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tenchikoi

tenchikoi

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So, I've only tried anal twice with my partner. The first time, he used a numbing gel on my bottom because he didn't want to hurt me. I learned later that this was not a wise thing to do. I wasn't pleased with the first experience, since I didn't really feel anything. The second time, no numbing gel and me on my tummy with my bottom in the air. There was much lube and I was relaxed and ready. The initial entry was somewhat uncomfortable because of his girth. But he slowly worked it in and wasn't rough at all. It was really beginning to feel pleasant. There were some nice sensations building deep in my tummy. But he couldn't hold out long because he said I felt so amazing. Afterwards, I bled a little. But he didn't hurt me at all. Everything about anal I really liked, except for the poopie factor. It really squicks me out. So my question is, how can I get my bottom super clean before anal so I can be more relaxed to enjoy it? Thanks for any input.
 
I very highly agree with Mouse's recommendation to you! <3

Also, first thing's first-- If it hurts, you aren't ready and it's being done wrong. As much as the male member craves instant gratification (as does the welcoming behind; Believe me, I know what it's like!), it's always best to start with a small, tapered dildo to get used to being penetrated, and gradually work your way up to size. Stretching, basically! Myself, I started with vibrating toys made especially for exploring anal play since the buzzing sensation tends to be very relaxing. It's also a good idea to stretch at least with a finger or a toy or something of that nature immediately before the action begins, as the muscles are actually pretty strong and resilient, thus re-taking their shape even when stretched out quite well (and even after gaping! Even if it's not for you, and it isn't a thing I'm interested in, it's comforting to know you'll be right as rain after a bit, isn't it? n_n; ) so it may be a little hard to get something as large as a penis in without any notice until you're quite used to being penetrated by regular sized dildoes.

As you can tell by experience, numbing gels are just fail for it, but a little lube goes a long way. =P Much better to use too much than too little! Most important is that most of the lube should go onto the penetrating object rather than your bottom; Though it needs a good dose of its own, it's only covering the entrance. Washing the penis or toy down quite thoroughly with a good lubricant is effective at keeping it slick past the point of contact and entry. By the way, I do NOT advise the 'warming sensation' lubricants for anal play! But that's just my personal opinion.

I hope I can be of some assistance! I'm quite well versed in this subject. n_n;

Good luck!
 
subxboi said:
I very highly agree with Mouse's recommendation to you! <3

Also, first thing's first-- If it hurts, you aren't ready and it's being done wrong. As much as the male member craves instant gratification (as does the welcoming behind; Believe me, I know what it's like!), it's always best to start with a small, tapered dildo to get used to being penetrated, and gradually work your way up to size. Stretching, basically! Myself, I started with vibrating toys made especially for exploring anal play since the buzzing sensation tends to be very relaxing. It's also a good idea to stretch at least with a finger or a toy or something of that nature immediately before the action begins, as the muscles are actually pretty strong and resilient, thus re-taking their shape even when stretched out quite well (and even after gaping! Even if it's not for you, and it isn't a thing I'm interested in, it's comforting to know you'll be right as rain after a bit, isn't it? n_n; ) so it may be a little hard to get something as large as a penis in without any notice until you're quite used to being penetrated by regular sized dildoes.

As you can tell by experience, numbing gels are just fail for it, but a little lube goes a long way. =P Much better to use too much than too little! Most important is that most of the lube should go onto the penetrating object rather than your bottom; Though it needs a good dose of its own, it's only covering the entrance. Washing the penis or toy down quite thoroughly with a good lubricant is effective at keeping it slick past the point of contact and entry. By the way, I do NOT advise the 'warming sensation' lubricants for anal play! But that's just my personal opinion.

I hope I can be of some assistance! I'm quite well versed in this subject. n_n;

Good luck!
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Hi there! Thanks for your input. It's very helpful indeed. I do have a slimmer vibe we could use to build up to actual penetration. It has been a long time. I totally agree with the lube suggestion! I'm not into unneeded pain.
 
tenchikoi said:
Hi there! Thanks for your input. It's very helpful indeed. I do have a slimmer vibe we could use to build up to actual penetration. It has been a long time. I totally agree with the lube suggestion! I'm not into unneeded pain.
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Don't forget things like anal plugs. You can prep and put one in to stretch and relax and then flash it to surprise him. Him knowing you've been thinking about it and prepping for it is a big turn on for both of you. And the more you are turned on about anal, the better.
 
OneLustyWench said:
Don't forget things like anal plugs. You can prep and put one in to stretch and relax and then flash it to surprise him. Him knowing you've been thinking about it and prepping for it is a big turn on for both of you. And the more you are turned on about anal, the better.
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Oh yes! He has a butt plug, but it's too big in my opinion. I'll have to shop for a small starter one.
 
tenchikoi said:
Oh yes! He has a butt plug, but it's too big in my opinion. I'll have to shop for a small starter one.
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As an aid in shopping:

Adam & Eve - a variety ranging from U$8 to U$50;

Eden Fantasies - a wide variety ranging from U$9 to U$114;

Babeland - a variety ranging from U$25 to U$110, plus some that you have to look at the descriptions to find the price;

JT's Stockroom - a wide variety in several categories. I didn't bother checking out each category for prices :rolleyes:

And even Amazon.com has a number of plugs you might want to check out.

Those are just the first five sites I found with a quick google search for "anal plugs." I am not recommending any of them, just giving you a starting point for your search.
 
Sir_Winston54 said:
As an aid in shopping:

Adam & Eve - a variety ranging from U$8 to U$50;

Eden Fantasies - a wide variety ranging from U$9 to U$114;

Babeland - a variety ranging from U$25 to U$110, plus some that you have to look at the descriptions to find the price;

JT's Stockroom - a wide variety in several categories. I didn't bother checking out each category for prices :rolleyes:

And even Amazon.com has a number of plugs you might want to check out.

Those are just the first five sites I found with a quick google search for "anal plugs." I am not recommending any of them, just giving you a starting point for your search.
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Thank you Sir! These are lovely sites indeed. *whips out the plastic*
 
An enema is plenty. I agree with CM, not eating beforehand is going overboard. Trust me, an enema will clean you out PLENTY. :)
 
I'm a big fan of plenty of lube, but I've noticed a lot of water-based lube can sometimes dislodge or dissolve matter in that area, creating a mess. We haven't had the same experience with silicone lube. That may be due to its texture, inherent properties, slickness & durability (so we don't use as much as we would a water-based lube), all of the above, or something else, but we've found it has some definite advantages like this for anal play especially.

I'm also really big on cleanliness when it comes to anal, but because doing an enema every time is impractical for me, the combo of making sure I pooped earlier that day, don't have any digestive issues (soft stool, constipation, etc.), using the right lube and protection in the form of condoms and gloves, ensures a clean experience. The condoms/gloves are critical because if there IS a bit of a mess, I never really see it (even when I'm giving) since the condom/glove immediately gets slipped off and thrown in the trash. Dark-colored condoms and gloves are even more helpful.

Anyway, even without anything but a good shower before and the above routine, when I've purposely looked at the condom/glove, a few small spots of poop here and there are the only "mess." No big deal, especially because we're not in the habit of looking at the protection before it gets tossed.

The other real advantage besides no squickiness is, of course, the super easy clean-up. Good washing always happens after, but with condoms and such, it can wait until we're totally done with everything. And we don't have to worry about cross-contamination like we would without condoms and gloves. :cool:

I don't know if that's helpful or not, but that's how we deal with the cleanliness issue. Maybe you could try it as an intermediate step, and if you're feeling particularly worried on occasion or you find it's not enough, you can go for the enema.
 
As far as cleaning is concerned I was thinking a bottle brush could do wonders. Sponge, foam or very soft bristle. Just don't use anything that could scratch or do worse.
 
This is one of my favorite sites: www.dear-lady.com (great sales by the way) and since I have problems keeping a plug in me, I got something called a Love Pacifier that looks like the NJoy. The difference is that this is silicone and much less expensive than the stainless steel enjoy (though I wouldn't mind having one of them). The Love Pacifier is also very comfortable, about $10 and it does stay in all day.

Also, to add to the advice on lubing, it works wonders if you also add lube to a finger or two and put them in your butt to add lube inside you too. They even sell lube that comes in bottles that have nozzles for just that effect.
 
I'm impressed with how mature this conversation has gone so far, I started a thread about this very topic on the GB some time ago and got a very different reaction.

For my case, my sub and I fuck anally quite often and VERY rarely do we encounter even the smudgiest smidgeons of poo, which amazes me to no end. She has a procedure, I'm sure of it, but she refuses to tell me in an attempt to keep up the mystique and keep me seeing her anus as a sexual and not waste producing orifice.

We've been together for two years and I honestly don't think I've ever walked in on her poop, or even seen her in the bathroom long enough to be pooping. She is like like the James Bond of non-pooping anal subs.

I do love her very much, silly girl.
 
PUBLIC WARNING ANNOUNCEMENT
You can do an enema and you can use lube but PLEASE do not decide to combine them both into one act. Moon thought it'd be a great idea to take a turkey baster, fill with with lube and pump it into me since we were planning on one of the bigger toys..... It resulted in 45 seconds of sex and 28 hours of the most uncomfortable, smelly, and humiliating bathroom experiences of my life. :mad:
THIS HAS BEEN A PUBLIC WARNING ANNOUNCEMENT
 
HarlotMinx said:
PUBLIC WARNING ANNOUNCEMENT
You can do an enema and you can use lube but PLEASE do not decide to combine them both into one act. Moon thought it'd be a great idea to take a turkey baster, fill with with lube and pump it into me since we were planning on one of the bigger toys..... It resulted in 45 seconds of sex and 28 hours of the most uncomfortable, smelly, and humiliating bathroom experiences of my life. :mad:
THIS HAS BEEN A PUBLIC WARNING ANNOUNCEMENT
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Oh my goodness, sorry to hear about that!! My worst experience was a dairy enema. Not recommended!!

(It is acceptable to lube the tip of an enema nozzle, BTW...but I'd follow HM's advice about inserting so much lube!)
 
tenchikoi said:
I was thinking, along with using an enema, would it be a good idea to not eat any solids for 24 hours? Just to be sure nothing....accumulates down there?
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Um... no. If you put liquid in, you'll get liquid out the other end, which is less than fun. Enemas are fairly straightforward but if your partner isn't bothered about traces of faeces on his cock, it might be far simpler for you to adjust. Master and I have anal regularly and I have never used enemas. He doesn't plan when he's going to use me that way and we both like the spontaneity of it. It's nothing that a quick shower won't fix.

You can augment your anal experience by giving yourself some clitoral stimulation or using a vibe on your clit or in your pussy. I very rarely have an A-gasm without other stimulation but playing with myself will have me cumming for him in no time.
 
I agree Marquis. This thread has definitely not gone the way I expected that it would.

Marquis said:
I'm impressed with how mature this conversation has gone so far, I started a thread about this very topic on the GB some time ago and got a very different reaction.

For my case, my sub and I fuck anally quite often and VERY rarely do we encounter even the smudgiest smidgeons of poo, which amazes me to no end. She has a procedure, I'm sure of it, but she refuses to tell me in an attempt to keep up the mystique and keep me seeing her anus as a sexual and not waste producing orifice.

We've been together for two years and I honestly don't think I've ever walked in on her poop, or even seen her in the bathroom long enough to be pooping. She is like like the James Bond of non-pooping anal subs.

I do love her very much, silly girl.
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HarlotMinx said:
PUBLIC WARNING ANNOUNCEMENT
You can do an enema and you can use lube but PLEASE do not decide to combine them both into one act. Moon thought it'd be a great idea to take a turkey baster, fill with with lube and pump it into me since we were planning on one of the bigger toys..... It resulted in 45 seconds of sex and 28 hours of the most uncomfortable, smelly, and humiliating bathroom experiences of my life. :mad:
THIS HAS BEEN A PUBLIC WARNING ANNOUNCEMENT
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LOL, you can see the reasoning with the idea though.

P.S. That's an ace avatar.

Anyway, as others have said, a simple enema will do and is really effective. I use a turkey baster simply because it cost £1.50 and a proper enema thing cost £10 or something daft. Fill with warm water, tiny bit of lube on your butt, squirt in, squirt out, wipe, and there you go. It is that simple :)
 
NALA CAYENNE said:
This is one of my favorite sites: www.dear-lady.com (great sales by the way) <snip>
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<minor hijack> I looked at this site and I was going to place an order when I saw that they wanted the last 4 digits of my ss#. Huh? They say it's to verify age, but I've never seen that before. Does that make anyone else nervous? </hijack>
 
Marquis said:
I'm impressed with how mature this conversation has gone so far, I started a thread about this very topic on the GB some time ago and got a very different reaction.
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It surprises me that it surprised you. It's the GB! Hewwo? Anybody in there? *knocks on Marq's head and looks in his ear* :D
 
Stag of Oberon said:
i'm s little suprised that so far there has been no dire warnings about using vaginal toys as anal toys (and especially vice versa).

*que the people who actually know*
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Don't mix anal and vaginal sex, period. Toys, penises, whatever. Don't mix 'em. It's very bad for the vagina. For cocks, your best bet is to use a condom for anal and remove it when going into the vagina. For toys, either do the same thing, or use separate toys. Do NOT assume that washing a toy is sufficient to allow it to switch spots!
 
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