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bpattinson

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Hello,

I'm 19, and ever since I can remember I've had some sort of a fascination with spankings and other BDSM related things. Spanking has never been apart of my life growing up, which could be a reason why it's been able to become a sexually pleasing thing for me. The problem is that since I'm only 19, I can't seem to find a boy brave enough to actually fulfill my fantasies for me. I want to be held down and spanked, but all they wanna do is kiss my neck! HELP me figure something out please!

Needing Release!
 
Starting two threads eight minutes apart, then bumping a 6 month old thread to post the exact same thing two minutes later... sigh.

Take a deep breath. Chill. If the "needing release" means you want to cyber/have phone sex, the BDSM personals section is here.

If you want advice on how to find a partner with similar interests, I'm sure you'll get plenty of advice *if you'll just be a wee bit patient*.
 
It's okay, not everyone is a veteran of internet forums.

I think you should explain to your partner(s) exactly what it is you want them to do, and why you would enjoy. If they're understanding and a bit adventurous (and people are often kinkier than you're expect) they should be perfectly willing to try it. It's just a bit of spanking, after all.

If they still feel uncomfortable, try again. If they refuse to come around, I say eff 'em.
 
Your situation could be why a lot of submissive girls your age look for older men with some experience.
 
Wish they looked for young guys like me though. There's so much I want to experiment with, if only they knew...
 
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Sayyid said:
Wish they looked for young guys like me though. There's so much I want to experiment with, if only they knew...
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How old are you?

In the Personals, there are women looking for younger men... but quite often, a younger woman want to submit to a guy who she can trust, who has done things before, rather than them experimenting together.

That's not always the case, however.
 
RawHumor said:
How old are you?

In the Personals, there are women looking for younger men... but quite often, a younger woman want to submit to a guy who she can trust, who has done things before, rather than them experimenting together.

That's not always the case, however.
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I'm 20 and I have looked in the Personals, but I think I need to broaden my scope. It can be hard to find people my age who are into kink - only two of my close friends are that I know of.
 
Sayyid said:
I'm 20 and I have looked in the Personals, but I think I need to broaden my scope. It can be hard to find people my age who are into kink - only two of my close friends are that I know of.
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I don't know too many people who are into it either... one I do know is a woman I work with, who tends to share a bit too much info sometimes.
:D
 
Too much info? About sex? Absurd!

I have noticed that I'm more open about sharing my sexual experiences with others, but I hang around a fairly liberal circle, so it's not awkward or anything. Who doesn't love some good, juicy sex talk once in a while?

Incidentally, quelle age a tu?
 
I don't mind it at all, she just seems to drop it in at strange times sometime.

I'm 38, but not the most BDSM-experience guy on here by any stretch.
 
Well, more on topic with this thread and our friend bpattinson's questions, I think it's a matter of where you look. Living in a big city certainly helps. Knowing of a good sex club, fetish night or just the time and place of a BDSM munch helps greatly. There are kinksters in every location if you just seek them out. The Internet helps greatly in this regard. I've heard of some BDSM-oriented personals sites such as CollarMe (which I'm thinking of giving a try in the near future).
 
I would have to agree with all the others, you just have to be patient, which is a horrible thing to say. I'm over fifty, we didn't have the internet in 1971, and we were definitely not that liberated back then. I didn't have a Mistress till I was 42, and beleive me it was worth the wait.

Besides, by the time you're 25, you may become a Switch, spank a few men and make sure they know what you want LOL.

I just hope you don't turn out like my former Mistress who by the time she turned 35 became "Born Again," and renounced her spanking past.

Now there is an interesting thread.....
 
OldGuy1026 said:
I would have to agree with all the others, you just have to be patient, which is a horrible thing to say. I'm over fifty, we didn't have the internet in 1971, and we were definitely not that liberated back then. I didn't have a Mistress till I was 42, and beleive me it was worth the wait.

Besides, by the time you're 25, you may become a Switch, spank a few men and make sure they know what you want LOL.

I just hope you don't turn out like my former Mistress who by the time she turned 35 became "Born Again," and renounced her spanking past.

Now there is an interesting thread.....
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Aren't most people switches?
 
as all the rest said... just take it easy and you will be suprised how fast a older charismatic dominant sadist will walk into your life :)
 
newtoforums said:
Aren't most people switches?
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I think I saw some statistics on that once and the findings boiled down to this: there are more male doms and more female subs, but switches are about equal for both genders. Figure that out.
 
Well some people are serious about not switching and some are. Then we have subs who top from the bottom. Instead of, "Thank you sir, may I have another." It's "Thank you sir, may I have another lower on my bottom please."

Very frustrating.
 
FurryFury said:
In kinky books or BDSM stroke stories, yet, most people are. In real life, no.

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I've actually never read many stories involving switching ... maybe it's because I tend to go for the traditional maledom scenarios? Not sure.
OldGuy1026 said:
Well some people are serious about not switching and some are. Then we have subs who top from the bottom. Instead of, "Thank you sir, may I have another." It's "Thank you sir, may I have another lower on my bottom please."

Very frustrating.
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I've heard from all quarters how annoying this can be but I've never really minded it myself. Of the umbrella term BDSM, I'm most interested in the SM part. As long as I get to give her a good smack on the bottom, it's all good.
 
Sayyid said:
I've actually never read many stories involving switching ... maybe it's because I tend to go for the traditional maledom scenarios? Not sure.
I've heard from all quarters how annoying this can be but I've never really minded it myself. Of the umbrella term BDSM, I'm most interested in the SM part. As long as I get to give her a good smack on the bottom, it's all good.
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I tend to be pretty chill about this too. You can always ask for something and if you're not a total dickweed about it I'm a rational enough person.
 
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