Just how dangerous is prolonged teasing?

[naxalite0906]

Hello again.
This is something I have always wondered about but I have never taken it upon myself to ask or find out more detail.

I have always been a fan of prolonged teasing, both for myself and for females I am with and obviously this plays a big role in some D/s situations as orgasm denial/control can play a part in many relationships. (I have posted the question here as obviously this is not just a D/s issue.)

What I want to know is, just how dangerous is it to tease to the brink of orgasm but then not actually orgasm. I do not know about women, but I have often heard the phrase "blue balls" and since this is something I have done, I just want to know whether I am doing any serious damage. During some play both me, and my ex partners have gotten worked up but never orgasmed. This may stay this way for a few hours, but in some denial situations it has been as long as a day or two until we both allow the "release" so to speak. Is this something other people do, or can it be something that causes long term damage?

Thanks for listening.

[wicked woman]

Can't speak from the male perspective, but as far as women are concerned I've never heard anything about it causing any damage in a woman. Certainly not in terms of hours.

In fact, just partook of that recently...build up and stop, then building up a little more each time...then stopping ...did that for a few hours. Trust me the resulting orgasm was wonderful and I'm feeling just fine.

[naxalite0906]

Originally Posted by wicked woman

Can't speak from the male perspective, but as far as women are concerned I've never heard anything about it causing any damage in a woman. Certainly not in terms of hours.

In fact, just partook of that recently...build up and stop, then building up a little more each time...then stopping ...did that for a few hours. Trust me the resulting orgasm was wonderful and I'm feeling just fine.

Yes, I do that too.. Some masturbation sessions for me go on for hours as I just like to tease over and over.. Makes the resulting orgasm much stronger...

[Bobmi357]

It's a little different for a guy. If you don't do it carefully you'll end up with a marvelous case of blue balls.

While I love to tease my wife and enjoy when she tease back, I've learned that prolonged teasing for me ultimately frustrates me and then little bob takes a nap and I end up grumpy and unsatisfied.

I'm not saying don't tease guys. But (a) if you're teasing, allow the erection to go away for a few minutes every half hour. And (b) watch for the dreaded blue balls. Once that starts a dozen naked red headed 18yr old virgins dancing naked and begging for some won't save the situation.

-Bob

[wicked woman]

Originally Posted by Bobmi357

I'm not saying don't tease guys. But (a) if you're teasing, allow the erection to go away for a few minutes every half hour. And (b) watch for the dreaded blue balls. Once that starts a dozen naked red headed 18yr old virgins dancing naked and begging for some won't save the situation. -Bob

So this older non virgin red head needn't even apply eh? hey Bob

[Bobmi357]

Originally Posted by wicked woman

So this older non virgin red head needn't even apply eh? hey Bob

Well when the BB's are in play it wouldn't work. Fortunately they aren't blue at the moment so the equipment is working just fine.

[naxalite0906]

Originally Posted by wicked woman

So this older non virgin red head needn't even apply eh? hey Bob

Im sure no one would object lol

[midwestyankee]

It doesn't appear to be dangerous to tease a woman for an extended period of time. It's quite common in certain D/s relationships for the woman to be allowed only a small number of orgasms per month and they might be days or even weeks apart, all at the direction of the dominant. Even in a non D/s relationship, I could see where agreeing to not orgasm for a longish period just before a special weekend might - but where the time is filled with constant teasing and build-up - make the initial contact have electricity that one doesn't usually experience.

That said, I can concur with Bobmi that blue balls are not any fun at all.

[naxalite0906]

Originally Posted by midwestyankee

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That said, I can concur with Bobmi that blue balls are not any fun at all.

But is it dangerous? Can it cause lasting damage.. I know that it is bad to have an erection for too long, but not cumming? Is that bad too?

[Bobmi357]

Originally Posted by naxalite0906

But is it dangerous? Can it cause lasting damage.. I know that it is bad to have an erection for too long, but not cumming? Is that bad too?

An erection that lasts longer than four hours can cause severe injury. Remember the penis fills with blood to harden, that blood remains trapped there. Four hours of that and bad things start to happen. That's why most ED medications specifically state that if the erection lasts more than four hours, to seek medical help immediately.

[Llan2193]

One thing to consider is if you do it too often, your body and mind can become so use to doing it that way, you may not be able to orgasm without doing it.

[pimpslap]

Originally Posted by naxalite0906

But is it dangerous? Can it cause lasting damage.. I know that it is bad to have an erection for too long, but not cumming? Is that bad too?

I don't know about long term. But short term it can HURT. Think cramps, but in the ball region.

[poppy1963]

Typically, the erection recedes...lol. If it doesn't...then perhaps you should have THAT looked into. But the tension-building of this practice (so long as your erection recedes) is not dangerous and is quite enhancing of the orgasmic finale... It's fun to do occasionally...doing ANYTHING all the time makes it lose it's luster faster. Find a variety of things to do...some good resources for ideas here are The Blank Manual and the BSDM Library. Some of the milder stuff in the BDSM Library is quite titillating...hee hee!

[naxalite0906]

Originally Posted by poppy1963

Typically, the erection recedes...lol. If it doesn't...then perhaps you should have THAT looked into. But the tension-building of this practice (so long as your erection recedes) is not dangerous and is quite enhancing of the orgasmic finale... It's fun to do occasionally...doing ANYTHING all the time makes it lose it's luster faster. Find a variety of things to do...some good resources for ideas here are The Blank Manual and the BSDM Library. Some of the milder stuff in the BDSM Library is quite titillating...hee hee!

Ok.. so how long is it ok to do that for before you should cum and "release" all of the tension. I have known women to go for days without orgasm because of orgasm denial, what about guys? Anyone experienced this?

[SweetErika]

While a lot of men like to make women think blue balls is a dangerous condition that can only be cured by sex/stimulation from her, it is NOT dangerous in the least. Women get the same thing, and we're still running around with normally functioning genitals.

As for how long is okay or safe to tease a woman, that depends strictly on the woman in question. As with pain, some people have higher thresholds/tolerances than others. Just watch and listen to your partner closely, and use your best judgement on when the time for release is right.

[Bobmi357]

Originally Posted by naxalite0906

Ok.. so how long is it ok to do that for before you should cum and "release" all of the tension. I have known women to go for days without orgasm because of orgasm denial, what about guys? Anyone experienced this?

Here's a shocker for you. Contrary to what you might believe, or want to believe. Men have been known to go days without orgasming daily also.

You might think you're going to explode, but you really aren't so relax.

[Alyx]

If you're still concerned, a little research on your part should answer your questions. I'll get you started.

From this site: http://www.urologychannel.com/testicular-pain/

Unrelieved erection:
An erection that does not end in ejaculation sometimes can cause a dull ache in the testicles. This minor ache, commonly called "blue balls," is harmless and usually goes away within a few hours or when ejaculation occurs.

And from this site: http://www.coolnurse.com/blueballs.htm

It's not harmful to get blue balls, so don't run to the emergency room. If the condition lasts for hours or days after you've stopped being sexually aroused, then see a health care professional.

If the above isn't enough to set your mind at ease, trip on over to your favorite search engine and get to typing!

~Alyx~

[naxalite0906]

Originally Posted by Alyx

If you're still concerned, a little research on your part should answer your questions. I'll get you started.

From this site: http://www.urologychannel.com/testicular-pain/

Unrelieved erection:
An erection that does not end in ejaculation sometimes can cause a dull ache in the testicles. This minor ache, commonly called "blue balls," is harmless and usually goes away within a few hours or when ejaculation occurs.

And from this site: http://www.coolnurse.com/blueballs.htm

It's not harmful to get blue balls, so don't run to the emergency room. If the condition lasts for hours or days after you've stopped being sexually aroused, then see a health care professional.

If the above isn't enough to set your mind at ease, trip on over to your favorite search engine and get to typing!

~Alyx~

Thank you Alyx... My main reason for posting was not out of laziness to look, it was to get people on here to post so I could hear experiences too as well as get information on it. As uncomfortable as it can be, both for males and females, it is nice to know that there isnt any harm being caused. Thanks.

[naxalite0906]

Originally Posted by SweetErika

While a lot of men like to make women think blue balls is a dangerous condition that can only be cured by sex/stimulation from her, it is NOT dangerous in the least. Women get the same thing, and we're still running around with normally functioning genitals.

As for how long is okay or safe to tease a woman, that depends strictly on the woman in question. As with pain, some people have higher thresholds/tolerances than others. Just watch and listen to your partner closely, and use your best judgement on when the time for release is right.

I have never played that card before.. lol... Thanks

Originally Posted by Bobmi357

Here's a shocker for you. Contrary to what you might believe, or want to believe. Men have been known to go days without orgasming daily also.

You might think you're going to explode, but you really aren't so relax.

Thanks again for your input Bobmi. It wasnt a case of wanting to believe anything, more that I just wanted to make sure that the orgasm denial/prolonged teasing was not causing any lasting damage.

[poppy1963]

I've purposely done the "tension-building" activities for both hours and days. Sometimes depending on what the days were like otherwise, it didn't work...especially if there was lots of stress in other ways. Hours has generally worked ok/well though! When the "days" thing works, it can be quite powerful. I recently "taught" another Litster about this and he used it in RL with a well-known partner and they loved it. COOOOOOL...huh? Damn I would have loved to be the RL partner with him...but he lives "across the pond"...boo hoo!

[naxalite0906]

Originally Posted by poppy1963

I've purposely done the "tension-building" activities for both hours and days. Sometimes depending on what the days were like otherwise, it didn't work...especially if there was lots of stress in other ways. Hours has generally worked ok/well though! When the "days" thing works, it can be quite powerful. I recently "taught" another Litster about this and he used it in RL with a well-known partner and they loved it. COOOOOOL...huh? Damn I would have loved to be the RL partner with him...but he lives "across the pond"...boo hoo!

Do you still give lessons... lol

I often tease myself for hours, it gives a much greater pleasure..

[poppy1963]

Originally Posted by naxalite0906

Do you still give lessons... lol

I often tease myself for hours, it gives a much greater pleasure..

LOL! When I've done them for days, it's not a constant teasing. It's usually been like several episodes of building arousal whether that's through teasing with a partner or with myself...damn...teasing for days sounds glorious! I doubt I could "hold back" for that long...but sometimes a nice slow dance of '69in'...well...it seems like I could go for days in that state! *sighs*

[eudaemonia]

Originally Posted by poppy1963

...damn...teasing for days sounds glorious! I doubt I could "hold back" for that long

Interesting discussion, All.

It just occurred to me that during periods like now where I'm studying for finals and writing papers under deadline pressure but taking periodic work breaks from by playing on Lit in which I end up getting deliciously worked up, I'm basically doing orgasm denial for hours or sometimes a couple of days at a time in the name of academic productivity.

I wouldn't call it painful but it can be unpleasant to not release the physical tension. It's a dull-throbbing, very mild hurt --- waaaay unlike menstrual cramps. So to the poster who said, "like cramps, but in the balls" ... um, frankly, I'm a tad incredulous. Not trying to be dismissive about what you felt, just that there's *discomfort* and then there's discomfort.

[pimpslap]

Originally Posted by eudaemonia

I wouldn't call it painful but it can be unpleasant to not release the physical tension. It's a dull-throbbing, very mild hurt --- waaaay unlike menstrual cramps. So to the poster who said, "like cramps, but in the balls" ... um, frankly, I'm a tad incredulous. Not trying to be dismissive about what you felt, just that there's *discomfort* and then there's discomfort.

Depends on the person. With me, I can't even let underwear brush up against them without massive pain. That being said, it's pretty rare I get that way.

All depends on the person.

[Not Normal]

Its been a long time since I've had the dreaded blue balls, but it was always cumming that was the best way to get rid of it.