I'm smitten with a Vanilla.
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snowy ciara
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I suggest a bottle of good whiskey and a copy of "when someone you love is kinky" and some nice gentle bondage porn.
If that doesn't work, I have tea and sympathy.
If that doesn't work, I have tea and sympathy.
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(((cutie)))
I wish there was a way to make it better for you and Coy both.
I wish there was a way to make it better for you and Coy both.
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CutieMouse said:
This happened in my marriage. Former lover appeared. Then disappeared. My husband at the time, was gracious enough to give me the time to work on me.
But, ultimately, my husband at the time and I separated. We can't even talk to one another.
The former lover and I are still good friends.
You definitely need wine. I have lots.
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coy_one said:How the hell did this happen?
Fuck. I married a vanilla. It was suffocating. I need the kink.
You have my empathy.
Please be careful though, we often have tendencies to repeat our mistakes/bad decisions/ whatever, especially when we are going through a transition period.http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2233/2052066401_be7d982856_t.jpg Catalina
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Not all vanilla is the same...and not all vanilla is without some kink. I absolutely love my vanilla marriage, hubby's not into BDSM but he's not anti-kink, he's very open minded.
See how it goes....
See how it goes....
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CutieMouse said:
Fascinating. I would bitch slap the ex and make him understand that he should stop messing with your feelings. Protection includes protection from your own bad choices.
Uhm.. regarding Vanilla and the original posting. It can work out or not, it really depends on the two styles. A vegetarian and a meat freak can have a happy satisfying relationship and a fun meal for both, too, if they find a way which works for both of them. If not, then they are not just compatible - this happens so often in the world and in so many areas, why should sex be a different one? If everyone would be the perfect match.. life would be boring..
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Wow, coy and Cutie both with dilemnas in the same thread...
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I wish I had words of wisdom to share here, but I will hold my counsel until (and unless) it's asked for.
Just know that I wish the best for your both.
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I wish I had words of wisdom to share here, but I will hold my counsel until (and unless) it's asked for.
Just know that I wish the best for your both.
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My hubby-to-be is largely vanilla.. and I'm okay with that, I think. The sex is great, though sometimes I crave a little more pain than he can administer, as he's reluctant to hurt me, whether or not he harms me.
I love him to pieces, though... so I cope.
I love him to pieces, though... so I cope.
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me as well -coy_one said:
just came out of no where, great gal, enjoys sex, fun to be with
struggles with my fem stuff but is working to be cool with it, I gota take out jewelry from one piercing for sex play but it goes back in after, she wants to see all my toys "someday".
We shall see, we shall see - I do enjoy her company.
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I'm in a similar situation and was actually going to ask on here for some advice- my fiance, although not actually vanilla has real problems with BDSM in that he feels- in his own words ''like he's playing a game'' when we do scene. He just can't seem to get hardcore enough for me, so i never feel, even when I'm bound, like I'm not in control. I feel like I'm constantly topping from the bottom and it's starting to ruin the who thing for me. Any advice would be so gladly received.
[sorry for the hijack]
[sorry for the hijack]
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FurryFury said:
I have to second this. I have lost count of the number of threads we have had here from people who are married or in a de facto relationship with someone who is not compatible with them in terms of their BDSM/kink, and are agonising on how to either live without their preference the rest of their life, or live through the pain of ending the relationship and starting all over again. It is not easy, but a lot easier before becoming so deeply commited and bound together by chidren, history, and finances. Especially worth considering if vanilla has been a point of contension in a relationship before....repeating patterns of behaviour is not obligatory.
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