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Old 11-16-2006, 04:57 PM   #26
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Is this open to Mistresses as well as Masters? Or is the term Master considered unisex here?

I am venturing back into the world of D/s. Met my husband at Alt.com. Had a D/s relationship for a few years and then life seemed to step in and take over. You know kids, jobs, school.(am going back to be a lawyer here). He still needs to be submissive and has looked elsewhere over the years, while I just concentrated on life. Now he is looking back to Me and things couldn't be better.

In the meantime I have met through Lit a wonderful, devoted submissive man that I may or may not meet in real life. This is all new and wonderful to Me and I do love my husband, but I also care deeply for my pet.

I don't really have a train of thought here. I just am writing as it comes to mind. I am coming to grips with feeling such intense feelings for two different people. Sometimes it feels incrediable(sp).......sometimes it scares the crap out of me.

Anyway, nice to meet you all and thank you for the thread. Its good to know that we are not alone in our journey.

Is your husband aware of the other sub? I ask because you could use the combination well to enhance both relationships, but if it is not open to all involved it could end up blowing up in your face.

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Old 11-16-2006, 05:08 PM   #27
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I think that punishment can be an obsession in some cases, where it pleases either the master or the slave. Some slaves rather enjoy some forms of punishment. Whereas, some masters, whether they'll admit it or not, some enjoy to see their slaves in pain.


Also, I'm so glad I found this ^_^ I'm in a long distance servitude at the moment, as it turns out. And, it's the only way I've known to be a slave so far, having not found anyone around me that would understand the lifestyle of the relationship, that it goes beyond sex.
But.. yay ^_^
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And regarding the punishment, it is often said, the line separating harm and hurt is very little....punishment hurts but if inconsiderate can harm!

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Old 11-16-2006, 05:24 PM   #28
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Old 11-16-2006, 05:27 PM   #29
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Is your husband aware of the other sub? I ask because you could use the combination well to enhance both relationships, but if it is not open to all involved it could end up blowing up in your face.

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I do not know if he is aware of my other sub. He is however aware of something because he has been EXTREMELY attentive for the last couple weeks. Mind you we are friends and get along well, but our physical relations had pretty much come to a stop over the last year. When I initiated, he rebuked me, and it went in circles until I stopped trying. Suddenly, and I know he does not have access to my email accounts because that is something we have kept seperate, he has become extremely attentive and demonstrative. I did make the comment to him a while back that he should start paying attention to what he has in front of him (instead of computer) or someone else would. He didn't seem to hear me.

I think because of my relationship with my sub here......whom I adore....I may be sending off an aura of some kind. I know that after I have spent time with pet.......I walk around in a different space in my head, and somehow that is coming across as confidence or something. He has been coming to me daily for attention and to shower attention on me(did i mention in last post that he is sexually submissive....this is how we met) and he is being very submissive and encouraging my Dominance in the bedroom.

So to answer you...the combination is enhancing my life very much. If I could get more time with my pet......then I would have the best of both.....and I am probably being selfish wanting them both.......but it is something I don't have a lot of control over.

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Old 11-16-2006, 06:02 PM   #30
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I was wondering if anyone else suffered from grouchiness or moodiness if their PYT doesnt have the time or make the effort to pay as much attention to them as they normally do.

I ask because recently when my Master has been to busy with school or whatnot to play, I've found myself getting very moody or fussy until he can properly dominate me again. This might be just a short exchange of words or an hours long session. The longer I go without, the more out of control I seem to get. Does anyone else experience this?

I know I'm not properly wording this but I'm struggling to put into words what I am feeling. Maybe some of you more eloquent ladies and gents can help me out.
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Old 11-16-2006, 06:18 PM   #31
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I was wondering if anyone else suffered from grouchiness or moodiness if their PYT doesnt have the time or make the effort to pay as much attention to them as they normally do.

I ask because recently when my Master has been to busy with school or whatnot to play, I've found myself getting very moody or fussy until he can properly dominate me again. This might be just a short exchange of words or an hours long session. The longer I go without, the more out of control I seem to get. Does anyone else experience this?

I know I'm not properly wording this but I'm struggling to put into words what I am feeling. Maybe some of you more eloquent ladies and gents can help me out.

I know exactly what you mean. I find that when I didn't have a master at all (was between masters) is when I was at the worst though, I'll range from being pretty darn grouchy and snap at some of my closest friends, to depressed and lonely. But, yes, as subs we are dependent on having attention from our master, whether it be praise or punishment, so long as we're getting it. If my master didn't give me attention, sometimes I would be bad just for the attention, I know it wasn't right and that I'm more experienced now so I won't do it anymore, but that was the only way I knew how to deal with it. My best advice is to try and find some way to focus that negative energy into a positive one, it not only helps you become a better sub, but it also makes your relationship with your master a smoother one. Read bdsm stories, play an instrument, videogames, whatever it is that soothes you. And, try and talk to your master about it if you haven't already, because the key to any relationship is honesty and openness. ok, that's my thoughts. *turns off the therapist in her* (Did I mention I'm thinking about becomming a psycologist? hehe)


But, seriously, does that help?

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Old 11-16-2006, 06:55 PM   #32
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Yes it does. We talked in depth about this about a month ago and saw a huge improvement in our relationship, and went to new levels with eachother. I try to keep that conversation in mind. I have a set of sentences I am to repeat to myself if I get to out of line and that helps alot as well.

I hadnt thought about pouring that negative energy into a different source though. I suppose it is times like these that I might pick up my dulcimer and learn how to play it better. Thank you for your kind words and advice, I shall put them to good use.
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Old 11-16-2006, 07:48 PM   #33
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You nailed it on the head. I went through the exact same thing last night. I know my pet is busy and has a stressfull job, yet I got pissy and grouchy last night when I didn't think he was attentive enough. I let my feelings get hurt when I found out he would be away for a few days. I felt hurt that he hadn't brought it up sooner than at the end of the conversation.

Yet, when my real life beckons, I expect him to understand. That is the one thing I would and try to change about myself....my selfishness.

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Old 11-17-2006, 12:08 AM   #34
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It is a wretched feeling, wanting his or her attention so badly. I am being punished tonight for acting out of line earlier. My punishment is him not talking to me until he is ready to again. The worst punishment ever, I truly feel miserable without him.

*sigh* Hope you all are faring better tonight.
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Old 11-17-2006, 09:08 AM   #35
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heh, my first night with my master was actually the other night, and I'm not used to having such a strict master. I'm actually used to explaining the lifestyle to my past masters, and even then they didn't understand it and they felt bad for punishing me. So I went through masters kinda quickly, I wasn't bad or anything, they just didn't understand it, and I felt they weren't strict enough, that I could've deliberately disobeyed them and not been punished. So when I met this master, I forgot to call him sir and he had to remind me three times... I was punished. This was just the other day. I'm so glad I found this master, he knows what to do! ^_^ I haven't had to explain anything about the lifestyle to him, I just wish he lived near me that he and I could meet. I think I'll be with this master for a long time.

Has anyone ever experienced something like that? Having to tell your master what to do? I found it very uncomfortable for myself as a sub.
 

Old 11-17-2006, 09:27 AM   #36
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I was wondering if anyone else suffered from grouchiness or moodiness if their PYT doesnt have the time or make the effort to pay as much attention to them as they normally do.

I ask because recently when my Master has been to busy with school or whatnot to play, I've found myself getting very moody or fussy until he can properly dominate me again. This might be just a short exchange of words or an hours long session. The longer I go without, the more out of control I seem to get. Does anyone else experience this?

I know I'm not properly wording this but I'm struggling to put into words what I am feeling. Maybe some of you more eloquent ladies and gents can help me out.
I totally understand. I get very grumpy when I haven't been able to even chat with Master in a while. And recently there was a period where either he was too sick to play or I was, and I didn't get any play from friends either, and work was really stressing me out, so I was very very testy. The kids at work noticed it and tried to stay out of my way even (never seen a teen boy pick up a rag to clean something anything so quickly *giggles*). Then I went into a sub frenzy where all I could think about was being tied up and having the shit beaten out of me. It wasn't until I finally did get some play time that I calmed now. At that point I was begging for something I usually beg not to have done to me. It's hard, but the release is sooo good.

I also have the problem that I'm a huge attention whore. I've been working on it, but still if i don't hear from Master in a couple of days I go nuts! I've been trying not to text him so often, since it's murder on my bill, but I just like have to talk to him. I think I'm getting better. I only ring twice a week at most, but I leave lots of emails and off line ims. I think he's used to it by now.
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Old 11-17-2006, 01:24 PM   #37
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This is a great thread. I'm new here, and am in a LDR, i'm also married, he doesn't know about me being a sub to another.

and yes I do get grouchy when I don't get enough attention too!!
 

Old 11-17-2006, 02:10 PM   #38
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This is a great thread. I'm new here, and am in a LDR, i'm also married, he doesn't know about me being a sub to another.

and yes I do get grouchy when I don't get enough attention too!!
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*dies* my master just told me I'm not allowed to cum until tomorrow. I was just about to pull up some porn and start masturbating too, I've had the "Itching" between my legs for hours now. *phew* just had to get that out of my system
 

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I'm so happy to find this thread... I'm currently in a LDR with a sub who I adore. I'll be back with questions for suggestions and advice, because I've never done this before!

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*dies* my master just told me I'm not allowed to cum until tomorrow. I was just about to pull up some porn and start masturbating too, I've had the "Itching" between my legs for hours now. *phew* just had to get that out of my system

Just think about how fantastic said orgasm will be with all that anticipation building. I'm on day two of being ignored. I think I'm about to fall apart.
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Just think about how fantastic said orgasm will be with all that anticipation building. I'm on day two of being ignored. I think I'm about to fall apart.

Feel lucky cc. I made mine wait until he could talk to me on the phone and get his cam working before I gave him release to cum. It took a week for us to find the private time together.
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Just think about how fantastic said orgasm will be with all that anticipation building. I'm on day two of being ignored. I think I'm about to fall apart.


*twitch* but I'm used to having like 4 masturbation sessions a day (before I met my master), each time with multiple orgasms. I need my orgasms... *shudder* And he wants me to find some clothes pins >_> This is kinda interesting and funny how quickly he and I clicked, he's only been my master for about 3 days now. But I'll be good.. I won't orgasm, no matter how bad I want to... >_< I should focus that energy into writing a story for literotica ^_^ there, problem solved. Thanks for listening to my ramblings guys! ^_^
 

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Hooray for new faces! I cant imagine the spectrum of emotion for having intense feelings for two different people. Hope to see all of you write more. I feel confident in staying in this thread, because unfortunately after I see Master in January I will have to go back home while he continues school and I continue to work and raise the little one.

I suspect that at that time I will need support more than anything. I cant fathom having to walk away from him and get back on the plane. Hope he brings a cattle prod to get me moving or something equally painful.
I am not going to sugar-coat it, getting on the plane leaving My baby SUCKED. The hardest thing I had to do was to let go of her to go through security...

Even as a Dom, I am not ashamed to admit that I cried My eyes out once I was away from her... I was in the terminal and her and her friend who had accompanied her to the airport were on their way back to My baby's car. I cried several more times that day, she is My soul mate as well as My submissive and slave....

I will not be going back to be with her until January, and every day apart seems like a month.
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I was wondering if anyone else suffered from grouchiness or moodiness if their PYT doesnt have the time or make the effort to pay as much attention to them as they normally do.

I ask because recently when my Master has been to busy with school or whatnot to play, I've found myself getting very moody or fussy until he can properly dominate me again. This might be just a short exchange of words or an hours long session. The longer I go without, the more out of control I seem to get. Does anyone else experience this?

I know I'm not properly wording this but I'm struggling to put into words what I am feeling. Maybe some of you more eloquent ladies and gents can help me out.
Early in My relationship a rift formed between My slave & I because My work schedule went crazy and it was like I was never around... but we settled it, and I got a cell phone eventually.

I do think that you are discussing a common occourance
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*dies* my master just told me I'm not allowed to cum until tomorrow. I was just about to pull up some porn and start masturbating too, I've had the "Itching" between my legs for hours now. *phew* just had to get that out of my system
Mine is not allowed to tho that without permission....
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[quote=MasterPhoenix]I am not going to sugar-coat it, getting on the plane leaving My baby SUCKED. The hardest thing I had to do was to let go of her to go through security...


Thank you for sharing that with us. I am dying inside right now because the one who stills My heart is gone for the weekend. I don't know what I will do when I meet him for the first time and then have to leave him again.
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I am not going to sugar-coat it, getting on the plane leaving My baby SUCKED. The hardest thing I had to do was to let go of her to go through security...


Thank you for sharing that with us. I am dying inside right now because the one who stills My heart is gone for the weekend. I don't know what I will do when I meet him for the first time and then have to leave him again.
I had a very close mutual friend who is a sub as well on standby for My baby to call. I also wrote her a letter a couple of days before and hid it in her glove box when she was not looking.... as we parted at the airport I told her she had something in there.

Also I left her a shirt I had worn so she could still have My scent... and a few other things...
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I am not going to sugar-coat it, getting on the plane leaving My baby SUCKED. The hardest thing I had to do was to let go of her to go through security...


Thank you for sharing that with us. I am dying inside right now because the one who stills My heart is gone for the weekend. I don't know what I will do when I meet him for the first time and then have to leave him again.

*comfort* I'll be thinking of you through the weekend. Master finally took me off ignore today, but I know what he did was in my best interest. I realize that to act out against him hurts not only me but Himself as well. I hope your weekend goes smoothly.
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