Mistress L's D/s School
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CutieMouse
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Um... there's already a "school" of BDSM on Literotica - it's called the BDSM Talk Forum and BDSM Cafe Forum. 
Also, while I understand the hesitation and shyness some might feel, IMO it's best to post questions to the board in its entirety, as one never knows who might have a perspective most relevant to the question at hand.
Also, while I understand the hesitation and shyness some might feel, IMO it's best to post questions to the board in its entirety, as one never knows who might have a perspective most relevant to the question at hand.
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Um... there's already a "school" of BDSM on Literotica - it's called the BDSM Talk Forum and BDSM Cafe Forum.
Also, while I understand the hesitation and shyness some might feel, IMO it's best to post questions to the board in its entirety, as one never knows who might have a perspective most relevant to the question at hand.
While I do agree that it is best to be open and see what answer goes best I know for a fact from when I first started learning that I felt stupid for not knowing and it maybe more comfortable to ask someone in private who you know is knowledged than asking a group and feeling like the only one who doesnt know.
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Okay then...
Public Service Announcement:
No one on this board knew jack shit when they first started trying to figure out what they were (Dominant/submissive/etc), or how to behave, or what was or wasn't safe, or anything else. Everyone experienced their own form of growing pains, fuck ups, failed relationships, challenges and self-doubt right along side all the fabulously kinky hotness.
Everyone starts at zero.
Everyone.
/Public Service Announcement
Sir_Winston54
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I'm only going to pick on two of the several errors in your post, and only for the reason that were I new to BDSM and saw this post, I'd run like someone had just stuffed my ass with turpentine and lit a match behind me.
The word is Dominance. It comes from dominari "to rule, have dominion over," from dominus "lord, master," lit. "master of the house," from domus "home" (see domestic) + -nus, suffix denoting ownership or relation.
Second is your mis-typing of your title. It's "Mistress." There's no "a" in it, in any language with which I have any familiarity. Yes, it's probably just a typo, but even as a typo, it reflects carelessness and laziness in neither proofreading nor spell-checking - characteristics *I* would not want to have in a person teaching me.
Thanks, but ...
No thanks.
Lunisca
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Thank you all nevermind and please excuse me I hope not to inconvenience it seems my role is only as a sub and not a switch or domme because of my typing. SO once again thank you all.
Wow. Such a low opinion you must have of submissives, if you think that becuase of an error in judgement (and typing) that is what you must be.
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Actually I DO I regard submissives very highly including all of my own that I have. In truth atm I feel as if I dont even deserve them but that is all a selfesteem issue for another day.
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Lunisca, I'm sure you probably feel a bit jumped on, and for that I apologize. However, your post kinda tried to reinvent the wheel here.
there are members of this forum who have lived a D/s lifestyle 24/7 for years now, who have devoted hours of time helping "newbies", offering advice, answering the same basic questions over and over and over because they want to educate/inform/assist the people who come to the BDSM Forums.
And then someone who has never contributed, built a reputation, or otherwise participated as a member of the BDSM Talk/Cafe Forums, who's posting history is pretty much restricted to the Role Playing Forums (meaning no one has a clue of your experience/credentials/knowledge/etc) shows up and tries to manage/dictate/oversee a thread for newcomers...
Can you see how that might be a little jolting to those who have put years into making the BDSM Forums what they are [flaws and all]?
.... AAAAAaaaaannnnd now the OP has edited her posts and wandered off in an internet huff.
Blergh.
there are members of this forum who have lived a D/s lifestyle 24/7 for years now, who have devoted hours of time helping "newbies", offering advice, answering the same basic questions over and over and over because they want to educate/inform/assist the people who come to the BDSM Forums.
And then someone who has never contributed, built a reputation, or otherwise participated as a member of the BDSM Talk/Cafe Forums, who's posting history is pretty much restricted to the Role Playing Forums (meaning no one has a clue of your experience/credentials/knowledge/etc) shows up and tries to manage/dictate/oversee a thread for newcomers...
Can you see how that might be a little jolting to those who have put years into making the BDSM Forums what they are [flaws and all]?
.... AAAAAaaaaannnnd now the OP has edited her posts and wandered off in an internet huff.
Blergh.
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I saw no need to keep the post up if it was going to cause a controversey. I do see your point and understand. I just saw no need it keeping up what was a cause for controversey. I did not mean to insult anyone so therefore took the statement away.
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I can see why some were upset. It is always good when venturing into new territory online, such as forums, to look at how you would feel if someone were to wander into your living room, ask people in off the street to evaluate your lifestyle, and then appoint some of those people as experts on and in your life based on their personal opinion on whether those people had it right or not. One of the most important things we try to honour in this forum is that everyone has their own experiences, and what might be right for one person may be totally wrong for the next in their stuation...only those involved can make the call. IOW, most of us are willing to share our experiences and thoughts, to offer support and opinions when asked, but few of us feel we need or want to set ourselves up as the experts and ones to have the answer for everyone.
You will also find if you stick around that most here are very tolerant, understanding and forgiving and will be more than happy for you to join the fun here and learn more while sharing your own thoughts. The choice is yours.
Catalina
You will also find if you stick around that most here are very tolerant, understanding and forgiving and will be more than happy for you to join the fun here and learn more while sharing your own thoughts. The choice is yours.
Catalina
IMHO the cause of this entire discussion was in the original thread. Some people responded to the post rather rudely in regards to the op's spelling.
Unfortunately when we meet in person we are able to establish a completely different impression upon others as opposed to online. Online a complete social "failure" could be "rated" or evaluated higher based on how well they articulate themselves. I for one am not the best writer but I am very intelligent so I do not worry about such things. However online is the new playground of grade school and people want to fit in. Rude comments from others that have nothing to do with the post are not helpful.
It seems to me that 99.9% of the people here are very nice and friendly that is why I choose to frequent this site. The other .1% are just attempting to be rude internet baddasses and I ignore that as many should. The problem with the .1% on a site like this is you may have someone that is transforming from sub to switch or sub to Dom and are not yet sure of themselves.
Thanks for your attention, something I was thinking when I read the original post and should have written then. I also think it is very nice of everyone how helpful they are when folks ask for advice in such a confusing world like D/s
Thanks
Jeff
Unfortunately when we meet in person we are able to establish a completely different impression upon others as opposed to online. Online a complete social "failure" could be "rated" or evaluated higher based on how well they articulate themselves. I for one am not the best writer but I am very intelligent so I do not worry about such things. However online is the new playground of grade school and people want to fit in. Rude comments from others that have nothing to do with the post are not helpful.
It seems to me that 99.9% of the people here are very nice and friendly that is why I choose to frequent this site. The other .1% are just attempting to be rude internet baddasses and I ignore that as many should. The problem with the .1% on a site like this is you may have someone that is transforming from sub to switch or sub to Dom and are not yet sure of themselves.
Thanks for your attention, something I was thinking when I read the original post and should have written then. I also think it is very nice of everyone how helpful they are when folks ask for advice in such a confusing world like D/s
Thanks
Jeff
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If this is a school, im pretty sure people won't be allowed to leave for the bathroom without a brightly coloured toilet pass.
And, for misbehaving... a visit to the headmaster's office with his rack of canes... or a morning's boot camp with the Fitness Department, or writing lines, letters of misbehaviour or heartfelt requests to retain privileges!
What the OP intended
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________> Where we are now headed *yeahhhhh*
And, for misbehaving... a visit to the headmaster's office with his rack of canes... or a morning's boot camp with the Fitness Department, or writing lines, letters of misbehaviour or heartfelt requests to retain privileges!
What the OP intended
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________> Where we are now headed *yeahhhhh*
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That was artistic and I have no idea what the fuck it meant.
School fantasies aren't my bag, but we can retain the caning.
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You don't get it? Clearly you must be in the .1%, Syd baby.
Waahhh I'm so confused and unsure of myself.
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I don't agree with this. The first few posts were not rude. In fact, I would say that some of those first posts were too kind. If any one of the
'regulars' submitted the same post, the hazing would have been much more brutal.
I got the impression that some of the initial responders were dealing with the OP very gently and trying to tip toe around her obvious sensitivity and insecurity. Additionally, there were many valid points in "those" responses and it's not like anyone was unfairly attacking the poor girl. They made very valid points, did it in a very sensitive manner, and did it while offering advice and encouragement on how to participate in the lifestyle and the board(s).
As far as "online being the new playground" - I'm not really sure what you mean, but I think you're suggesting someone is bullying the OP when, in my honest opinion, that's not what's happening at all.
Granted, this is a message board. The message board is part of a web site for writers, authors and readers. I don't think any one is expecting the next great American novel to be discovered in one of these threads, but I don't think it's unreasonable to have some basic expectations for the quality of the writing. You don't have to be the next Hemingway, but I don't think it's out of line to expect a quick spell check, basic sentence structure, and some kind of punctuation.
And that's not even the most important part - those are all secondary issues and I only mentioned them because you did.
The real issue is that she's here offering advice as an 'expert' on a particular topic. Which is fine, but the second she was questioned or confronted about her knowledge/experience, she edited the post and lashed out with an offensive comment about pyls. Which is also quite telling of her expertise, IMO.
I know that there are plenty of times where people have blown up and been overly dramatic or insulting to someone... for no good reason. However, I don't think this is one of those threads. At all. I don't think it's possible to be nurtured along any more than what I've just read.
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You bring up some pretty convincing points...Makes me think .......thanks
