How do I tell him....

that the only thing I've been able to think about for a week is playing with his amazing ass? Over the past few years, I've come to develop a "thing" for the male asshole but it's never constantly been on my mind. I want to lick, finger and fuck him to my little heart's content.

We have been very experimental, as both of us are very open minded, but I just don't think he'll react well to this. I've rimmed him numerous times and rubbed it gently with my fingers but that's as far as I've gotten. The shame that has come with these feelings has become somewhat overwhelming and I'm not sure how to deal with it.

I don't even know if this is the right place for me to post this but I really need some advice. I don't want to scare him or make him feel pressured into trying anything he's not comfortable with but I don't want to set my desires aside either.

Please help...

MsLovey said:

that the only thing I've been able to think about for a week is playing with his amazing ass? Over the past few years, I've come to develop a "thing" for the male asshole but it's never constantly been on my mind. I want to lick, finger and fuck him to my little heart's content.

We have been very experimental, as both of us are very open minded, but I just don't think he'll react well to this. I've rimmed him numerous times and rubbed it gently with my fingers but that's as far as I've gotten. The shame that has come with these feelings has become somewhat overwhelming and I'm not sure how to deal with it.

I don't even know if this is the right place for me to post this but I really need some advice. I don't want to scare him or make him feel pressured into trying anything he's not comfortable with but I don't want to set my desires aside either.

Please help...

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Talk with him, let him know your feelings and desires. He will probably surprise you. Also, you better be ready to give your ass to him as a reward.

Snuggleman4u said:

Talk with him, let him know your feelings and desires. He will probably surprise you. Also, you better be ready to give your ass to him as a reward.

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This

Of course, I don't know the OP needs to be ready to give their ass as a "reward" but it might help make things fun.

Of course! Anal (mine) is something that we do on a very regular basis. We've been doing it a lot more lately and I think it's helped to trigger my want for his.

MsLovey said:

Of course! Anal (mine) is something that we do on a very regular basis. We've been doing it a lot more lately and I think it's helped to trigger my want for his.

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I think you two are destined for a lot of fun.

kaycee217 said:

I think you two are destined for a lot of fun.

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I hope so Guess I'm just afraid of what his reaction will be. Thanks for the support!

MsLovey said:

I hope so Guess I'm just afraid of what his reaction will be. Thanks for the support!

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If he's a guy worth keeping, his reaction won't be bad. Sure, he may not be into it as much as you, but he'll be willing to try to do what it takes to please you.

kaycee217 said:

If he's a guy worth keeping, his reaction won't be bad. Sure, he may not be into it as much as you, but he'll be willing to try to do what it takes to please you.

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Exactly. A lover worth keeping is one who will help to explore your fantasies, your desires.

And, MsLovey...I wish I could find a girl like you. I absolutely adore having my ass played with...

KinkyMichigan said:

Exactly. A lover worth keeping is one who will help to explore your fantasies, your desires.

And, MsLovey...I wish I could find a girl like you. I absolutely adore having my ass played with...

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Both of us have done that for each other since we met. Communication is actually one of our strong points, until now because of my ridiculous fears.

And, Mr. Michigan, you just gave me a much needed boost of confidence that maybe he won't react as badly as I thought

MsLovey said:

Both of us have done that for each other since we met. Communication is actually one of our strong points, until now because of my ridiculous fears.

And, Mr. Michigan, you just gave me a much needed boost of confidence that maybe he won't react as badly as I thought

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You're very welcome, Ms. And I understand your fears. It is definitely not a subject that is easy discuss unless you have that openness and communication with your partner.

If he does decide to play, he will be a lucky man. An eager girl like yourself can work wonders on a man's ass...

KinkyMichigan said:

You're very welcome, Ms. And I understand your fears. It is definitely not a subject that is easy discuss unless you have that openness and communication with your partner.

If he does decide to play, he will be a lucky man. An eager girl like yourself can work wonders on a man's ass...

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I most definitely shall try! Course, I'll have to learn, seeing as I've never gotten inside. I'm hoping it can/will be a fun learning experience for the both of us!

MsLovey said:

I most definitely shall try! Course, I'll have to learn, seeing as I've never gotten inside. I'm hoping it can/will be a fun learning experience for the both of us!

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It won't be much different than how you learned to take something in your ass. Just patience...starting small...slowly training it to accept more.

KinkyMichigan said:

It won't be much different than how you learned to take something in your ass. Just patience...starting small...slowly training it to accept more.

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I truly can't wait

just start

hi,
what if you ask him and that man ego, pride, embarassment thing kicks in ? But he actually is interested.
What if you buy a small soft dildo/buttplug and good lube..tell him you want to give him a bj while he is blindfolded and do your thing. Maybe start with a little sucking to get him good and horny then play with his butthole a little and as he gets hornier insert a lubed finger...don't do to good of a bj at this point things good be over to fast lol...then if he is ok with your finger move to the small dildo that has been lubed.. if he says anything say something like please baby let me play or whatever you think of.

When I (and most guys) are realy worked up and horny it is easier to get us to get into some new freaky fun or to go with the flow

hope you get it done he will love it if he lets you

jeff68 said:

hi,
what if you ask him and that man ego, pride, embarassment thing kicks in ? But he actually is interested.
What if you buy a small soft dildo/buttplug and good lube..tell him you want to give him a bj while he is blindfolded and do your thing. Maybe start with a little sucking to get him good and horny then play with his butthole a little and as he gets hornier insert a lubed finger...don't do to good of a bj at this point things good be over to fast lol...then if he is ok with your finger move to the small dildo that has been lubed.. if he says anything say something like please baby let me play or whatever you think of.

When I (and most guys) are realy worked up and horny it is easier to get us to get into some new freaky fun or to go with the flow

hope you get it done he will love it if he lets you

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The blindfold idea intrigues me! So you do think I should talk to him first, right? Or I could just try tequila. That usually gets him feeling pretty frisky. I take it you've let someone do this to you? If so, what was your first reaction? Can it feel as good to men as it does to a woman. I have come to love anal because the orgasm is so different than those that come vaginally.

The shame that has come with these feelings has become somewhat overwhelming and I'm not sure how to deal with it.

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Why do you feel shame? Your desire to explore and play with his ass, even your desire to fuck his ass, is perfectly normal and you have nothing to be ashamed of. I'm quite sure that if he was disagreeable or uncomfortable with you doing this, he would have stopped you already and told you that he doesn't like his ass being played with . He's probably waiting for YOU to feel comfortable enough to take it to the next level..

MsLovey said:

The blindfold idea intrigues me! So you do think I should talk to him first, right? Or I could just try tequila. That usually gets him feeling pretty frisky. I take it you've let someone do this to you? If so, what was your first reaction? Can it feel as good to men as it does to a woman. I have come to love anal because the orgasm is so different than those that come vaginally.

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Tequila i have a saying "if i drink alot of tequila there are one of two things i am gonna do and they both start with f..fight or fuck" now that i am older I no longer fight lol must have gotten smarter

Yep, kind of went down like this my first time. When I was in Germany I was dating a freay british girl ( ohh what fun) and she tried to put her finger in my butt while we were hving sex...well that was not gonna happen..I tightened up so much you couldn't have gotten in there with a jack hammer.

I guess she knew more than me and one night at the club she was keeping me pretty horny all night talking about how she wanted to tie me up and give me the bj of a life time etc...Well I am not stupid...We got back to her place and I let her tie me up and well she new what she was doing kept me on the edge for a while and I was so horny I was going crazy...then she started with the finger stuff again....I tightened up and she said in her soft sexxy english voice to relax she wanted to do it that it would make her horny...or should I stop?...again not stupid horny and drunk ...so in she went...it did not take long and I was came so intense and hard it was crazy...It all went "downhill" from there figur anything that feels that good is ok by me...I didn't give it a second thought when she brought out the dildo...she had a way to get me going and do crazy things with her loved it

Adakgirl said:

Why do you feel shame? Your desire to explore and play with his ass, even your desire to fuck his ass, is perfectly normal and you have nothing to be ashamed of. I'm quite sure that if he was disagreeable or uncomfortable with you doing this, he would have stopped you already and told you that he doesn't like his ass being played with . He's probably waiting for YOU to feel comfortable enough to take it to the next level..

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I agree

MsLovey said:

We have been very experimental, as both of us are very open minded, but I just don't think he'll react well to this. I've rimmed him numerous times and rubbed it gently with my fingers but that's as far as I've gotten. The shame that has come with these feelings has become somewhat overwhelming and I'm not sure how to deal with it.

I don't even know if this is the right place for me to post this but I really need some advice. I don't want to scare him or make him feel pressured into trying anything he's not comfortable with but I don't want to set my desires aside either.

Please help...

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First of all, there is absolutely no reason to be ashamed of this. The fact that you've explored this fantasy a bit by licking and rubbing his ass, and he's never stopped you or diverted you, probably means that he enjoys what you're doing.

I'm usually a big fan of communication and think that it works wonders for one's sex life, and relationship in general. So, I can't argue with the advice that's been given suggesting that you talk to him. But I'd wait for before you start talk to him about this. Let's put this on hold and call it step TWO (or three).

For now, don't say a word. Keep your mouth shut. That is, unless it's to slide your tongue along his tight asshole.

Just acting on your desires has worked for you so far. You're feeling some shame and he might be too and if you're not used to "talking", it might be a little uncomfortable. That's why I'm advising... take it slowly (talking).

Continue to push and play and try new things. Explore your limits - and his - as you go along. Next time you're warming up and ready to have sex, work your way down to your knees and begin to suck his cock the way that you always do.

Give him a nice, wet blow job. Slobber all over his cock and his balls and don't be shy - not even for a second. See if you can read his body language. Is he asking you to lick his ass by the way he moves? The way he spreads his legs or props his hips back? Is he guiding you down between his legs and between his cheeks? If he is, then you know he's enjoying it just as much as you are. (Even if he is not - chances are he's just shy, too.)

If his body is receptive, continue to push his limits. Take advantage of the saliva you're slobbering all over his cock. Get one of your fingers nice and wet and messy and start work it between his cheeks. Make him whimper and squirm as you tease him ever so slowly.

I like to go slow when I am trying to inch someone over their limits or when I am guiding someone into unexplored territory for the first time. So, tease that tight little ass of his and enjoy yourself.

In fact, I think this might be the perfect time to talk to him. Right at that moment when your mouth is sliding up and down his cock, your chin and cheeks glistening the saliva that's drenching his cock and balls. Work that finger against his ass and ask him... "Do you want me to fuck your ass? Tell me. Do you want this finger inside of you?"

I guarantee you that he'll be begging for it before you finish asking.

I wouldn't worry about scaring him. He might be a little shy, but I don't think he'll think less of you.

When all is said and done, and you're both wrapping up, I think this is a good time to "break the ice" and encourage some communication. Not much. Take it slow. I would do that by simply saying something like... "Oh my God, that was so hot!" or "Oh, I loved that so much." Just a simple comment and then go revert back to your regular post sex routine (which might just be rolling over and going to sleep, curling up in each others' arms - whatever). Don't focus on it or dwell on it. Say it and move on.

If he stops and talks about it, then don't be shy at all, although, I don't think he'll be in much of a talking mood at that point.

Good luck and enjoy.

Yeah, I agree with the other posters: talking is always good, especially since you have such good communication anyway. I mean, what's the worst that's likely to happen? He'll be turned on at the thought of your being turned on, and I bet he'd at least try for you...

Then set up a situation like you and other posters have been discussing here...tease him within and inch of his life and he'll probably be on board for just about anything! Good luck and let us know how it goes!

I wish I was your man, I would love my girl to want to do all these thing with me!

MsLovey said:

I don't even know if this is the right place for me to post this

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No, it isn't.

Thanks for the advice everyone! I really do appreciate it

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Here's a little toy my My Mistress and I absolutely love.
Lot's of fun for both for when you take that "next step".
Oh by the way...Men can have a sort of orgasm from anal..
I know from personal experience.
Enjoy!

EzraPound said:

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Here's a little toy my My Mistress and I absolutely love.
Lot's of fun for both for when you take that "next step".
Oh by the way...Men can have a sort of orgasm from anal..
I know from personal experience.
Enjoy!

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Love the look of it and think I'd actually enjoy it as well! I'm on the website and not exactly sure how to find that specific toy. Any help?