I adore spoilt orgasm - where a woman masturbates a man to the edge of orgasm, then just holds his penis as he spurts futilely - love it! Do women like doing this, and if so, do you know how you get your partner to do it for you? Anyone know of any good sites/ videos of this?
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Lizzie_Borden
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I think the more common term is 'ruined orgasm'
It kinda works in the 'the body says I've come, the brain says no, and therefore I still feel rather horny and rather frustrated' kind of way.
It's physical completion without the emotional satisfaction.
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Playing with a man and just stopping at the edge is very unfair. Why spoil a good time. Besides I have not masturbated a guy since that since I as a teenager, why waste a good erection.
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It's called having a creative and varied sex life.
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There are as many different ideas for fun out there as there are people, but I couldn't understand this being fun unless the man is submissive to the woman and she's having fun as his expense. And I say at his expense, but his being submissive to her gives him the satisfaction he desires, and sometimes a complete orgasm isn't necessary. Not my thing, though.
I know that delaying someone's orgasm is fun, and it can make the eventual orgasm much more powerful. pyl orgasm control by a PYL is very common. I'd think that would be a more desirable conclusion but I guess that's why this is called a spoiled orgasm?
It seems so anticlimactic.
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Yes, it seems ruined orgasms is a more common term for this. I found this text in a link...
Dominant women ruin their boyfriends, slaves, or husbands orgasms by sticking their finger down the hole of his cock several times throughout the scene. Once the erection is gone, his cock is released, the cum just oozes out.
I couldn't find anywhere that said the man still felt satisfied in an orgasm sense of the word. The sexual mind is quite diverse. I'm sure there is satisfaction in it, but in another way.
Yes, it's pyl control by the PYL. This site seems to explain it best for me.
I know that delaying someone's orgasm is fun, and it can make the eventual orgasm much more powerful. pyl orgasm control by a PYL is very common. I'd think that would be a more desirable conclusion but I guess that's why this is called a spoiled orgasm?
It seems so anticlimactic.
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Yes, it seems ruined orgasms is a more common term for this. I found this text in a link...
Dominant women ruin their boyfriends, slaves, or husbands orgasms by sticking their finger down the hole of his cock several times throughout the scene. Once the erection is gone, his cock is released, the cum just oozes out.
I couldn't find anywhere that said the man still felt satisfied in an orgasm sense of the word. The sexual mind is quite diverse. I'm sure there is satisfaction in it, but in another way.
Yes, it's pyl control by the PYL. This site seems to explain it best for me.
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OzoneRed
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Out of curiosity, I've tried what Taylor calls the "Abandonded Orgasm" technique on myself. The result is a very unsatisfying mini-orgasm, ejaculation that's more dribles than spurts, physical and emotional letdown, and zero post-orgasmic afterglow. Normal post-orgasmic male flacidity sets in. On the other hand, I had absolutely no desire to roll over and fall asleep.
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Agreed Ozone, I've done it to myself a few times, mostly by accident when simply doing some teasing. It's the most frustrating thing in the world, you want to keep going, but then sensitivity and flacidity set in.
Since there's many ways to ruin an orgasm, has anyone here ever done/experienced it being "thumbed"? The female (no offense to the homosexuals here) places her thumb over the slit, restricting the flow of the ejaculate. Any experiences people would care to share?
Since there's many ways to ruin an orgasm, has anyone here ever done/experienced it being "thumbed"? The female (no offense to the homosexuals here) places her thumb over the slit, restricting the flow of the ejaculate. Any experiences people would care to share?
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I've had something similar, actually. That unsatisfying mini-orgasm, physical and emotional letdown, etc.
Well, it's only unfair if neither of you get anything from it. It's a mind thing - the woman wants to have fun with you, and takes you to the edge - she holds the base of the penis so that the sense of touch is still there, but doesn't finish it - though she could. It's adorable to watch - and have done to you. I guess people don't understand other people's fetishes - this is just one of mine.
BTW, what are you doing with your good erections?
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I don't think I'm into the way she frames it as "make them remember what they are really worth", (it's just an orgasm after all) but I'm finding the control aspect of this very interesting.
To the original poster, is the hot button for you tied to a concept or fantasy about "what you're worth" in her eyes, or something different?
I think it works like this. I have always wondered why women would / could find men attractive. So, if a woman gets is prepared to take a guy to othe edge of orgasm, then stops because she gets a kick out of it as she has control, then it acts to prove that women do enjoy men. Convoluted, I know... plus I'm also sure it has a lot to do with handing over responsibility for yourself to someone else - as do many of the subs here. That doesn't mean I am a sub - possibly a switch with more emphasis on dom. Having said that, I am facinated by male chastity and cuckolding, probably for the same reason - though when it cam to it, would hate to be cuckolded...
play
For us, it is all about play.
In the years we've been together, we've learned how to play at sex, whereas as a young couple we worked at it(too hard, sometimes I think). We have become less intense, maybe with maturity, and in my case, I don't take myself quite so seriously in terms os my self-image when I'm with her, what might be expected of a conventional male.
When we play with ruined, or spoiled, delayed, or just plain denial of my orgasm, we experience many levels of feelings toward each other. On one level, I am pitifully humiliated, and she feels the thrill of a conqueror. On another, I am grateful for her attention to me and my kinky personality, and she has the sense of nurturing a needy boy. On another, I am overcome with a desire to serve her needs, and she enjoys my ministrations. It is about sex, love, eroticism, surrender, control, personality type, and a thousand other things. One thing we never forget: her control of my orgasm, with all its variations, is play.
For us, it is all about play.
In the years we've been together, we've learned how to play at sex, whereas as a young couple we worked at it(too hard, sometimes I think). We have become less intense, maybe with maturity, and in my case, I don't take myself quite so seriously in terms os my self-image when I'm with her, what might be expected of a conventional male.
When we play with ruined, or spoiled, delayed, or just plain denial of my orgasm, we experience many levels of feelings toward each other. On one level, I am pitifully humiliated, and she feels the thrill of a conqueror. On another, I am grateful for her attention to me and my kinky personality, and she has the sense of nurturing a needy boy. On another, I am overcome with a desire to serve her needs, and she enjoys my ministrations. It is about sex, love, eroticism, surrender, control, personality type, and a thousand other things. One thing we never forget: her control of my orgasm, with all its variations, is play.
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I've seen videos of this before. If I were a Domme, I'd probably do this all the time. ^_^
Extremely hot.
Extremely hot.
If I were your sub, I'd love it...
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Tease and denial are more interesting to me personally, but I like the total helplessness at the situation, the spasm of near agony on his face as he realises I have done it again if I do ruin it.
its mostly just the power trip, he's sensitive when you begin again meaning actually making use of a renewed erection is difficult, but in itself fun.
It can stretch out a considerable time too, for when you build him to the next one he has to examine if he thinks you are going to get that one too.
Not for everyone, but I am fond of it
its mostly just the power trip, he's sensitive when you begin again meaning actually making use of a renewed erection is difficult, but in itself fun.
It can stretch out a considerable time too, for when you build him to the next one he has to examine if he thinks you are going to get that one too.
Not for everyone, but I am fond of it
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So have I... it was an ex-girlfriend who was lousy in the sack...
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Me, instead of doing something similar to a submissive... I just like to say no to her... and make her struggle with it, until I finally allow release.
I was actually more interested in women reuining a man's orgasm simply by holding him as he comes.... lovely!
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This is a really simple and fun form of sadism. It's not that mysterious. Why do MDom's chase the orgasm on command? It's just amusing.
I don't stick my fingers in there (even my sounding slut isn't THAT resilient) I just stop what I'm doing for a second. It's really not rocket science. Works on girls too, if they're really clit-focused.
I don't stick my fingers in there (even my sounding slut isn't THAT resilient) I just stop what I'm doing for a second. It's really not rocket science. Works on girls too, if they're really clit-focused.
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Having seen videos of this I thought it all looked rather interesting.
But, I can only assume that it works if
a) You haven't come for some time and are desperate too.
b) Your partner makes you do it.
I tried ruining one of my own orgasms and quickly came to the conclusion that it was rather pointless.
But, I can only assume that it works if
a) You haven't come for some time and are desperate too.
b) Your partner makes you do it.
I tried ruining one of my own orgasms and quickly came to the conclusion that it was rather pointless.
I agree entirely - I think the joy of it is having a lady ruin your orgasm for you - and the fun that she has in doing it.
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i too have experience this before. as mentioned before i was trying to take myself to the edge but not past it and sometimes when you get that close your body keeps going while your mind doesn’t and it is VERY unsatisfying. i imagine this would be ideal for a cuckold situation with a Domme and a male sub.
I have also heard of women milking a prostate to induce an ejaculation with out an orgasm also having a very similar mind fuck where she is in complete control of if you have one and if you get to enjoy it or not. i myself have never tried it but i have seen it done...
I have also heard of women milking a prostate to induce an ejaculation with out an orgasm also having a very similar mind fuck where she is in complete control of if you have one and if you get to enjoy it or not. i myself have never tried it but i have seen it done...
