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Daddy Doms vs. 'regular' Doms

FloggingMolly

FloggingMolly

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I've seen a little about Daddy Doms whilst wandering here.
I was wondering what the difference is?

Do certain types of subs fit better with one type or the other?

Is a Daddy Dom always a Daddy Dom, or does it depend upon the relationship they're in or the sub they're with?

Do they get called 'Daddy' often by the sub, or is it more a way they define themselves?

Are there Mommy Dommes?
 
Last time I looked there are no rules to any of this stuff but I'll reply later when I have more time. ;)
 
I call my PYL "Daddy" but I won't classify our relationship as Daddy/lg. Mostly because I am in no way a little. (in more ways than one) Nor would I classify him as a Daddy Dom. (I don't know if I would call him "regular" either :D )

When we first started he asked me to call him Daddy because he didn't like Sir or Master. I also call him by his first name, especially when I am trying to be very serious about a point. He is Daddy-ish in some ways. He is extremely protective. He also always tries to fix my problems. Then there is the fact he is older than myself, has grandkids and all that. I realy get into the contrast of the two sides of his personality. The very nice, nurturing protective Daddy side and then the sadistic, demanding sexual side. I never see the two sides at the exact same time though.
 
I read some where once that the "fix it" traite is a male thing. When a woman talks about a problem she's having, she doesn't nessisarily want anything done about it, she just wants some one to listen andbe supportive. When a man hears a problem, he starts to figure out ways to fix the issue. Just the way they're wired.

Jounar is also extreamly protective of me, and my feelings. While he may call me filthy names, there had better not be another living sole that does the same or he'll have issues with them.

He is one sadistic son of a bitch. He will break me down to a sobbing pile of goo and leave me battered and broken, totally unyielding and no mercy ever, But when it's all done, at the end of the day I know I'll be scooped up into his protective embrace, cuddled and cherished.

He's not really what I relate to as a 'daddy dom'. I've always called him my sadist, and when it comes down to it, that aspect is more what defines him than anything 'dom' related, so maybe he's a bad refference.

I've had partners that I thought of as more 'daddy-ish'. These men were each very firm in their rules and ways, but at the same time very soft and kind. I'm not sure how to discribe it.
 
FloggingMolly said:
Is a Daddy Dom always a Daddy Dom, or does it depend upon the relationship they're in or the sub they're with?
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I don't have much to say about daddy doms in particular, but I just wanted to say that it's always dependent on the relationship. You could ask about any relationship type, about daddy doms, pet play, master/slave, whatever and the answer will invariably be that yes, it's dependent on the two people involved.

I am of the opinion that while someone might be predisposed to being a daddy dom, (or a master, or a littler girl, or a pet, or a slave, or whatever) and so that is the role they most often find themselves in in their relationships, the particular flavor of any relationships dynamic will be different depending on the relationship involved. Someone could find that they are always in the role of a daddy, but are more or less strict depending on the specific relationship, while another person could find that in one relationship they are the daddy and in another relationship they are the little girl.

Every relationship is different, just like every person is different.
 
Interesting so far. I'm thinking it seems quite hard to define, though perhaps a few of the Doms may have an idea?
 
I self identify as a Daddy. (Neither Mommie nor Domme fit me as I also self identify as gender queer, Toppish and soft butch.) I am exceedingly protective of my baby girl, always have been. Even though our sexual relationship has ended she is still my best friend, baby mama and my perfect partner. I would give my life for her or our children and anything I can do to ease her mind is at a premium for me.

It is more important to me that my s/o be comfortable with any and everything I require. I can be rather pedantic and assholish, I will be the first to admit it but the care giver aspect is what I use to define my role and that has never changed in all the years I have been involved with BDSM.

I am not sure what the difference is between regular Dominants and someone who self identifies as a Daddy other than the protective urges and even that may change from relationship to relationship.

I do know that the perfect submissive (for me) has a bit of little girl inside. She wants/needs/requires that extra bit of care inside of our home. She wants me to make choices, make sure the bills are right, cuddle her when she is down, punish her if she fucks up. Most of my play partners are that way and my long term relationships ALWAYS have that vibe as a basis. I can't be happy with anyone NOT wired that way.

That is just MY take on it, YMMV.
 
FloggingMolly said:
I've seen a little about Daddy Doms whilst wandering here.
I was wondering what the difference is?
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I am in a Daddy/little girl, Master/slave, and Boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with my girl.

To me, a Daddy Dom is more of a nurturing, loving, caring, teaching, and protective Dom. Like a real Daddy is to his daughter. He raises her, teaches her, nurtures her, cares for her and protects her. I view my little girl as an extension of me and a part of me. When she fails, I fail. When she is happy, I am happy. She strives to make me proud of her and I do my best to make her not only the best lg/slave/sub/whatever for me, but to make her the best person she can be period.

Do certain types of subs fit better with one type or the other?
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I'm not sure. I do know that calling their Dom "Daddy" gives some subs the willies.

Is a Daddy Dom always a Daddy Dom, or does it depend upon the relationship they're in or the sub they're with?
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As I said, I am Master/Daddy/Boyfriend to my girl. Sometimes I am all three, sometimes a combo, or sometimes just one. But I am always me. When I am Master I am more strict and sadistic. When I am Daddy I am more lenient and lovey. When I am Boyfriend I am more vanilla. That is just how I am.

Do they get called 'Daddy' often by the sub, or is it more a way they define themselves?
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My little girl calls me Daddy most of the time. She also calls me Master, Sir, Sweetheart, Buttface, and many more. ;)

Are there Mommy Dommes?
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I'm not sure. But there are plenty of guys out there that want a "Mommy" type of woman, mostly for sexual reasons.
 
satindesire said:
I'm going to call Mister that today and see what he does. Muahahahaaa! :devil:
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"That's Sir Buttface to you!" :D

I've played with the idea of Daddy/little girl. Like most relationships I think it's just a fun way that works for some people. I don't remember reading any rules about it.
 
GREAT post!

:rose:

00Syd said:
I don't have much to say about daddy doms in particular, but I just wanted to say that it's always dependent on the relationship. You could ask about any relationship type, about daddy doms, pet play, master/slave, whatever and the answer will invariably be that yes, it's dependent on the two people involved.

I am of the opinion that while someone might be predisposed to being a daddy dom, (or a master, or a littler girl, or a pet, or a slave, or whatever) and so that is the role they most often find themselves in in their relationships, the particular flavor of any relationships dynamic will be different depending on the relationship involved. Someone could find that they are always in the role of a daddy, but are more or less strict depending on the specific relationship, while another person could find that in one relationship they are the daddy and in another relationship they are the little girl.

Every relationship is different, just like every person is different.
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FungiUg said:
"That's Sir Buttface to you!" :D

I've played with the idea of Daddy/little girl. Like most relationships I think it's just a fun way that works for some people. I don't remember reading any rules about it.
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No no, that's LORD buttface! XD;

sinnocence said:
Yes. Buttface. Because he can be one sometimes. :p




And I've yet to get in trouble for it.


Now watch me jinx myself.
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Gah hah hah! Buttface. Just saying that makes me lawl.
 
sinnocence said:
Yes. Buttface. Because he can be one sometimes. :p
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Because you mean it as a term of affection and endearment right? *nodsnods*

And he knows that, right?

:D

I use 'Meaniehead' the same way.

I did get spanked for 'Stooge' though.
 
I call him asshole, but only when playing pushing-shoving-pinching games. However, if he gives me 'the look', I know I'm for it!

Daddy2mylilgirl~ thanks for your view point hon, thats really helpful. I'm going to get him to read that, because I very much feel that his energy and interaction is quite, as I imagined and you have mentioned, Daddy dom-ish. Certainly I feel much more little girl-ish, with a desire to make him proud, a need for his reassurance and intervention to steer things along correctly, and the childlike brattiness.
 
FloggingMolly said:
I call him asshole, but only when playing pushing-shoving-pinching games. However, if he gives me 'the look', I know I'm for it!

Daddy2mylilgirl~ thanks for your view point hon, thats really helpful. I'm going to get him to read that, because I very much feel that his energy and interaction is quite, as I imagined and you have mentioned, Daddy dom-ish. Certainly I feel much more little girl-ish, with a desire to make him proud, a need for his reassurance and intervention to steer things along correctly, and the childlike brattiness.
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You're welcome. :)

Here's a really good article about Daddy Doms.

http://www.vanilla-not.com/basics/daddydom.html
 
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