Preparations before anal sex?

Anal sex is now getting to be fashionably acceptable to the Western world. Based on the current studies, more and more people are getting into it.

What are the things you prepared before having an anal sex?

theAdviserMe said:

What are the things you prepared before having an anal sex?

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Shower! that is a biggie. If we are really going to have fun, a few enemas are also in order. Be careful tho, they can and do dehydrate you so drink while playing.

Loads of analese, laytex gloves for the foreplay, more lub, an ample supply of condoms (and do NOT use the same one for vaginal play, and wish I did not have to say that) and some more lub.

Oh, and at least two double vodka martinis. and I do not care if they are shaken or stirred!

And I have him/her take their time. Sometimes a small toy helps at first just for a little play and stretching.

Good luck and take your time.

Hope that helps.

V

I always shower prior, do a quick rinse or two (or three)... lube, lube, lube... go slow... I have condoms for the silicone and jelly toys.. fingers or tongue to loosen things up... clear and open communication with your partner...

I have an issue with using the numbing lubes tho.. the pain or discomfort is there for a reason. It's your body's way of saying what you are doing is harmful or on the verge of doing some damage. If you use the numbing lubes, then you don't get those signals from your body and potentially can cause some serious damage. The boy bought some lube for himself and used a bit of it on me this weekend and I'm convinced it's the best we've tried... Elbow Grease... thick, stays put, stays slippery for ages, little dab'll do ya.

If I'm doing some heavier anal on him I use gloves (more because I will probably end up using my hands on myself later on), keep tissues and a garbage can handy...

Like everyone said...scrub-a-dub-dub before you even THINK about going there.

Also...
- Don't do it on your good sheets.
- Lay a towel down or something. Nothing like a shit nugget laying on the
bed to kill the mood.
- Baby wipes or a damp washcloth standing by
- Condom's for a dildo
- Lube AND LOTS OF IT. I suggest visiting a Costco or Sam's club if you plan to
do this often!
- AND MOST IMPORTANT - Bring your camera! You have to post pics for us when your thru. We DID help you to prepare afterall!

Remember to take deep breaths and relax. Then, as *something* is being inserted, it always helps to push out a little. Makes it glide right in.

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Loads of analese, laytex gloves for the foreplay, more lub, an ample supply of condoms (and do NOT use the same one for vaginal play, and wish I did not have to say that) and some more lub.

Oh, and at least two double vodka martinis. and I do not care if they are shaken or stirred!

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Something's not right with your technique if you need to use a numbing product and/or alcohol or drugs for painless anal. Like GEL said, too, dulling your body's perception of pain is a dangerous proposition.

As for prep, a good shower, orgasm or three, lots of warm-up and lube have always been sufficient for us. The receiver controls the speed of the initial penetration and lets the giver know if there are any problems at any time, and we've found it helps to have clit/cock stimulation during penetration and thrusting.

vivi, is there a way to chat or can you pm me? i wana ask you some questions (cuz you're the only one on this board who's online now) about save (and sensual) anal play, very new and want to make sure it starts good, thx

anoncuriousm said:

vivi, is there a way to chat or can you pm me? i wana ask you some questions (cuz you're the only one on this board who's online now) about save (and sensual) anal play, very new and want to make sure it starts good, thx

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Just because people don't show up as "online" doesn't mean they're not actually online. A lot of members choose to appear "invisible/offline" to avoid getting PMs from random wankers.

The beauty of asking questions on the board is you get a wider variety of information and opinions and others have the opportunity to benefit from that info.

We're pretty good about answering questions honestly without put-downs here in How To, and it's all anonymous, so ask away!

You also may want to read through the Anal section of The Blank Manual sticky. Some or all of your questions may be answered there.

thanks erika,
i really want to try it and what has held me back so far is the fear excretion... suggestion to keep towels, tissues, garbage can, etc on this post makes me think that might happen. how do you make it clean like the porn vids?

anoncuriousm said:

thanks erika,
i really want to try it and what has held me back so far is the fear excretion... suggestion to keep towels, tissues, garbage can, etc on this post makes me think that might happen. how do you make it clean like the porn vids?

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Anyone who has problems with a few specks of poop coming out on the condom or glove after anal probably shouldn't be playing with the ass in the first place.

We've never found ourselves with a mess in the aftermath. We've never needed to put a towel down, either. A few specks has been it, and that's easily taken care of by throwing the condom or glove in the trash right after. For a person who doesn't have digestive issues (e.g. diarrhea or loose stool), having a bowel movement earlier that day, a good shower and not putting lots of liquid up there (tons of lube and even semen can make for a mess) should result in fairly clean anal.

Unscented, alcohol-free baby wipes are a good thing to have on hand for anything that might have bacteria on it. For instance, if you stick your finger in your ass, you might want to wipe it off well with a baby wipe before touching (and contaminating) anything else (even the sink). We prefer gloves and condoms for cleanliness and safety, but we always have wipes ready just in case something goes in unprotected or needs to be cleaned up quickly/easily before it receives a thorough washing.

Porn stars have been known to take tons of laxatives and do many enemas before anal scenes. You shouldn't do either - both are incredibly unhealthy. A plain, warm water enema once in a while is fine, but that may lead to more of a mess by loosening excrement that would otherwise stay there w/o the enema, and enemas should not be done often because they wash away the good bacteria in our intestines, can irritate delicate tissues and lead to bowel movement problems.

I think you should try the basic measures of making sure you've had a good bowel movement recently, a thorough shower, using gloves/condoms and keeping wipes on hand first. If you have a problem with that after a couple of tries, you may want to consider some extra protections, such as changing your diet, putting a towel down and doing a plain enema an hour or so before anal.

Don't worry about anal being porn-clean or expect the worst - porn isn't real life, the ass isn't supposed to be sparkling clean, and with a few precautions, you're unlikely to have problems.

I've never done the complete "high colonic" enema thing, but a few bulb type water rinses a few hours before play, so that the excess water can be reabsorbed, has proven sufficient.

anoncuriousm said:

thanks erika,
i really want to try it and what has held me back so far is the fear excretion... suggestion to keep towels, tissues, garbage can, etc on this post makes me think that might happen. how do you make it clean like the porn vids?

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I've been the one ass up on the receiving end of anal play, and my partner at that time was continually wiping the excess, dripping liquid lube to keep it well clear of my vagina... thus preventing any potential contamination (hey, he's a paramedic, what can I say???)...

I've been the one wiping excess lube or as has happened one time with my new partner, not enough time between rinsing and play... there's extra liquid sometimes. This is easily prevented by making sure there is a bit of time between the rinse and play. Even the bulb syringes have this happen. Having an extra little *sit* about 10 min after the inital rinse and flush will help to eliminate or reduce this.

Oh.. I keep the garbage can handy so that I can toss anything into it right then without having to interrupt the play. It's not about it being dirty, it's about keeping the continuity of the fun flowing..!!!

Saturday night we had a wee bit of anal play... at the end there was a bit of a mess on the sheets... lube and cum (his and mine)... that is the reason the towel was suggested.

Clean like porn??? Three to four enemas, don't eat for that day, laxatives the day prior.. etc... is that really what you want?? I've had spontaneous anal and planned anal.. and like Erika said, if you don't want to deal with any potential poop issues, then you might not want to do anal at all.

For the record.. I've never had a major poop sighting doing anal.

I'm not convinced about too much preparation. Spur of the moment is much more romantic and lustful. Anal sex isn't really very dirty at all, normally, but as several people have said, if you're very *very* squeamish about poo, this probably isn't for you.

So far all the suggestions on here are good ones. Shower first. LOTS of lube as anuses do not provide a natural lube like the Vag's do. Start w/ a finger or small toy to get them used to the feeling. When it's time for you to go in... I suggest doggy style position and let them come back on you. They know when it starts to hurt or get uncomfortable and can stop for a second or two and then continue down until you're all the way in. The first 10 or so strokes, take it slow.. let them get used to it. Better yet, just let them tell you when you can go faster or harder... once they're into it, it's all game on!

Enema's or lots of fiber a couple days before always helps too. And NEVER EVER cross-fuck between anal and vaginal. That's a good way to get your partner's vag infected... and nobody likes an infected vag.

Actually, there is one kind of preparation I do think works well: sex.

Usually, when my girlfriend and I know we want to have anal sex, we have vaginal sex first. What we both find is that our orgasms help relax our anuses slightly, which makes the penetration easier, smoother and more pleasurable.

There may be no physiological basis to this at all, but it really does seem that way - I suppose it might be psychological. But certainly, the initial love-making does get us in a nice, sexy, langorous mood, and kind of warms us up for what follows. And our vaginas are nice and wet, because of the orgasms, which helps a bit with lubrication and all that sort of thing.

I'd recommend it for 'straight' anal sex, too - but, obviously, only the woman should orgasm beforehand. The man will never get hard enough to penetrate her anus if he's already come.