Ball spanking

Hi,

This is our (yes our) first post in the BDSM forum, and we're not even sure if we are in the right place... I (M's girl) usually post in the How To forum (and HT Cafe) but I'm not sure if it should be there eighter.. So...

M and I would like to know some things about ball spanking. M is not registered at LIT yet so we ask this question from my account. M will be posting questions also, probably, and his posts will be in RED then.

We think we are not into BDSM, but maybe we are, maybe you can tell us. M likes for his balls to be spanked and I have no problems with that, also not doing it to him. I'm not too much into role-playing but will give it a try. Are there any couples out there who can tell us how they started out with this?

Maybe, for you to get a picture of us and our sex-life (to determine what would be the do's and don'ts for us, in your opinion) we should disclose some more of that. (Plus you will find - if you take time to do a search - that I have told a thing or two in HT and HT Cafe). For starters we are not shy about sex. We talk about it a lot and are still defining what we like in our almost one-year relationship now. We recently started using a strap-on on M, although I really had to get used to the idea. I must say it's not really my thing, and M knows this, but I am OK doing it. It does not get me (extra) aroused though. What I do find exciting and sexy is M's reaction to my actions. Same goes for the ball spanking.

There are certainly lines I do not wish to cross. I could, for instance, never really hurt him, even if he wanted me to (which he doesn't). I also do not feel very comfortable being very dominant unless it's in a playfull way.

Although M sort of knows what he wants we are also looking for suggestions on techniques and so on. Basically, we want to know everything you are willing to share with us on this subject. We might add more questions depending on how this thread goes. Remember I (M's girl) will be posting in black and M will be posting in red...

Thanks in advance....

I believe that what you're talking about qualifies under CBT, or cock and ball torture. If you look it up under that, you'll find a good deal more information on it.

LOL - when I saw your title, I was thinking 'are they spanking people with balls now?' I'm just too tired, that's my story and I'm sticking to it.

Ball spanking with balls..... uh.... [confused]

graceanne said:

I believe that what you're talking about qualifies under CBT, or cock and ball torture. If you look it up under that, you'll find a good deal more information on it.

LOL - when I saw your title, I was thinking 'are they spanking people with balls now?' I'm just too tired, that's my story and I'm sticking to it.

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Oh Lordie... ... is the title really misleading? We are not native English speakers so this might have something to do with it...

Hmmm spanking with balls..... now there's an idea...

Oh and thanks for the lead... we will look into CBT for certain too!

OK, did a search. No results on CBS. Then not even the page saying "no results" when I did a search on Cock and Ball Torture....

Must be doing something wrong. Anyway.... now also links to threads would be very much appreciated.

You will find lots of info in Male Sub thread and Male Genital Torture , as well as many discussions here. Have fun.

Catalina

catalina_francisco said:

You will find lots of info in Male Sub thread and Male Genital Torture , as well as many discussions here. Have fun.

Catalina

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Thank you Catalina!
Or as we say in Dutch: dank je wel!

M's girl said:

Oh Lordie... ... is the title really misleading? We are not native English speakers so this might have something to do with it...

Hmmm spanking with balls..... now there's an idea...

Oh and thanks for the lead... we will look into CBT for certain too!

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No, i'm just a goose.

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M's girl said:

OK, did a search. No results on CBS. Then not even the page saying "no results" when I did a search on Cock and Ball Torture....

Must be doing something wrong. Anyway.... now also links to threads would be very much appreciated.

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The search funtion here is odd, sometimes it craps out on you for no good reason, and sometimes it doesn't like words with fewer than 4 letters. It was probably the "and" that confused it.

snowy ciara said:

The search funtion here is odd, sometimes it craps out on you for no good reason, and sometimes it doesn't like words with fewer than 4 letters. It was probably the "and" that confused it.

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And the search function just doesn't like some people. I can type in the exact words of the title of a thread, and it'll tell me it's not there.

graceanne,

Your misconception over the title make me laugh because all I could think was "spanking while wearing a ballgag??? So you aren't the only goose here

kel

M's girl said:

As we say in Dutch: dank je wel!

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hi there and welcome to the forum... I just knew I wasn;t the only kinky Dutchman around here...

My suggestion is you try playing with cloth pins... I hate them myself, but they are great for exploring the limits of pain and pleasure, applied on nipples and genitals... the old fashioned wooden ones are the best... you can adjust their strength by stretching them a little on a phone book or something...

wolf2002 said:

hi there and welcome to the forum... I just knew I wasn;t the only kinky Dutchman around here...

My suggestion is you try playing with cloth pins... I hate them myself, but they are great for exploring the limits of pain and pleasure, applied on nipples and genitals... the old fashioned wooden ones are the best... you can adjust their strength by stretching them a little on a phone book or something...

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Hi Wolf,

Had identified you as a Dutchman already in HT somewhere... I think clothing pins etcetera is already too much for us. For M it is mainly the spanking that drives him crazy. I do it with my flat hand, fingers together (not spread). There is a slight domination aspect which works enough for him and is modest enough for me. Hope you know what I mean. That's why we said we don't think we're into BDSM per se. I would not be very comfortable if M wanted me to use objects to spank him. Maybe the odd one by way of a joke but not while we're in bed, you know what I mean.

I have no idea how this will develop. Thus far I have enjoyed our 'sessions', but mainly because it gets him so horny it drives me crazy too. Might be a power-thing... I don't know. But not to the extend that I want to dominate him and be called mistress and so on. Nothing wrong with that per se, just not my thing.

Ow... I must sound like a real softie here at BDSM! [hurries back to HT]

M's girl said:

I must sound like a real softie here at BDSM

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In my view BDSM doesn;t necessarily get better when played harder... I think all who are eager to explore are welcome here... even in CBT there's so much to find out without getting rough... you might want to try to tease him with an icecube for instance... with some warmed up massage oil aside to explore both extremities...

amraam840 said:

Ya know, until now I kinda feared my balls being slapped. My Miss has always enjoyed spanking my penis, and rather hard at times. I can't get enough of it. One of these days real soon I'll have her aim a little low and report back how it is.

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Depending on how M is positioned I have hit his penis too at some times, mostly the base. Especially when he's on his back. Did not hear him complain but am not sure if he would want me to hit him higher up there. I am afraid I would hurt him, hmmmmm I should ask...

M will respond later (his replies under my name but in red) and will tell you about his experience with the ball spanking (how should we call it anyway, since everyone seems to be somewhat confused about the title .... it's not ball torture, at least, that's not what it feels like to us...)

Can you tell me (M can probably imagine this for himself) what is so exciting about your wife spanking your penis? Is it the power-thing? Is it the feeling or the pain? Do you experience the sensation as a nice feeling or really as pain?

I have discovered recently that, to my surprise, I like it when M softly spanks my tits. I was totally amazed because I'm quite the softie, the romantic etcetera. But I think I'm open minded enough to let that not stand in the way if the sensations and acts are pleasurable to both of us.

So there you go...... [wonder what's next.... ]

wolf2002 said:

... even in CBT there's so much to find out without getting rough... you might want to try to tease him with an icecube for instance... with some warmed up massage oil aside to explore both extremities...

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Thanks. That sure sounds like a good idea to me! Will report back...

M's girl said:

Hi Wolf,


I have no idea how this will develop. Thus far I have enjoyed our 'sessions', but mainly because it gets him so horny it drives me crazy too. Might be a power-thing... I don't know. But not to the extend that I want to dominate him and be called mistress and so on. Nothing wrong with that per se, just not my thing.

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LOL, one of the things you might discover is no matter how sure you are at this point of what you are and are not prepared to do ever, that the line shifts in a subtle often unnoticed way 9 times out of 10 until you find yourself loving those things you thought were in the no go zone. It happens to most of us which is why you will often see here and elsewhere people saying they try and keep an open mind on most things and have learned to never say 'never'. The beginning steps are usually tentative, but as you are already finding, some things you thought would never be enjoyable for you, really are. Keep exploring and try not to feel confined to labels and stereotypes people and media may want to feed you.

Catalina

catalina_francisco said:

LOL, one of the things you might discover is no matter how sure you are at this point of what you are and are not prepared to do ever, that the line shifts in a subtle often unnoticed way 9 times out of 10 until you find yourself loving those things you thought were in the no go zone. .......Keep exploring and try not to feel confined to labels and stereotypes people and media may want to feed you.

Catalina

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I know.... you are right. And I am keeping an open mind. It's not that I don't have no-go zones at this moment but I also know they can change. Years ago a BF wanted to fuck me anal and there was no way I would let him. End of story. With M it's different; don't know why. Could be because I found anal play/sex is more common now plus my relationship with M is far different from the one with that (former) BF. Plus I guess I'm more willing to explore now.

I hope I understand this correctly. Are you having trouble hitting him in the balls? If so heres my experience. I am not into BDSM but for almost 25 years now I have had gals (currently my wife) kicking me in the balls, standing on my balls (balls between a hard surface like a table and their foot) and stomping on my balls, squeezing them etc. Most of the gals I have had to coach at first but believe me when I say all have eventually enjoyed doing it. Once past the part of worrying about hurting him it will be easier. I have had some very hard kicks to my unprotected balls. I even had a gal stand full weight on my balls once for a very shoert period. I guess you could say my balls have seen much abuse. My wife told me much to my delight, that as soon as I was ready she would kick me with all her might. I am working up to that though. I have always wanted to try it but am a little chicken. Eventually. The balls can take a lot of abuse but start slowly and work up to the harder stuff, I think you will enjoy. M

graceanne said:

I believe that what you're talking about qualifies under CBT, or cock and ball torture. If you look it up under that, you'll find a good deal more information on it.

LOL - when I saw your title, I was thinking 'are they spanking people with balls now?' I'm just too tired, that's my story and I'm sticking to it.

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well, i'm not tired nor that horny and i thought it was the same thing. I imagined someone being spanked or tortured with balls or something....

davidz_g said:

well, i'm not tired nor that horny and i thought it was the same thing. I imagined someone being spanked or tortured with balls or something....

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Hi Davidz_g yeah yeah see my post below this one, also in red, Hmmm spanking with balls sounds fun to me


M

M's girl said:

Hi Davidz_g yeah yeah see mine post below this one in red, Hmmm spanking with ball's sounds fun to me

M

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Like what occured to me was using a french game that has 3 rubber balls on a string. And u have to hold one of the balls and let the other two move around. If i ever find that link again i'll post it here. That gets quite the speed if ur good at it and when it hits someone it hurts quite a bit. But it doesnt leave marks or anything, so i figured it would be good for spanking more gentle areas of the body. u know what i mean?

Dude try this. I did it on a "friend with benefits" of mine and she went crazy. U know those sprays or creams that are used when muscles are hurt. Like you apply the spray or the cream on the body part that hurts and after a bit it starts developing heat? U should try doing that to ur balls before u get the spanking. That should increase the pleasure u get from spanking. I used the spray on her thighs, i put quite a bit of it, then a bullet vibrator in her pussy let on low and i tied her legs up. I left her like that for about an hour. When i came back to her, she was so drenched that her matress had a wet spot that took a whole day to dry off.

davidz_g said:

Dude try this. I did it on a "friend with benefits" of mine and she went crazy. U know those sprays or creams that are used when muscles are hurt. Like you apply the spray or the cream on the body part that hurts and after a bit it starts developing heat? U should try doing that to ur balls before u get the spanking. That should increase the pleasure u get from spanking. I used the spray on her thighs, i put quite a bit of it, then a bullet vibrator in her pussy let on low and i tied her legs up. I left her like that for about an hour. When i came back to her, she was so drenched that her matress had a wet spot that took a whole day to dry off.

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Ha you mean 'Tigerbalsem' (That's how it's called here in Holland, translates as: liniment) ouch yeah that will do