@}-}rebecca----
not enough discipline ...
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I received the following correspondence/private message in 'BSDM Librarian' Mode yesterday after sharing a conversation regarding the Lochai Art in my AV and the also the Art Threads in the Cafe. I suggested after giving my own opinion that it might be more prudent to submit to the Forum Community for more comprehensive feedback. The gentleman whom will remain anonymous has given me his express permission to do so and will be reading the thread with interest.
He did not frame the Thread title, I did. It seems to be the undertow to the following .....
Any thoughts please
He did not frame the Thread title, I did. It seems to be the undertow to the following .....
i thought to address this issue with you to perhaps gain some insight and feedback regarding my concern pertaining to the dynamic of power and control within a bdsm context.
i thought that you might be interested sharing your thoughts based on your own perceptions and experience as well as that of others that you have may have communicated with over time.
i am initially curious about how you would you define the attraction to bdsm, from both an objective and subjective point of view?
i believe that i understand, and more importantly am relieved by what seems to a strongly advocated and consistent emphasis on (safety) during practices.
my concern lies primarily with the potential of adverse psychological repercussions in individuals that for example may have a history of genuine domestic victimization, and or the perpetration of domestic abuse.
from a personal standpoint i have learned to abhor the very concept of abusive behavior on every point along it's seemingly endless continuum, and can't help but concern myself with the thought of so many systemically and perversely abusive men out there assuming bdsm as a perfect vehicle in which to subject a partner to their abuse.
in summary;
1. while the concept, practice, and attraction to bdsm for an individual remains largely elusive to me personally, i would like to understand it better from an wholly objective standpoint.
2. my concerns are far less focused on standard practices associated with bdsm, and almost exclusively with what i will consider a very probable potential for an abuser's interpretations of what may be accepted standards of behavior within the bdsm community, to serve his own inclination to use as nothing more than further means to victimize his partner.
thanks for your attention
Any thoughts please
