Girls who love being called SLUTS

Completely new here so hi...

I have been seeing a girl for about 6 months who is into quite a lot of extreme rough sex. She is absoutely gorgeous (9/10) perfect size 8, huge tits, intelligent and well off. However she LOVES it when i really abuse her and call her a SLUT, WHORE, BITCH etc. not to metion how she likes to be submissive in the bedroom and to feel "used". She's totally into me as I am to her but loves to be dominated in this way.

I find this a massive turn on but I'm interested to understand the psychology behind this. Can anyone help? ....

Enjoy it

Well, enjoy it....she is hot and all yours....
Keep having your way and you will figure it out along the way!

thanks

thanks winemaster have you ever been in this situation?

Sounds like she's turned on by humiliation. Sometimes people who crave a certain degredation, feel that being labeled as "bad" allows them to behave like a "bad" person (slut, whore, etc). If the person in question feels a bit inhibited, or tends to follow the "rules" of polite society, such labels can be somewhat liberating. *shrug*

For a bit of perspective, you might browse the section on Humiliation from the BDSM Library, pinned to the top of the forum.

(I must admit, I am so terribly tempted to point out that such desires have nothing to do with being a size 8... or having huge tits... or being intelligent... or well off... but I betcha' made a lot of guys jealous just now.)

CutieMouse said:

(I must admit, I am so terribly tempted to point out that such desires have nothing to do with being a size 8... or having huge tits... or being intelligent... or well off... but I betcha' made a lot of guys jealous just now.)

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so, totally agree...sheesh...

angel_girl said:

so, totally agree...sheesh...

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BTW, wizard123123, I don't mean anything personal by my parenthetical comment... just in a bit of a smart-ass mood today.

Welcome to Lit.

There is a certain amount of humiliation from name calling like you described that drives me wild in bed. He knows it and uses it to his full advantage. I don't know the psychology behind it. I wouldn't tolerate being called those names outside of sex and I have only gotten off on it like I do now with my Dom. Maybe it's because I trust him so completely, and know how he truly feels about me that I gives me the safety to be His slut. He gives me the permission to play that fantasy and let that side of myself out. All I know is that it's lots of fun and I crave it.

wizard123123 said:

Completely new here so hi...

I have been seeing a girl for about 6 months who is into quite a lot of extreme rough sex. She is absoutely gorgeous (9/10) perfect size 8, huge tits, intelligent and well off. However she LOVES it when i really abuse her and call her a SLUT, WHORE, BITCH etc. not to metion how she likes to be submissive in the bedroom and to feel "used". She's totally into me as I am to her but loves to be dominated in this way.

I find this a massive turn on but I'm interested to understand the psychology behind this. Can anyone help? ....

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I think that a lot of us find those words a turn-on because they're so much easier to spell than the nice words.

sighs Yet another Dyslexic Dom what he really meant was 'loves'....

wizard123123 said:

I have been seeing a girl for about 6 months who is into quite a lot of extreme rough sex. She is absoutely gorgeous (9/10) perfect size 8, huge tits, intelligent and well off. However she LOVES it when i really abuse her and call her a SLUT, WHORE, BITCH etc. not to metion how she likes to be submissive in the bedroom and to feel "used". She's totally into me as I am to her but loves to be dominated in this way.

I find this a massive turn on but I'm interested to understand the psychology behind this. Can anyone help? ....

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Like so many things, "extreme rough sex" is a relative concept. Can you give me a general idea of what you are talking about here?

Pending the answer to that question, I'll throw out the possibility that your girlfriend might be fed up with the drooling, obsequious behavior of male sycophants eager to get in her pants.

There are other possibilities, of course, but it's hard to say much without knowing more about your partner.

@}-}rebecca---- said:

sighs Yet another Dyslexic Dom what he really meant was 'loves'....

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I am dyslexic, and I don't get the joke.

That is, I usually don't mind humor at the expense of my disability, but in this case I simply don't understand it.

Usually the jokes are something like: "So, a dyslexic walks into a bra...."

What am I missing here?

i love, love, LOVE being called a slut. also include, whore, bitch, dirty girl, and all those fun names i dont think i would like it outside of a sexual content, but as far as anything sexual goes, being called a slut is a huge turn-on. when in an endearing way, i even prefer being called a slut then being called my name. i dont find it a bad name when used this way, and i dont know why it is such a wild turn on, but it is.

JMohegan said:

I am dyslexic, and I don't get the joke.

That is, I usually don't mind humor at the expense of my disability, but in this case I simply don't understand it.

Usually the jokes are something like: "So, a dyslexic walks into a bra...."

What am I missing here?

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Goes and stands in the corner for people whom are insensitive and unamusing when they get too obscure .......Population 1 X Rebecca

With anyone I dont not trust like my Dom being called any of those will severly piss me off. And with him I dont appricate it out in public areas with others around. I love it when he calls me things like "his slut" or "his whore", ect. I dont really know why.

Hmmmm

Hi all great thread.

I love it when a girl likes to b called a slut.

i have been lucky enough to meet and few and it really works when you get them bad and nasty.

However not all girls like it and you need to show respect to those that dont.

Why do some girls get hot and wet at the word slut?

well without getting to deep, when everyone grows up they form word associations and refernces to memorys creating a belief.

Everyone has different expierences and are influenced by thier upbring and schooling, parents friends etc.

What this means in short is that someones association to the word SLUT can be completly different to another persons, they are not the same.

An example of this would be a girl who likes sucking cock.

When asked how it makes them feel, one may say "i feel submissive and in your power. like i am pleasing you" another might say " I feel humilated" and another might say " i feel in control and powerful as though i control you"

Same thing different reference.

So as long as it gets them wet and is something they enjoy, i say dont worry about it enjoy and explore it.

There is nothing like a wet sexy and stunning slut (Or what slut means to me)

JJ

You might want to cruise this thread, or even this one. Personally, I still think more get off on being called a slut than actually being one in reality, and in fact would run a mile before sinking their teeth into being a slut for real.

Catalina

Did someone call me?

My guess is it has very little to do with her appearance, and much more to do with upbringing and early sexual experiences.

However, the psychology behind it is relatively unimportant (unless your sex life is damaging her self esteem), so go ahead and enjoy.

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Personally, I still think more get off on being called a slut than actually being one in reality, and in fact would run a mile before sinking their teeth into being a slut for real.

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This is further complicated by the fact that people define "slut" in different ways!

Etoile said:

This is further complicated by the fact that people define "slut" in different ways!

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True, though most define it in some way about being or looking like someone who would fuck almost anything for the sake of fucking....certainly not into looking and ating like a good upstanding church going virgin who believes sex is dirty and unthinkable.

Catalina

catalina_francisco said:

True, though most define it in some way about being or looking like someone who would fuck almost anything for the sake of fucking....certainly not into looking and ating like a good upstanding church going virgin who believes sex is dirty and unthinkable.

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And here we have what I think is the defining issue

Upbringing has a lot to do with it and that also reinforces our attitudes to sex. Too many layers of guilt are thrown over the act of sex that people spend too much time agonising over what is ''right'' and what is ''wrong'' that they forget sex, good sex , is enjoyable.

There is a bit of schizophrenia in how sluts go about it, many have mentioned its only in the bedroom you feel comfortable about being called a slut and outside you would feel angry...so is it roleplay?

In the bedroom the covers and clothes come off and along with that so do many inhibitions , but if your upbringing is repressive then you may need an excuse to ''act''the way you do and words like slut , whore and drrty grrl help the repressed person to enjoy the moment without guilt

My 2c

PerthOzMale said:

In the bedroom the covers and clothes come off and along with that so do many inhibitions , but if your upbringing is repressive then you may need an excuse to ''act''the way you do and words like slut , whore and drrty grrl help the repressed person to enjoy the moment without guilt

My 2c

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Yep, that sums it up for me. Perfectly

Psychology

Well... Hello, I'm not new but I just came back so please forgive me if I seem rude or horrible in this post but I believe that the real psychology has to do with someones focus of mind... Not their upbringing.

Yes, an upbringing of a person will change their... ways as an adult. In other words, changing their focus of mind. During a sexual experience, though a small part, sections of the brain acually become unstable and unable to continue processing though (Not in reality no, but within a certain psychological perameter, yes.) When these sections shut down the others begin to grow in their needs or wants. Mostly the prospect of producing more pherimones and hormones. As well as the heating of the body by the faster beating of the heart and contraction of the muscles.

Each persons thought patterns differ in at least one way, though small may it be, it is a rather significant difference. As for a 'socially accepted' woman that finds it a major turn off to be called a slut, that part of her brain (The part that some women use to different the fast beating heart and heating of the skin from sexual turn on, or fear... Something along those lines) Doesn't recieve much more of a uplift in the way that they process and bypass the need for fear or humiliation and begin to automatically register a sexual experience. I am not saying that women that enjoy being called sluts or anything along those lines are any more stupid or have a worst thinking process then the 'socially accepted' ones are.

In truth, a woman that enjoys being called a slut, enjoys rough sex, or anything along those lines are much less excited by a man stripping then a woman that knows automatically when she is turned on.

Again, I am not saying that it has nothing to do with the past of the woman, because it does. It just has a much less impact then the intelligence or... Creativity of a woman does. Since most people refer to a faster or slower brain function as the creativity of a woman (or man), I will use that.

Again ^^ As the others have said. This is all just for knowledge. With a great woman it is better just to enjoy it and don't try to understand it unless it seems as though it is needed.

I don't know whether I just have the 'kink' gene but I got excited by certain forms of submission and humiliation before puberty.

I did have a religious upbringing and rather a disjointed one. My father was seen as 'the head of the family' and submitted to automatically right up till my 8th year when he left. This left something of a vacuum. My mother would behave modestly and with an air of submission regardless of the fact that there was no husband present to direct it at.

After I left the church I had a long conflict with myself. I saw my submissive side as a throwback to my childhood, something that was 'wrong' with me and needed correcting. Now I embrace it, but it's taken me some years.

I suppose what I'm saying is that I was raised to be submissive, grew up to decide it was oppressive and archaic but nevertheless returned to the kink I'd carried for years and worked through my emotional hang-ups about it. Now I have a guilt free, fully fledged submissive sexuality. I love being called a slut/whore/bitch etc as part of a loving, mutually respectful, D/s relationship.

I aware at this point that I haven't really answered your original post wizard. Ah well, can't win them all.

wizard123123 said:

Completely new here so hi...

I have been seeing a girl for about 6 months who is into quite a lot of extreme rough sex. She is absoutely gorgeous (9/10) perfect size 8, huge tits, intelligent and well off. However she LOVES it when i really abuse her and call her a SLUT, WHORE, BITCH etc. not to metion how she likes to be submissive in the bedroom and to feel "used". She's totally into me as I am to her but loves to be dominated in this way.

I find this a massive turn on but I'm interested to understand the psychology behind this. Can anyone help? ....

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I've been known to find myself getting turned on by being called a slut...and I've often wondered why it is. I think there are two reasons:

1. It's liberating. It means the man isn't expecting you to be something you're not. He knows you love sex and he's happy about it, and it means you can be free to enjoy yourself without feeling he'll disapprove about how "loose" you are or something.

2. More importantly, it shows he's in control. I might be shouted down here, but I really think that, deep down inside, most women react in a more basic and intense way to a man who "knows what he wants" than they do to somebody fawning and sensitive. It's just biology, I think. Even if women don't like a man to be dominant in all aspects of their life, plenty still want it in the bedroom! Dominance is associated with telling it like it is, and calling a girl a "slut" is a surefire assertion of dominance...