are spankings humiliating?

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loss of self control.
crude, animalistic jerking and grunting.
 
Now that would be the spanker...what about the spankee?

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WriterDom said:
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loss of self control.
crude, animalistic jerking and grunting.
 
I never found them humiliating. Something I want and desire can't really be defined as "humiliating" *shrugs*
 
I guess it would depend upon what context one was receiving the spanking for.
 
im_a_voyeur said:
I guess it would depend upon what context one was receiving the spanking for.

and also how it was given, naked over the knee is different then pulling my pants to my ankles and being apanked bent over a table... being told how sluty i am and pointing out how whoreish my behavior is is more humiliating (and hot) then if the spanker would remain silent.

long answer short, they can be in the right situation
 
actually spankings are always humiliating for me. and since i'm not real big on humiliation it works for the PYL on a lot of different levels ;)
 
I never loss my self control.

I like spank my subbie and she likes be spanked by me. Something that produces pleasure to both, can't be humiliating.

I don't think are humiliating... except when is my 5 years old daugther spanks me in public! :eek:
 
Not when you take 'em like a big girl. Not especially humiliating per se. Grounding, bracing, sure. Some of us hot tub in -20, some of us downhill ski. Find your bliss, eh?
 
Blushing Bottom said:
Now that would be the spanker...what about the spankee?

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I would call spankings erotic. But a public spanking could be humiliating.
 
WriterDom said:
I would call spankings erotic. But a public spanking could be humiliating.

I agree. Spankings are erotic. Though one's response might be humiliating...I guess that depends on the spankee. Public, though? That would indeed be humiliating.
 
have never found spankings to be the least bit humiliating, no matter the reason behind them, who's doing the spanking, the place or the method. if i'm getting a spanking it's because i deserve one. nothing humiliating about that, it's just life.
 
WriterDom said:
I would call spankings erotic. But a public spanking could be humiliating.

I'm an exibitionist, so I LOVE public spankings, floggings, beatings, and what have you. It's a treat and a reward.

Infact, I called my playmate because I had an extreamly bad day today and just needed to submit, so he treated me by surprizing me and bringing a friend over to watch me get a beating.

so it's all relitive
 
Like most everything else, it's all about context. If he wants to make it humiliating, it'll be humiliating. If he wants me to love every second of it, I will. Of course, I love to be humiliated, so maybe that wasn't the best way to put it. :p
 
the captians wench said:
I'm an exibitionist, so I LOVE public spankings, floggings, beatings, and what have you. It's a treat and a reward.

Infact, I called my playmate because I had an extreamly bad day today and just needed to submit, so he treated me by surprizing me and bringing a friend over to watch me get a beating.

so it's all relitive


nice

lol.

i need a beating = (
 
the captians wench said:
I offered to run the trash out at work just so I could sneak off and ring him and plead for a beating. He really is good to me. *giggles*


Sure, sure...rub it in.....LOL
 
Humiliating? It's all in how you approach it. Just the simple OTK spanking isn't really that humiliating, but add some ceremony to it...hands tied behind back and ankles bound together

The spankee stands beside the spanker as he's sitting in his chair. He slowly lowers her clothing from the waist down, all the way to her ankles. One last item is added to the bondage apparel. The ball gag. Then, the spankee is told to drape herself over the spanker's lap, which is difficult to do because of the bondage. But, with considerable struggling to keep balance, the spankee finally drops across the spanker's lap. There, squirming and wiggling on his lap, she can only wait until the ordeal is to begin.

The spanker mentions the alabaster color of the spankee's naked ass, and how she produces a very cute target when she clenches her ass cheeks. She is told the reason for her spanking, and, if the spanker feels generous, maybe even the length of it. But, telling the length gives the spankee a stopping point to look forward to and that spoils some of the fun. The spanker decides leaving the total number of swats unsaid is best, only to say the angry redness of the punished behind will be his satisfaction.


A little bit of added humiliation is to have the spankee count the swats out loud. This is difficult to do, when wearing a ball gag, but not impossible. The problem is understanding the number. But, a warning that it will all start over from the beginning, if the number isn't loud and understood can do a lot with keeping the spankee on her toes, so to speak.

Counting out loud is always fun because the spankee is well aware of the number of swats administered and as the spanking goes on, losing count can be easy. Another threat of starting over, if the count is lost can add to the humiliation factor of the spankee. Even if the spanker has no intention of doing so, the spankee doesn't know that.

After a while, drool is dripping from the ball gag, and the counting of swats only increases that drool. And, each time the number reaches another total of 10, the spankee hopes her punishment is coming to an end. And, each time these numbers are passed, she feels more helpless, more chastised and more humiliated that her position is still OTK of the spanker.

Frequent stops to feel the heat on the spankee's belabored behind, as if testing the temperature for a satisfactory punishment can be fun, because it seen as a possible finish to the spankee, and then the rubbing of her bottom is somewhat sensual and comforting. But, this all is soon squelched when the spanking resumes.

The final bit of humiliation is when the splanking is finally concluded. The spanker removes the gag and asks the spankee if she has anything to say, while he's rubbing her hot behind. Between the tears, the spankee usually says she's sorry, and she won't ever do it again. But, we all know she's not telling the truth. She will do it again, and she will again find her in the same position.

Then she's required to get up off of the spanker's knees. Trussed up as she is, this is usually not possible and she just slowly slides off and onto the floor, making sure she lands on her side or stomach, and not on her poor punished behind. There she is left, naked and bound...her punished behind on fire...to think about her punishment, and the reason for it.

Anyone want a spanking? :p
 
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Perhaps but there again for the spanker...but not this spankee.

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WriterDom said:
I would call spankings erotic. But a public spanking could be humiliating.
 
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