thinking about it, or wanting to see it. I want to see him with another man. The thought of it makes me so wet. How do I ask/tell him that I think he's bi and that I would love to see it?
Be sure of what you want. He might find him more sexually attractive and see you as an after-thought. I would suggest asking him how he'd want you to participate, dress and act. Communication!
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