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Old 11-25-2009, 06:35 PM   #6426
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Hes disappeared. Off the face of the planet.

I know hes not dead, I didn't for almost a week. I even buckled under, rang his work and made some bullshit story up to find out if he WAS still alive. I was totally beside myself.

So I dont know where he is. I dont know if hes going to get in touch again. I dont know if thats the end.
If it's any comfort I'm in pretty much the same boat. Communication stopped and I don't know why. It isn't funny whichever end of it you're on.

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Old 11-27-2009, 10:37 AM   #6427
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Yesterday was hard.

Everyone was paired up. Watching my eldest and youngest cousins compete in some sort of cutest couple compition was really the worst part.

I made the best of it. I kicked ass at monopoly *giggles* and mom and I took pics and sent them to Jounar all day. And he text me every few hours to check on me.

Not the worst holiday I've had, but christmas is going to be harder for both of us.
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Old 11-27-2009, 03:47 PM   #6428
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Everyone was paired up. Watching my eldest and youngest cousins compete in some sort of cutest couple compition was really the worst part.
*barf*


glad to know that your sir kept tabs to make sure you were ok though...that's very sweet.

how did everyone else in the US cope yesterday?? everyone ok? (more or less)
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Old 11-27-2009, 04:31 PM   #6429
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Lost in translation

I'm really sad today. My online Master got rid of me after only 14 days. I'm an excellent R/L sub, but I think I suck in cyberspace. I'm guessing that some of the things I said may have gotten lost in translation. I admit that I'm a little sassy slave, but I'm not insolent. It really hurt my feelings that he felt like I was mocking him.

I sent him an apology, but I don't think he'll accept it. I really enjoyed communicating with him and I worked extra hard to carry out my assignments. I even completed my punishments with enthusiasm. I know some of you may be thinking, it's only been 14 days get over it, but this man really knew how to push my buttons. He seemed to get me on the very first day. I want to beg him to take me back, but I think that would piss him off more. He was very angry. Should I contact him again or just wait and accept his decision?

Do any other subs have issues with their sentiments being lost in translation?

For all of you experiencing the holiday blues, I hope you feel better. For those of you wishing to reunite with Masters you haven't seen, I wish you Godspeed.
 

Old 11-27-2009, 04:36 PM   #6430
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Honestly, it's probably more about him than it is about you. Online people tend to be pretty easily distracted. Such relationships rarely last long. Usually when they do there is the serious shared goal of making it a real life relationship.

I've been where you are. It hurts. There are rarely any real answers. You just have to push through.

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Old 11-27-2009, 04:42 PM   #6431
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Honestly, it's probably more about him than it is about you. Online people tend to be pretty easily distracted. Such relationships rarely last long. Usually when they do there is the serious shared goal of making it a real life relationship.

I've been where you are. It hurts. There are rarely any real answers. You just have to push through.

*HUGS*

Thanks for the quick response and hugs to you FurryFury. I still think it was all on me. He was pretty committed to communicating with me throughout the day, but I think just one too many smart ass comments on my part were not appreciated. I know I have to push through, but it still hurts. I guess I should be thankful that he had the decency to let me know he was getting rid of me.
 

Old 11-27-2009, 04:51 PM   #6432
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aww ms aimee..
can't imagine that going from rl to cyber would be easy. and yes, you're right, many things get "lost in transaltion" simply because there is no body language or facial expression to make sure that someone understands you.
if you give it another go, aim for communicating the little facial expressions like the cheeky smile or even a wink. it lets the other party know when you're playing with them. i realise it's probably an obvious point and no doubt that right now you're going "well duh". but in rl that sort of thing is automatically communicated. you kinda have to make the extra effort in cyber.

it could also be that the person just has no sense of humour, and doesn't want "sassy" in his sub. some people are just serious and forget to lighten up every now and then. if so, his loss. i'm sure that you will find someone who loves it. best of luck if you keep looking
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Old 11-27-2009, 11:52 PM   #6433
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*barf*


glad to know that your sir kept tabs to make sure you were ok though...that's very sweet.

how did everyone else in the US cope yesterday?? everyone ok? (more or less)
It was nice having him check in on me and sending pics to him through out the day. It was almost like him being there. As close as it gets for now I guess.

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aww ms aimee..
can't imagine that going from rl to cyber would be easy. and yes, you're right, many things get "lost in transaltion" simply because there is no body language or facial expression to make sure that someone understands you.
if you give it another go, aim for communicating the little facial expressions like the cheeky smile or even a wink. it lets the other party know when you're playing with them. i realise it's probably an obvious point and no doubt that right now you're going "well duh". but in rl that sort of thing is automatically communicated. you kinda have to make the extra effort in cyber.

it could also be that the person just has no sense of humour, and doesn't want "sassy" in his sub. some people are just serious and forget to lighten up every now and then. if so, his loss. i'm sure that you will find someone who loves it. best of luck if you keep looking
*giggles* This reminded me of the first time that Jounar and I IMed with the web cams on. I remember saying "Hey! you match your smilies too!" *giggles* It was neat seeing his big grin at the same time as " " on the screen.

Furry is right though. These type of relationships don't tend to last long unless both parties are thinking along the lines of something more serious. I can't tell you how many people have popped on and off of my IM chat lists. You kind of have to learn to not take it as rejection and think of it more like when your porn video wore out in the good spots, time to find a new fav wank material.

I'm sorry if that sounds cold. I'm not saying it doesn't hurt, it does, I know, but usually it's for the best.
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Old 11-28-2009, 02:44 AM   #6434
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He did acknowledge my apology and said that he appreciated it. Now I just have to wait and see if he's willing to continue the "relationship". I feel a little better now. He says I threw a wrench in the whole thing. I guess I just have to wait. This has been a learning experience.
 

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He did acknowledge my apology and said that he appreciated it. Now I just have to wait and see if he's willing to continue the "relationship". I feel a little better now. He says I threw a wrench in the whole thing. I guess I just have to wait. This has been a learning experience.
Ah yes AimeeLamis,this is an excellent illustration of that rule of relationships that states "In a relationship,the one who is least interested in the relationship,controls the relationship."
 

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Ah yes AimeeLamis,this is an excellent illustration of that rule of relationships that states "In a relationship,the one who is least interested in the relationship,controls the relationship."

Interesting thought there.

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On a lighter note from my end, Master got strep throat the day before Thanksgiving. We talked on IM briefly that day when he informed me of what was going on. It was thoughtful of him to do so.

Thursday morning he even emailed me even though he was so sick and it was the holiday. Master took time to tend to me if only through an email. It made my entire day!

We talked again last night briefly, and we are scheduled to talk tonight. He is definitely making my holiday! LOL

I love the little ways he shows me how he feels.
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Interesting thought there.

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On a lighter note from my end, Master got strep throat the day before Thanksgiving. We talked on IM briefly that day when he informed me of what was going on. It was thoughtful of him to do so.

Thursday morning he even emailed me even though he was so sick and it was the holiday. Master took time to tend to me if only through an email. It made my entire day!

We talked again last night briefly, and we are scheduled to talk tonight. He is definitely making my holiday! LOL

I love the little ways he shows me how he feels.
Thanks for the kind words,Imahavah.I picked this little tidbit of information on relationships up in college.Now I never took the first psychology class in college.But fortunately there was a psych major that used to share these insights of this sort on the walls of the men's room .Sort of a "Urinal U." as we called it back then.

Another interesting principle,applicable to long distance relationships:An online relationship that is not carefully nurtured will last about 90 days.An online relationship that is carefully nurtured with lots of participation by both parties will last about 3 months."
 

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think of it more like when your porn video wore out in the good spots, time to find a new fav wank material.
*busting a gut*...thanks that's the funniest thing i've heard in a while. literally had to wipe tears out my eyes after that.
glad for you that you both made thanksgiving bearable. hope to have that myself one day.


and how is everyone else??

ms fiona...you hanging in there ok hun???
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and how is everyone else??
I'm actually doing really well! I have my tickets to Florida and will be there December 10th through the 14th! I'm very excited about it!

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Thanks for the kind words,Imahavah....Another interesting principle,applicable to long distance relationships:An online relationship that is not carefully nurtured will last about 90 days.An online relationship that is carefully nurtured with lots of participation by both parties will last about 3 months."
Umm isn't 3 months the same as 90 days give or take? Maybe the math is off?
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Umm isn't 3 months the same as 90 days give or take? Maybe the math is off?
i'm pretty sure that was the joke... i could be wrong, i'm not exactly known for my quick wit or humour around here.
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i'm pretty sure that was the joke... i could be wrong, i'm not exactly known for my quick wit or humour around here.
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Another interesting principle,applicable to long distance relationships:An online relationship that is not carefully nurtured will last about 90 days.An online relationship that is carefully nurtured with lots of participation by both parties will last about 3 months."
I know this was sort of a joke..but it annoys me. I don't find it applicable at all. We get enough shit from people who don't think on-line relationships are "real", we don't need to perpertate the myth ourselves.

My LDR/on-line relationship has lasted longer than many marriages that I know of. LOL All of the relationships that I had before I got married lasted no longer than 1 month. They were all in person. It all depends on the relationship itself and the chemistry between the two people. Whether it is on-line, LDR or in person is not important. Each type of relationship has it's own unique challenges.

Sorry if I am a little over sensitive today...
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I know this was sort of a joke..but it annoys me. I don't find it applicable at all. We get enough shit from people who don't think on-line relationships are "real", we don't need to perpertate the myth ourselves.

My LDR/on-line relationship has lasted longer than many marriages that I know of. LOL All of the relationships that I had before I got married lasted no longer than 1 month. They were all in person. It all depends on the relationship itself and the chemistry between the two people. Whether it is on-line, LDR or in person is not important. Each type of relationship has it's own unique challenges.

Sorry if I am a little over sensitive today...
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I know this was sort of a joke..but it annoys me. I don't find it applicable at all. We get enough shit from people who don't think on-line relationships are "real", we don't need to perpertate the myth ourselves.

My LDR/on-line relationship has lasted longer than many marriages that I know of. LOL All of the relationships that I had before I got married lasted no longer than 1 month. They were all in person. It all depends on the relationship itself and the chemistry between the two people. Whether it is on-line, LDR or in person is not important. Each type of relationship has it's own unique challenges.

Sorry if I am a little over sensitive today...
I agree 100%. No relationship is invalid just because it is not 'real life'. LDR's can be far more challenging than RL relationships BUT ... I believe that when beginning in the blindness of the OL experience, we shed many things like immediately judging on looks alone, for example. Also sex is not entered into as quickly as it may if you had met face to face immediately.

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I can't wait, I get to see Sir in just over 2 weeks.
Eagerly crossing each day off the calender! I so wish we lived closer.
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I can't wait, I get to see Sir in just over 2 weeks.
Eagerly crossing each day off the calender! I so wish we lived closer.
CONGRATS ... My visit with my Master is in just UNDER 2 weeks. I have the same wishes as you LOL

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Hope u have alot of fun Franks!!
My Master doesn't do any of those. We are almost entirely phone only once we got together. But they are my finest hours of the day, when I speak to him.

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I know this was sort of a joke..but it annoys me. I don't find it applicable at all. We get enough shit from people who don't think on-line relationships are "real", we don't need to perpertate the myth ourselves.

My LDR/on-line relationship has lasted longer than many marriages that I know of. LOL All of the relationships that I had before I got married lasted no longer than 1 month. They were all in person. It all depends on the relationship itself and the chemistry between the two people. Whether it is on-line, LDR or in person is not important. Each type of relationship has it's own unique challenges.

Sorry if I am a little over sensitive today...

I completely agree with you.
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