I'm currious if this is a common experience at some point along the journey, or if it is an outlier, and how this has played out for folks on both sides of the metaphorical aisle.
I tend to think of myself as pretty self-aware and metacognitive. Rarely am I completely shocked at my reactions to a situation or stimulus. I had an experience last week that threw me a bit off kilter, and while I've regained my footing, it has stuck with me.
I have been in the situation several times before, and it has always effected me one way, not a bad way, but not terribly deeply either. On this occasion it was like over the rainbow "I think we're not in Kansas anymore Todo". It wasn't a BAD thing, quite the contrary, it was extremely effective and positive at the time. The change in my reaction, however, afterward scared the living heck out of me. I understand no one can tell me WHY I reacted this way, and I certainly haven't given enough information to hazard a guess (intentionally), because I'm not after the specifics of the event.
The question is: how often have people's reactions to a specific activity or stimulus changed markedly? Have they changed due to time/exposure or due to the partner or both? What if you barely knew the partner? Has a change like that ever made you want to run the opposite direction, even if the effect was positive? How did you handle that flight response?
The experience was overall extremely positive, but my initial flight response I do not understand. Thank you in advance for any input.
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