Had another session with my Domme...

[Kellydude666]

Now that she is getting to know me she turned up the dial on a few things. It was very intense! A lot of teasing which drives me crazy, a lot more spanking and anal torture and a seemingly never ending golden shower to end the session while I was getting off. So, I never really realized this is a lifestyle thats a lot more popular and normal than most vanilla people know. Almost like a secret club that you keep to yourself and others like on this message forum.

A question for you Domme's out there. How long did you know that you were different in way unlike other girls you knew?
Did it start when you were younger?
Or is it something you decided to pick up on a whim but stayed with it because you loved it?
As the Domme, do you get off on it sexually? Or just mentally because you are in total control of your sub?

[CutieMouse]

There will be as many different answers to your questions as people on the planet. As a paid dominatrix, I would imagine there is sime degree if pleasure in the work, but I would also be just as likely she might really be in it to pay the bills.

And yes, more people than you realize are "doing this" with paid professionals, or within their established relationships, or in addition to their established relationships (with or without their partners knowledge).

[Rainbow123]

I was just an ordinary vanilla girl three months ago, or so I thought. I've been called controlling and even a bully but I thought I was just a regular woman . Then I met this guy who told me a bit about how he was a sub to his late wife and BANG the lights went on.

Within a week I had him in chastity, within two I had drawn up a contract and I'm now getting uniforms sorted for maid service. He's flummoxed at how I have become super strict domme extraordinaire in such a short time but the whole concept has me on the ceiling with excitement.

Yes, it excites me sexually but sometimes I can't orgasm as I am distracted by the mental side of what is going on - this alpha male who has totally given himself to me and who backs down with a downwards glance and a "yes mistress" whenever we disagree.

I love it. I love being in control of his orgasms. His huge need for me. It arouses both the sadist in me and a massive protective streak. I could beat the crap out of him (though I haven't yet but I have fantasised about it) but if anyone hurt him I would kill for him.

I've forgotten what your question was now!

[Rainbow123]

Normal? As for normal, it feels normal to me. It's the others I think are weird.

[Rainbow123]

I do a lot of Internet trawling for ideas on where to go with this. He says he hates pain but accepts its part of my armoury as his domme. The stuff that turns me on the most is the sub enduring pain and thanking his mistress for it. Acknowledging he needs the correction and accepting the punishment. Or just thanking her for choosing him to act out her fantasises with.

I'm not sure how far I can take this with my sub and I could ask the same question of you (I looked back to see what you'd asked) - is it sexual or mental. I think it's got to be both, isn't it?