Hi there i am new to this forum, but have been happily collared to my Master for three years living 24/7, and previous to that Wwe were in a ldr... recently i had a mishap with my collar which has never really left me since it was placed upon me, and it was removed, due to it being damaged... what i wish to know is how others handled this situation, for me it felt like a whole part of me was missing... and it effected me physically also... i am sorry if this is not explained very well, and once again thanks in advance for responding.
Effects of collars on subs/slaves.
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SweetErika
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From what I've read on the many threads here on collars and collaring, I'd guess a good number of people have felt, or would feel, the same way about having to remove theirs for whatever reason.
Perhaps you would take comfort in a temporary substitute until a suitable replacement is found? For example, maybe your Master/Pick Your Label could place a piece of jewelry on you, telling you it's your collar in a different form for the time being, or something similar to put you at ease.
Perhaps you would take comfort in a temporary substitute until a suitable replacement is found? For example, maybe your Master/Pick Your Label could place a piece of jewelry on you, telling you it's your collar in a different form for the time being, or something similar to put you at ease.
ender1818
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SweetErika said:
Seeing as how my sub is employed in a position that requires complete secrecy, I have provided her with a piece of jewelry that subs for a collar when we are in public. In our case it is a nice piece of jewelry that she wears that is easily seen and reminds her that she is mine.
Now for her, I found a bracelet that is hard metal that fastens with a celtic knot--symbolic of the knotted ropes that she loves so much when it is just the 2 of us.
Anyway, perhaps asking for something like that will show your commitment to your PYL while getting your collar back.
Just a suggestion
SubKekiLee
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for US we both have pretty high profile jobs so mine has told me to subsitute for my collar when we are public he will buy me a charm for my italian charm braclet that will be the letter in gold of K- Now K stands for Kajira and my name... NO one but he and I know what that means ..
many thanks to all who responded, i guess i didn't make myself quite clear, my permanent collar is a peice of jewellery, a bracelet in fact, it is repaired now and back where it belongs, i guess my real question is how do others feel when they are unable to wear their collars? Does it effect them in anyway, either physically or emotionally? 
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SubKekiLee said:
No one but me, you, him and everyone who has read your post..
<snort>
SubKekiLee
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Chris_Xavier said:No one but me, you, him and everyone who has read your post..
<snort>
Let me clairfy this... NO ONE in the Nilla world.. hahahaah
<snort> Im gonna get you Chris!!! LOL
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SubKekiLee said:
Many have tried.. none have succeed!
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ssnot4u said:my real question is how do others feel when they are unable to wear their collars? Does it effect them in anyway, either physically or emotionally?
I have experienced having my collar off and being repair at the jewelers. It doesn't affect me physically to not have it on, but I do miss it and am always very happy to have it back where it belongs. My collar is a lovely symbol that I greatly value, but it is my Joe that matters. As long as he isn't off being repaired I'm a happy gurl.
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It looks expensive
It is one of the nicest collars I have ever seen. Very classy
It is one of the nicest collars I have ever seen. Very classy
His_pita said:I have experienced having my collar off and being repair at the jewelers. It doesn't affect me physically to not have it on, but I do miss it and am always very happy to have it back where it belongs. My collar is a lovely symbol that I greatly value, but it is my Joe that matters. As long as he isn't off being repaired I'm a happy gurl.
myinnerslut
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ssnot4u said:
i wore my collar aroun my neck for seven months... untill the metal started to react with my skin and i had to stop.
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the captians wench
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My mom relates my collar to a security blanket. When I wear my leather collar out, or even one of the pretty substitutes I have, I do tend to walk differently and think a bit differently than I do when I don't have it on. I can't wear it at work, and most of the chokers I have I can't wear either, so when I work I tend to go bear necked. It used to make me feel insecure, but now I notice that if I do sneak one of the chokers in, I don't feel as well as in charge as I need to be to do my job. But once the job is done, I often keep my collar in my bag so that I can put it on as soon as I'm out the door.
I agree that it's very nice and being able to help with the custom design of my own collar is a real gift. 
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ssnot4u said:many thanks to all who responded, i guess i didn't make myself quite clear, my permanent collar is a peice of jewellery, a bracelet in fact, it is repaired now and back where it belongs, i guess my real question is how do others feel when they are unable to wear their collars? Does it effect them in anyway, either physically or emotionally?
my collar chokes me so i cannot wear it. the answer to your question is yes, it makes me upset that i cannot wear it, i don't think i can honestly say that it's made me physically ill or anything. but it defiantly upsets me when i go to grab a hold of it, and it's not there. Daddy bought me another one while He was here last time, but it broke before He left so i can't even wear it now
. it's been months since i've worn my collar and i miss it. but i know He'll get me another one, one that i won't ever have to take off so i'm ok with it.my thanks for responding, maybe it is like a security blanket of sorts for me too, i am often joked about as being addicted to it as i am always playing or touching it... and this is from my 'nilla friends who have no idea about my lifestlye. Once i was over the inital shock of not wearing mine, i was able to cope all be it sort of halfheartly... i felt like a peice of me was missing... i am honestly happy that you have found that peace within yourself to be able to cope with just having yours near...
thanks for your response, i too often grab mine, and play with it, and it matters not if i am happy or sad, it is just constantly there as is His love in my heart, and that is truly the most important thing...
