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Aww. Thank you! Yeah, same here.

I'd actually been thinking lately of finishing up the follow up story I began for that one. So many stories in progress. I haven't finished a one of them in years.
Really? Oh lord, once I start I have to finish - I just get on a roll. It's starting that my problem...
So you're a sniffer too huh?! I think for me it's an association with childhood memories / kinks - wooo!
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Old 01-20-2013, 06:24 PM   #30427
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Really? Oh lord, once I start I have to finish - I just get on a roll. It's starting that my problem...
So you're a sniffer too huh?! I think for me it's an association with childhood memories / kinks - wooo!
*laughs* My sense of smell is the strongest of my senses. My eyesight is sad, my hearing worse, but smell? Oh yeah. Blessing and curse sometimes. Especially on public transit.
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Old 01-20-2013, 06:26 PM   #30428
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As for finishing stories, I had two in progress when I moved to Canada, but my muse must have gotten lost along the way. I have a partial continuation (sort of) to Eternal Promise, then a long overdue second chapter to More Than Scenery.
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Old 01-20-2013, 06:38 PM   #30429
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*laughs* My sense of smell is the strongest of my senses. My eyesight is sad, my hearing worse, but smell? Oh yeah. Blessing and curse sometimes. Especially on public transit.
Eeew... thank you for that (not) LOL!
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Eeew... thank you for that (not) LOL!
It's just true.
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Old 01-21-2013, 06:06 PM   #30431
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Lexie Cannes reported on a nasty piece of transphobic reporting in a UK newspaper, which caused widespread condemnation. Guardian report
Julie Burchill was the columnist: I had my own views of her before that publication.
Her a fab YouTube repost to that article
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Old 01-21-2013, 08:30 PM   #30432
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I seem to have clicked to the article too late, as it seems to have been pulled. I liked the video response, regardless. Nicely done. I think I'm happy I didn't read the article at this point. So tired of hate.

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Excellent video response, from an obviously very intelligent lady. I too missed the article by Burchill....but don't think it was worth reading.
 

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and I play guitars, congas and harmonicas
LOL ... I had to Google congas: I was thinking "What? wrestling big eels?"
Wish me luck - I have a dentist appt tomorrow. I am a complete coward but I do force myself to go for check ups.... boooo
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Oh Sticky....so many oral one liners come to mind ......but...good luck...I do wish you an uneventful, and great, checkup! I wish I could hold your hand for support.
 

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Ha! I am happy to reveal I have no unwanted cavities, nor needed filling, but was given a light polish so now I'm gleaming again Phewee... and relieved
I wonder if the BDSM people actually like going to the dentist?
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Ha! I am happy to reveal I have no unwanted cavities, nor needed filling, but was given a light polish so now I'm gleaming again Phewee... and relieved
I wonder if the BDSM people actually like going to the dentist?
Or perhaps being one? *eyes her dentist*
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Ha! I am happy to reveal I have no unwanted cavities, nor needed filling, but was given a light polish so now I'm gleaming again Phewee... and relieved
I wonder if the BDSM people actually like going to the dentist?
Good for you !! I'm happy you had a satisfying experience....but (I'm sorry, I can't help myself).....I just know that your cavities are not unwanted, but hotly desired, and would be a pleasure to fill ....and you certainly don't need a polishing to gleam....you shine without needing any help!!
 

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Or perhaps being one? *eyes her dentist*
It was easy to get on her good side: I just complimented her on the decor make-over at the surgery Have you seen that old Dustin Hoffman film where he has he teeth pulled? *shudder*

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Good for you !! I'm happy you had a satisfying experience....but (I'm sorry, I can't help myself).....I just know that your cavities are not unwanted, but hotly desired, and would be a pleasure to fill ....and you certainly don't need a polishing to gleam....you shine without needing any help!!
I know... it was too good a subject to resist...
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Finding it hard to cut people slack as yet another 'fem-bois' thread rears its head http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=847938

How would they like it if they were in a gold-fish bowl the whole time? Bit pissed (US) and pissed off (UK). Whatever. If you can't take the heat etc... Time I did some work anyhow
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Cutting people slack just might be my super power. Then again, I'm an Aquarius. I think it might come with the territory. There's a lot of stuff on this site (both forums and stories) that rub me the wrong way. What keeps my anger in check is the thought that one of the reasons Literotica is here is to give all of us both an outlet and a place to express ourselves and connect with other people.

Which is not to say there aren't hoards of stupid people out there, because holy crap, some times I think browsing should include life preservers to help wade through the BS.
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Sorry - yes, maybe I should have edited that? I was having a grumpy morning and I shouldn't take stuff to heart. You're right of course - everyone has freedom to post ...it's just that...pfft... I'll draw the line here though - on the Vibe.
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Sorry - yes, maybe I should have edited that? I was having a grumpy morning and I shouldn't take stuff to heart. You're right of course - everyone has freedom to post ...it's just that...pfft... I'll draw the line here though - on the Vibe.
Our space, right?
*hugs!* Oh, I didn't mean you should edit anything! You were expressing yourself! And man, do I get the grumpy thing. Yesterday I was just raring to hit someone, anyone, just give me reason, NO REALLY PLEASE, GIVE ME A REASON!

Today I'm fine.

But yeah, the Vibe is all about letting people be comfortable, chill out, and be themselves. Let us never lose that.
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This...
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yup... she pretty much says it all
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Okay....I watched the vlog, and Tiffany knows what she wants, mostly....and I understand her concerns, and fears. Now, I don't want to ask the wrong thing, and piss anybody off.... I'm still learning about you beautiful, unique, ladies, and some of your issues. So at the risk of sounding dumb, I ask this......Do all (or most) pre-op Transgenders want a vagina? Do you ladies like to receive oral sex, or prefer anal? Tiffany mentioned fucking guys, but didn't really want to do that....is that a common practice, or a preference? Not trying to make you seem like sex objects...but don't know how else to ask and be informed.
I once spent a bit of time with a FTM, who was on HRT, and had breast surgery. He was happy with a vagina.....and although absolutely appeared to be male, and enjoyed having traditional M/F sex. I'm both confused, and curious..
If anybody wants to answer here that's fine, if you want to PM that okay to....and if I've overstepped......please be gentle.....I do love you all!
 

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Phewee - that's a whole load of questions TJ and I suspect you already know you'd get a whole spectrum of answers to them: we just don't fit a stereotype.
I've only watched the vlog once but I think she mentioned having to use her penis to fuck and that she didn't feel happy about that. If you watch any more of her vlogs ( which I recommend ) you'll hear that she is attracted to women, so I think that's where the penis fits in. ( I'm sorry - can't be bothered to work around that pun )
Yes, ultimately I would like a vagina and I relate to pretty much everything she has to say: everything from the practicalities of everyday life - what you can and can't wear; to sex. Yes, I've had anal sex and enjoyed it but only because it was an expression of the love we had: you want a man inside you so much that, well, anal will have to do and it's not so bad huh?

Oral sex: that's getting into difficult territory. Of course it is possible to orgasm without an erection but it really depends on your partner, on how he ( in my case ) is dealing with the situation. There is absolutely no way I could sleep with a guy unless he showed an empathy to my status. If I could lie back with my eyes closed and try to see the feelings as clitoral and he was cool with that, then great. If he wants to suck a cock because he wants to see what its like, but would otherwise feel icky because they're normally attached to a man, then he can pretty much fuck right off, because that would mean he was treating me as a fetish.

It's a big ask for a guy to understand what's going on in my head, especially when sexual emotions are running high. More than anything else it's the love that's important. I know is an almost taboo word round here but it's true. I don't fuck - I make love. Old fashioned? Well I'm an old-fashioned girl I guess

You asked a few other things but I just picked the ones I felt I could answer. I can't speak for other TGs but I know you've posted a few questions here so I thought I'd chip in.

Just as a post script response to your last sentence: it's nice that you love us all but you have to see things from our side. We don't want to be a kink, a mtf just simply want to be a woman and as close to 100% as is possible.
You'll hear the word transitioning a lot in TG discussions and it is the perfect description: we are on a journey, in transit. I'd happily put 100 on a bet that Tiff will drop off the radar when she's got through her SRS. She'll be a woman then, so what else will there be for her to report? That's what we're all aiming to do: be normal, be boring, have jobs and pay taxes and maybe just maybe find someone we love so much we can grow old together.
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So true. *hugs* Sounds like my life plan, too.

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Phewee - that's a whole load of questions TJ and I suspect you already know you'd get a whole spectrum of answers to them: we just don't fit a stereotype.
I've only watched the vlog once but I think she mentioned having to use her penis to fuck and that she didn't feel happy about that. If you watch any more of her vlogs ( which I recommend ) you'll hear that she is attracted to women, so I think that's where the penis fits in. ( I'm sorry - can't be bothered to work around that pun )
Yes, ultimately I would like a vagina and I relate to pretty much everything she has to say: everything from the practicalities of everyday life - what you can and can't wear; to sex. Yes, I've had anal sex and enjoyed it but only because it was an expression of the love we had: you want a man inside you so much that, well, anal will have to do and it's not so bad huh?

Oral sex: that's getting into difficult territory. Of course it is possible to orgasm without an erection but it really depends on your partner, on how he ( in my case ) is dealing with the situation. There is absolutely no way I could sleep with a guy unless he showed an empathy to my status. If I could lie back with my eyes closed and try to see the feelings as clitoral and he was cool with that, then great. If he wants to suck a cock because he wants to see what its like, but would otherwise feel icky because they're normally attached to a man, then he can pretty much fuck right off, because that would mean he was treating me as a fetish.

It's a big ask for a guy to understand what's going on in my head, especially when sexual emotions are running high. More than anything else it's the love that's important. I know is an almost taboo word round here but it's true. I don't fuck - I make love. Old fashioned? Well I'm an old-fashioned girl I guess

You asked a few other things but I just picked the ones I felt I could answer. I can't speak for other TGs but I know you've posted a few questions here so I thought I'd chip in.

Just as a post script response to your last sentence: it's nice that you love us all but you have to see things from our side. We don't want to be a kink, a mtf just simply want to be a woman and as close to 100% as is possible.
You'll hear the word transitioning a lot in TG discussions and it is the perfect description: we are on a journey, in transit. I'd happily put 100 on a bet that Tiff will drop off the radar when she's got through her SRS. She'll be a woman then, so what else will there be for her to report? That's what we're all aiming to do: be normal, be boring, have jobs and pay taxes and maybe just maybe find someone we love so much we can grow old together.
Thanks for responding Sticky.
I didn't think about the HRT causing ED.....good point, of course.
I don't consider a mtf as a "chick with a dick"....I see you, as a lady, and all transitioning people, as just....people.....no matter what their genitalia. There are so many complications in life....and you in the TG community have to deal with even more.
I do have my "bucket list", and there are a few "kinks" left....but that also doesn't define who I am....I want to learn/experience all I can....and not just sexually. I feel that I wasted too many years just spinning my wheels.
In many ways I, too, am old fashioned. I have had only a few "one nighters", but mostly I have to feel emotionally attached to someone I want to be intimate with. Probably don't fit the norm of a guy, but it's how I am.
If I don't ask questions, I'll not find answers....and I am a curious guy!!
I also am more a pleasure giver than taker...Being BI, If I suck an occasional dick I do it for the pleasure it provides...and I like pleasing....but also want it to be a connection, not just sex. I can pleasure myself, often better than someone else can....but I can't form an emotional attachment to my hand....lol.
So some of the questions as to what trans people are more likely to want, or need, are for my education, as well as curiosity....hope I said that right.
Yes...you are mostly right in your last sentence as to what most of us are aiming for. However, I find few people on Lit boring, least of all, the GLBT people....lol, I'm tired of paying taxes....and dammit, I'm already old!!
I would happily empty my "bucket" to find someone to emotionally connect with......be it woman, man, or any combination.....till death do us part....and at the rate the sand is flowing through the hour glass....time is getting short!
 

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Well I guess we're both learning things here TJ, because when you mentioned the HTR/ED thing I thought "Huh? What - he's doesn't know that?!" but then why would you? We live in such different worlds that it's easy to misunderstand, so I do see where you're coming from.

From my perspective I am wary of the very thing I actually want ( a man ) and more so than a cis-gendered woman. The media portrayal of transexuals is porn & fetish: shemales and t-girls, so the public's perception is totally skewed into associating TGs with the porn industry, Thai ladyboys and prostitution. The same cannot be said for cis-women. So if a guy hits on me, knowing I'm TG, then of course I'm suspicious and sadly, most of the time, I'm right to be.

The other thing I'd stress is that being a TG is a transit: our status is temporary as we move from our birth gender to where our every fibre tells us we belong. It is no more a choice than someone born with a cleft pallet has a choice. In the West we know a medical procedure can provide a fix and the person can move on with their lives. It is the moral reference in the West that is wrong: transgenderism can be fixed and people can, and do, move on with their lives.

That said, it is important not to exclude people whose feelings of dysphoria ( that's confusion over one's gender ) are not so compelling as to view SRS as the only answer. I met a guy at a meeting recently who is complete hunk: 6'3", big athletic build and in his early 50s. His generation had little knowledge of transsexualism, so he'd long hidden his feelings: he thought he was just a little weird, he was attracted to guys but knew he wasn't gay. He was phlegmatic about his present situation because he finally understood what had been going on in his life, but felt that to transition was a non-starter. "It would be a travesty" - his words. So my heart goes out to people in that situation: people who understand, but have decided to accept what Life has dealt them.

Age and body type do not dictate a person's decision to transition, nor should it. Everyone has to make their own decisions about their life and the rest of us need to support them by showing them the same respect we would to anyone else.

And TJ... I hope you find the person you're looking for
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