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serijules

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I don't know if this has been done before. Who cares, lets talk about it again anyhow.

What kind of collar do you wear, if any? Did you have a ceremony, how were you asked or how did you ask your partner? Were you asked at all? If you had a ceremony, what was it like? If you are planning one, what will it involve? Anyone have any funny or "blooper" collaring moments or stories of past collarings that you are embarrassed by?

Blah blah blah....just tell us all about your current or past or future collar and how it came about, or how you collared your bottom. Take the topic and run with it!
 
Yay, I like this topic!

I only have one collar, a very basic, functional black leather one with three silver D-rings. I didn't have any sort of ceremony. B. came to visit me at my apartment. I had no idea that he intended to collar me (I'd hoped, though!), so it came as a complete surprise.

He had me blindfolded and tied to one of my kitchen chairs in the middle of my bedroom. He'd used a play collar on me before while playing, so I didn't really think anything of it when he put my collar around my neck and locked it into place. That is, until he called me his slave, untied me, and made love to me. The first time I called him Master was one of the happiest moments of my life. (Yes, I realize how sappy this paragraph is.)

I'm a very quiet and private person, so I appreciated the fact that he'd chosen to make it a private and intimate occasion without a whole lot of fanfare. Any kind of elaborate ritual or ceremony would've probably embarrassed me (and isn't really his style, anyway). I don't have any pics from that day, but here's one of me in my collar, grinning stupidly at B., the photographer.
 
Mine at this point (may change if we find something that is less trouble health wise) is just a plain black leather collar with a buckle at the back, no rings or studs. He collared me as we enjoyed our first kiss ever, just after he came through the arrival gate at the international terminal after he flew to Oz from The Netherlands. As I have long hair and it was hanging loose, it was easy to perform the collaring without attracting any attention, especially given he was embracing me in a passionate kiss which made my head spin. :cathappy: There was no ceremony or sharing the moment with anyone else, and apart from a few lines of commitment he had given me to memorise and speak to him on meeting, there was no formal type vow or contract involved. It was over in a moment, and we walked off to get his money changed and then drive to the coast for a few days of getting to know each other in the flesh. We are both very private people and so having any big ceremony was just not something we envisioned as doable or even wanted.

Catalina :catroar:
 
I don't have a collar, because we can't afford a collar that won't cause an allergic reaction to my skin. Eventually we'd like to get one.
 
I don't have a collar from this particular guy. (I have one from the previous one.) He did buy me a real cool cover for my iPod though. Does that count? LOL

He wants to mark me with a tatto but at this point in my life, I'm still thinking I'll live to be 80 and I don't want a tatto on my aged old body. Something about that on my body at a very advanced age makes me go ick...

His brand I may not mind so much though, if I can ever get past the pain issue.
 
my collar

This is definitely going to sound strange, but i purchased my own. my Master comes from a very Christian family who wouldn't begin to understand what it means, and since He lives with them (for health reasons), W/we both decided that i should be the one to purchase it. There was no formal ceremony, and in fact, He gave me permission to wear it before He actually saw it so that i could get used to it. (Now i'm wearing a lighter day collar until after graduation--at the request of my Mommy and the permission of Sir--, and it's driving me INSANE). The last time i was with Him, it was O/our first time acting on the D/s inclination, so before i walked into His room, i put it on, and until yesterday, it didn't come off. His Mom thinks it's a choker, as it's just basic black leather with a single O ring, and on that is a silver heart charm with my name on the front and "Property of CJB" on the back. She hasn't looked very closely at it yet, and i pray she never does, lol. Still, every time i think of the first time i knelt before Him collared, and He called me His sweet slave... it gives me chills.
 
i have two that are for play, a black one with an O ring at the front of my throat, and a red dog collar we got at an 89 cents store. the one i wear every day is my real collar, the one that holds the meaning. it is lighter and is to the rest of the world a black and clear crystal choker.

i never had a "real" ceremony. we bought it together, after looking through three other stores first. then he had me hold it in a bag until he pulled up to my driveway. as he hooked it around my neck he asked me a few questions, but each word gave me chills and i felt like there was so much meaning behind the few simple words that were said.

Sir: who are you?
me: your puppy, your slut, yours to use, simply yours
Sir: why am i putting this around your neck?
me: becuase you own me. becuase i am yours. becuase i love being yours and love you.
Sir: good puppy
 
My first "collaring" was a joke, and I don't even count it as a collar anymore although at the time I thought it was real and well, good. I was embarrassed about it though, so not sure why that wasn't a warning signal to me at the time. I guess I just really wanted to belong to the community and thought that's what it took. The collar itself was one I already had as I didn't trust him to pick out anything decent LOL. It really all was very much a joke and didn't last long at all, although he hurt me deeply. There was no real ceremony about it, even though he did collar me at a party, it was in the privacy of the bedroom.

My second relationship did not want a collar to be in the picture, and I did. She wanted me to be hers in every way but didn't want to even consider collaring me, which didn't work for me. I couldn't understand why she wouldn't take that step if she intended to consider me hers. After nearly a year of this, I just didn't see a future in the relationship other than friendship so we parted ways.

My current relationship....we knew from the start she would collar me and it was actually me that needed to wait awhile for it to happen as I was with her shortly after breaking up with previous Domme, who was a good friend of hers. In hindsight, she was whom I was meant to be with all along, I just didn't see that despite WANTING it. Never thought it would be possible.

One night during a visit after we'd been together a few months, she handed me a gorgeous wooden box engraved with dolphins (her symbol). Inside was a red leather collar with a brass nameplace that said "garnet" and "property of Dawnie". I was so clueless, I swear....I wasn't sure what it meant, I didn't want to believe that she was really taking me as hers. She does not collar lightly and is sought after by nearly everyone she plays with. I couldn't believe that she would want ME as one of her own. Not just a friend and play partner, but as her property. Even reading that collar, I wasn't sure. I just smiled and thanked her and...I don't remember what I did after that lol. There was no ceremony, no WORDS. She didn't ask me, we didn't even really talk about it. It simply was how things were.

As luck would have it, the collar was too small. That night while she was at work, I cut a hole in the very end of the collar just so it could fit around my neck even though it wouldn't buckle properly. I was afraid to put it on myself though, so I fell asleep with it in my hands. She put it on me the next morning.

I am not sure we ever announced it to our friends. They all knew I was hers anyhow and always meant to be hers. Heck, everyone knew it but me.

The collar is permanent. I do have physical collars that are different, such as my locking slave collar of steel that I wear only when with her, and my screw-on silver collar I wear 24/7 the rest of the time. She says she is the only owner I will ever know. I believe it.

A ceremony isn't our style either. Ma'am is not into public displays unless it is for her amusement.
 
CollaredTigressK8 said:
This is definitely going to sound strange, but i purchased my own.
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Doesn't sound strange...I actually bought the everyday collar I wear now and the one prior to it.

My first everyday collar was an italian charm bracelet with dolphins on each link and a letter D for one link. I wore it 24/7. It started irritating me and no matter what I tried, I couldn't stop breaking out, so I asked Ma'am permission to look for a replacement, although I was very bummed as this one held so much meaning to me.

I ended up finding and purchasing, with Ma'ams permission, a Tiffany style chain with a silver heart tag engraved with garnet. That too irritated me after about 9 months of wearing it, so I had to remove it. Again, I was so bummed.

We finally ended up deciding I would spend the money on a silver collar from bondagecollars.com and I've been wearing this one 24/7 for ever a year with no problems. I take it off once a month on the 3rd (the day she collared me) and polish it to keep it in good shape. The old chain one hangs from the rearview mirror in her car.

The original bracelet is back on my wrist. I have no idea why it suddenly no longer irritates me, it's like my body put up with it so long it finally became immune, as I never wanted to take it off. It now has 3 more charms on it...a garnet because she calls me her garnet....a horseshoe to symbolize my being her ponygirl, and a lock to embrace my growth into her slave. I absolutely adore this bracelet and it is my favourite gift she's ever given me. Two of the charms she gave me, two I purchased with her permission.

I don't think it matters who actually buys a collar or a tattoo or whatever. I think we both paid part of our tattoos or I paid for them...I can't recall. She bought my labia piercing and my steel slave collar (both complete surprises to me...the piercing I didn't know what was happening until I was in the shop with my legs spread LOL). I bought my everyday collars. It just doesn't matter...they were what SHE wanted. It's actually very meaningful to me when I am able to purchase something she wants for me, as it is a service to her.

I'm long winded today, sorry all...just feeling nostalgic I guess :)
 
I used to have a collar, a balck one with a single D ring on the front. I wore it for about a year untill it started to bother my neck, then Master rdered me not to anymore. :-( I miss it...

We didn't have any ceremony, and I think it was his idea i I remember right. He put the collar on me in the car right after we bought it and said I was his. That's all I needed. :heart:
 
PleasurePuppy said:
He put the collar on me in the car right after we bought it and said I was his. That's all I needed. :heart:
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i know what you mean... for some reason big ceremonies never sat rigth with me. before the collar i wear now, i wore a necklace that A made. on the inside it said "property of **his name**". i wore that 24/7 for months and months, but never had a ceremony for that either
 
collaring her...

We were in a pet store at ten in the morning. I had taken her here specifically to buy the collar and she was skittish and nervous. I fingered each collar I liked lovingly, Lingering on a simple black collar with a simple buckle and snap ring.

When I picked it up I heard her breath catch. Her eyes were riveted on my hands and the collar. I unbuckled it and she started to blush. It hung open loosely in my hand as I slid the open strap across her face. Her tongue darted out to taste it. I slapped it around her throat one-handed, and she gasped. As my hands buckled the collar she started to come. I made her walk to the cash register wearing the collar. I handed the tag to the cashier and she seemed not to notice. We walked out holding hands and got in the car.

I heard her whimper and whisper, "please touch me Daddy, I need to come again in your hand." I was silent, and made her wait. All the way back to the hotel she fidgeted and made little noises.

When we got to the Motel I let her enter the room first. She watched me enter the room and begged again, "please Daddy, can I come? I'll do whatever you want, please."

I used her roughly until late in the afternoon. All that she needed.
 
captainscarlett said:
We were in a pet store at ten in the morning. I had taken her here specifically to buy the collar and she was skittish and nervous. I fingered each collar I liked lovingly, Lingering on a simple black collar with a simple buckle and snap ring.

When I picked it up I heard her breath catch. Her eyes were riveted on my hands and the collar. I unbuckled it and she started to blush. It hung open loosely in my hand as I slid the open strap across her face. Her tongue darted out to taste it. I slapped it around her throat one-handed, and she gasped. As my hands buckled the collar she started to come. I made her walk to the cash register wearing the collar. I handed the tag to the cashier and she seemed not to notice. We walked out holding hands and got in the car.

I heard her whimper and whisper, "please touch me Daddy, I need to come again in your hand." I was silent, and made her wait. All the way back to the hotel she fidgeted and made little noises.

When we got to the Motel I let her enter the room first. She watched me enter the room and begged again, "please Daddy, can I come? I'll do whatever you want, please."

I used her roughly until late in the afternoon. All that she needed.
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It's a lovely story, but I would be seriously annoyed if people did that in front of me. Whether I was a customer or cashier, I wouldn't want to see people basically fucking in the middle of the shop. (Well, that's assuming that putting a collar around somebody's neck can make them have an orgasm, which I seriously doubt just based on human anatomy...if it is possible, it must make life terribly complicated.)

Anyway, yeah. Nice story, really obnoxious reality. :rolleyes:
 
serijules said:
I don't know if this has been done before. Who cares, lets talk about it again anyhow.

What kind of collar do you wear, if any? Did you have a ceremony, how were you asked or how did you ask your partner? Were you asked at all? If you had a ceremony, what was it like? If you are planning one, what will it involve? Anyone have any funny or "blooper" collaring moments or stories of past collarings that you are embarrassed by?

Blah blah blah....just tell us all about your current or past or future collar and how it came about, or how you collared your bottom. Take the topic and run with it!
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I do not wear a collar on a daily basis. I do wear diamond earrings 24/7 that my Daddy bought for me, but they are not a collar substitute...just a gift. We did not have a ceremony that I can remember. My personal collar is a thick leather posture collar that was made to my neck measurements, it probably wouldn't be comfortable for anybody else just because it's such a heavy item and if it didn't fit the wearer properly, it would probably hurt. I vaguely remember being in the shop for the measuring; I was so excited that Daddy was buying something custom-made for me that I was probably in another headspace at the time!

Actually, I don't wear it often at all. It's really mostly a scene piece, when we are in the mood for intense head games or physical play scenes. I have slept it in a few times but it aggravates my hives so it's not a great idea. (Again, it's really thick and padded, so it doesn't float around when I sleep...it just stays in place.) And actually, Daddy is kind of protective of eir kinks, e doesn't like to prance me about in public on the end of a leash or anything, so I don't usually wear it out and about either.

Most of the time what I wear is a dirty, rough piece of cotton rope that's tied in a loop around my neck and used for pulling me here and there. It's fun too.
 
gorgeous collars, pet ... where did you get the thin silver "day" collar ?

does it lock on ?
 
Etoile said:
It's a lovely story, but I would be seriously annoyed if people did that in front of me. Whether I was a customer or cashier, I wouldn't want to see people basically fucking in the middle of the shop. (Well, that's assuming that putting a collar around somebody's neck can make them have an orgasm, which I seriously doubt just based on human anatomy...if it is possible, it must make life terribly complicated.)

Anyway, yeah. Nice story, really obnoxious reality. :rolleyes:
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Lol - clean up by the register!
 
Evil_Geoff said:
These are from my collaring ceremony with janey, back in January.

Some of the BDSM folk here on Lit attended... *smiles*

https://forum.literotica.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=732906
https://forum.literotica.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=732905
https://forum.literotica.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=732903

I just pulled them out of the SouthEastern US Lit Gathering? thread...
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Hey, Geoff, I've looked at those before, but they are really sweet. And she's a cutie!
 
i have two physical collars. one silver chain with a small lock that i wear when we're going to be out and about in vanilla public, when we have "close" vanilla company over (like Daddy's relatives), and when t's (the 12 y.o.) friends are over. otherwise i wear my "real" collar, which is very simple, black leather with 3 silver rings.

we had no collaring ceremony, and the day i got my physical collar was not an indication of any milestone or significant event in our relationship. i had been owned for several months before he put a physical collar on me, basically because he wanted to take his time to find the right one, and also because the collar is not what makes me owned.

i do have a sort of funny/sad collaring ceremony story to tell tho...fairly recently we were invited over to one of Daddy's "Dom" acquaintance's home for a dinner. nothing formal or fancy, just a simple homecooked meal with friends he says. the other folks in attendance would be 3 more Dominants from their group, and the host's new submissive. well we had dinner, and then afterwards as everyone was preparing to leave (in fact we already had our coats on), he pleads with all of us to stay for just a moment longer. everyone agrees, and he ushers us back into the living room. He calls his sub (who he'd known for all of 2 weeks) to him, tells her to kneel at his feet, and begins reciting what sounds an awful lot like vows. it's immediately apparent that he is conducting some sort of surprise collaring ceremony. unfortunately it was a surprise not just to the guests, but to his sub as well. naturally with everyone there watching uncomfortably, she says yes when he asks her if she will be his property for life.

fast forward 2 months later, and the new "slave" has yet to see her "Master" since the night of the "collaring." He is barely in contact with her, and she informed my Master that the two of them had never engaged in erotic activities of ANY kind, and that due to a severe e.d. issue, most sexual activity would be physically impossible anyway. she's new to the lifestyle but very eager, so she was taken in by this "Dom" who is a big talker (all hot air usually), but honestly never wanted anything more than a casual D/s relationship with this guy. she now considers herself "released," since there has been no contact of any kind for over a month.

this story is a typical example of how the lifestyle tends to be inundated with posers and part-timers who don't have a sincere interest in the lifestyle but for whatever odd reason want to seem as if they do. so they expend a mind-boggling amount of time and energy into building these elaborate fake personas and focus heavily on lots of pomp and circumstance....buying all the "cool" bdsm toys and equipment, frequenting the major local bdsm clubs and munches, sometimes even forming or heading groups themselves, and then this guy took it to the extreme with his "collaring ceremony." then, newbies to the lifestyle meet a Master/slave couple like Daddy and i, who don't own a toy bag, don't go to munches, don't engage in scening and never had a collaring ceremony, and think we're inauthentic. just one of the sad side effects of the near mainstreaming of this life. sorry for the ramble.
 
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