Old 06-11-2016, 05:25 PM   #1
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Let's Talk About... 'Ghosting'

Let's talk about online ghosting. (whoo000oooOOOO)


How do you define it?

Why do women do it? Why do men do it?

Who do you think does it more often?

Have you ever had someone 'go ghost' on you? How did you feel about it?

Have you ever gone ghost on someone else? Why? Did you ever regret it later?

What have you learned from your experiences with it?

Is ghosting ever the right thing to do?


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Old 06-11-2016, 05:39 PM   #2
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I would define ghosting as abandonment of a relationship, cutting off all ties or ways of communication, especially without any sort of end-of-times convo or closure given to the other party

this has happened to me with a close friend who misunderstood something I said, read WAY into it, thinking I was talking about him (even though I told the story in third person..)

it took me a while to figure out what had happened. we had no mutual friends to go to for insight. he deleted every way for me to contact him and I'm still confused and hurt. we were very close

I do think there is a time and place for ghosting, but usually just in extenuating circumstances. most people deserve that talk and that explanation.

it's a great way to make someone feel replaceable 😔
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Old 06-11-2016, 05:48 PM   #3
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I would define ghosting as abandonment of a relationship, cutting off all ties or ways of communication, especially without any sort of end-of-times convo or closure given to the other party

this has happened to me with a close friend who misunderstood something I said, read WAY into it, thinking I was talking about him (even though I told the story in third person..)

it took me a while to figure out what had happened. we had no mutual friends to go to for insight. he deleted every way for me to contact him and I'm still confused and hurt. we were very close

I do think there is a time and place for ghosting, but usually just in extenuating circumstances. most people deserve that talk and that explanation.

it's a great way to make someone feel replaceable 😔
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Old 06-11-2016, 06:01 PM   #4
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I don't know any women that have done it. No. I have never ghosted anyone, nor would I. Someone I know, I mean. That I have a relationship with.

I think it sucks and is the most cowardly thing someone can do.
Can you tell it was done to me?
By a friend. I expected us to stop talking. I just never thought after a 15 year friendship there wouldn't even be a goodbye, or any closure.

Boo to ghosts.
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Old 06-11-2016, 06:01 PM   #5
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Has happened to me twice. Once, a friend assumed too much and decided he should step away and uncomplicate my life. More recently, a real life relationship developed and he was too chicken to tell me. In both instances, I contacted them with a 'wtf' message and we straightened it out. But it's not the same.

It's one thing to end or change a relationshop. It's quite another to just go silent. Do they think you're not going to notice?

If I'm guilty of it myself it's probably because I'm busy with RL and I would hope that someone calls me on it.
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Sounds awful, no, haven't, no wouldn't...
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