What do you do when you're depressed to pull yourself up?

FurryFury

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So right now I'm feeling useless.

I can't write the way I usually do on the sexual or other role play threads.

I feel like I'm letting people down.

I feel I've been let down by someone I really cherished. I don't know why. If I did something wrong, got boring or he is just busy. *sighs*

I also feel like there is a certain person I can never make happy for long, which makes me not even want to try.

I want to write about blood and suicidal urges but that would probably be considered icky and wrong, wouldn't it?

So I'm trying to pull myself up.

Dennis only knocked out a few windows and power for a few hours, so that's good.

I have a wonderful life really.

Did two great gigs today.

Still I'm very draggy and blue.

Any ideas?

Thanks for listening if you got this far.

Fury :rose:
 
These moments pass but they are hell when you are in them...and no amount of people telling you to pull yourself out of them is usually going to help. Hang in there, do some things which you like, pamper yourself, give yourself a pat on the shoulder if no-one else does. You might also find some interesting thoughts in this thread.
Mental Health Issues Also there is a great thread on depression in the How To Cafe.

Catalina :rose:
 
catalina_francisco said:
These moments pass but they are hell when you are in them...and no amount of people telling you to pull yourself out of them is usually going to help. Hang in there, do some things which you like, pamper yourself, give yourself a pat on the shoulder if no-one else does. You might also find some interesting thoughts in this thread.
Mental Health Issues Also there is a great thread on depression in the How To Cafe.

Catalina :rose:

Thanks Catalina!

I love roses. I'm reading this thread now that you sent.

Usually by now, three days I think, time is kind of fluid seeming right now, I have pulled myself back. I just can't stand now knowing sometimes why things happen.

*goes to read*

Fury :rose:
 
After reading that thread, I'm wondering if the reason someone has been out of touch with me is his own depression or mental problems. Maybe he just needs time and will someday come back to me. I hope so.

I love making people happy. Some I know you just can't but I still have a problem with that.

Now to find the "How To" forum's thread.

Fury
 
FurryFury said:
After reading that thread, I'm wondering if the reason someone has been out of touch with me is his own depression or mental problems. Maybe he just needs time and will someday come back to me. I hope so.

I love making people happy. Some I know you just can't but I still have a problem with that.

Now to find the "How To" forum's thread.

Fury

From memory I found it in their Cafe forum.....it is full of people feeling the same as you and worse and for me anyway, it does not depress me further so much as make ke feel at least I am not alone in this. :rose:

Catalina :rose:
 
I am so fucking depressed right now it is ridiculous.

Life and opportunity is passing me by at a million miles a second.

Losers are pointing and laughing at me, kicking dirt in my face.

There is nothing that can be done. I am hoping the next hurricane will kill me.
 
catalina_francisco said:
From memory I found it in their Cafe forum.....it is full of people feeling the same as you and worse and for me anyway, it does not depress me further so much as make ke feel at least I am not alone in this. :rose:

Catalina :rose:

Thanks again Catalina!

This is the first time I've ever lost my perspective over a guy online.

I've had depressions before when they lost theirs, but I always knew where the lines were before. It made me feel bad to disappoint them. This was however, in spite of the honesty I always gave them up front.

I've never wanted to actually cross my own lines before. Much less been left in cyber space alone and not know why. Had to happen I guess. I would never do that to someone though.

*Going to the How To Cafe.*

Thanks again Catalina!

Fury
:rose:
 
Marquis said:
I am so fucking depressed right now it is ridiculous.

Life and opportunity is passing me by at a million miles a second.

Losers are pointing and laughing at me, kicking dirt in my face.

There is nothing that can be done. I am hoping the next hurricane will kill me.

Not exactly helping no, but hey I know how you feel.

*hugs*

Fury :rose:
 
Oh and I guess it goes without saying, but what the heck I'll say it anyway, don't I always? *dry chuckle* My sex drive is dead, dried up, nada, nothing.

You know it's bad when your husband is like, "Hey are you interested in sex?"

(As if I could ever bring myself to say no, even when it was a no.)

You say, "Um sure but I have no energy."

(Meaning come on Sugah and let me just lie here, maybe some energy will come, poor guy.)

Oh so verrrry sexy that is. *grumps*

This is all very unlike me. I'm usually cheerful to the point of being either irritating or inspirational, depending on your personal view, and the very definition of wet and horny.

I like me better that way too. I want that me back right now.

*grr*

Fury
 
Marquis said:
I am so fucking depressed right now it is ridiculous.

Life and opportunity is passing me by at a million miles a second.

Losers are pointing and laughing at me, kicking dirt in my face.

There is nothing that can be done. I am hoping the next hurricane will kill me.

That's what you get for not stopping by on Sunday. You weren't there to let me flirt outrageously with you at the meeting.

Personally I could use the dirt - it's great for building sandcastles.

But that isn't helping FurryFury either, *looks at FF* unless you like to build sandcastles?

Stuff I do for myself (and my mom can't understand why Ican do these things alone)

Go to a favorite restaurant (no cooking and no clean up after! and People will get you more to drink!)

Go to a movie - cuz sometimes I don't want to wait for a new release to hit the rental store and I like seeing them on the big screen even better.

Get a new book to read.

Hug my pets and get them new toys (the cat loves fur covered mice, and the dog likes anything with a squeaker in it) and watch them enjoying themselves with the new toy.

Remember to take my medication. (Because it does make a difference)...
 
Private_Label said:
That's what you get for not stopping by on Sunday. You weren't there to let me flirt outrageously with you at the meeting.

Personally I could use the dirt - it's great for building sandcastles.

But that isn't helping FurryFury either, *looks at FF* unless you like to build sandcastles?

Stuff I do for myself (and my mom can't understand why Ican do these things alone)

Go to a favorite restaurant (no cooking and no clean up after! and People will get you more to drink!)

Go to a movie - cuz sometimes I don't want to wait for a new release to hit the rental store and I like seeing them on the big screen even better.

Get a new book to read.

Hug my pets and get them new toys (the cat loves fur covered mice, and the dog likes anything with a squeaker in it) and watch them enjoying themselves with the new toy.

Remember to take my medication. (Because it does make a difference)...


Thanks Private Label!

I will try some of those things. I hate to spend money on me but I was thinking about eating out today.

My kitties love fur covered mice too.

I want to see Bewitched. Maybe I'll do that after my gig tomorrow. I could come home, get the kids and hit it. Sounds like a plan.

Fury :rose:
 
Oh and I do make sandcastle's but rarely.
I usually make other things like sandcats or sandwomen.

*chuckles*

Yes I do.

Now my husband is the best sandcastle maker in the world!

Fury :rose:
 
canadiancutie said:
Sidewalk dance parties. No one can be sad while participating in a sidewalk dance party.


Looks for the "boom box" and a sidewalk.

Thanks for the idea.

I'm great at making parties happen.

Fury :rose:
 
FurryFury said:
Looks for the "boom box" and a sidewalk.

Thanks for the idea.

I'm great at making parties happen.

Fury :rose:


Dude no!! Sidewalk dance parties can't be planned!!! You have to wait for someone in a car to have their music up really loud, or for a store to have a speaker outside or something, and then you just start dancing and make random people dance with you. It makes everything in life awesome.
 
canadiancutie said:
Dude no!! Sidewalk dance parties can't be planned!!! You have to wait for someone in a car to have their music up really loud, or for a store to have a speaker outside or something, and then you just start dancing and make random people dance with you. It makes everything in life awesome.


Now THAT does sound fun!

Fury :rose:
 
Ok, this is probably going to be unpopular advice, but when I'm depressed their are two things that help.

1)Getting some sleep.

2)Meditating on God (or your higher power).

Doesn't mean it'll help you, I just know that's what works for me.
 
graceanne said:
Ok, this is probably going to be unpopular advice, but when I'm depressed their are two things that help.

1)Getting some sleep.

2)Meditating on God (or your higher power).

Doesn't mean it'll help you, I just know that's what works for me.

Thanks beautiful Graceanne!

I'm glad you have something that works for you.

I've gotten more sleep than I usually do, yet while driving today it was hard to stay awake, not sure what that is about. It's kinda scary. I've left off of my sinus meds until I don't have to drive hoping that helps. Which reminds me, I need to go hit that shit cause losing my voice on a four gig week ain't a good idea.

This probably won't be popular either but I'm not sure about any higher powers giving a damn either. No offense but in my life none seem to. That's why I end up relying on myself. Meditating however, that I can do.

Thanks for sharing what works for you.

Fury :rose:
 
I've often wondered if my sense of despair could be uplifted by a belief in a higher power.

I can honestly say I felt much better when I believed in that nonsense.
 
FurryFury said:
Thanks beautiful Graceanne!

I'm glad you have something that works for you.

I've gotten more sleep than I usually do, yet while driving today it was hard to stay awake, not sure what that is about. It's kinda scary. I've left off of my sinus meds until I don't have to drive hoping that helps. Which reminds me, I need to go hit that shit cause losing my voice on a four gig week ain't a good idea.

This probably won't be popular either but I'm not sure about any higher powers giving a damn either. No offense but in my life none seem to. That's why I end up relying on myself. Meditating however, that I can do.

Thanks for sharing what works for you.

Fury :rose:


Sleeping more or less than you normally do are signs of clinical depression. You might need to go see your doctor.

Also, if you're taking a lot of meds for your allergies that could be part of the problem. I take claritin, but that doesn't work as well as sudafed and benedryl. Then I told my doctor and he gave me cortisone shot. That, plus the claritin works wonderfully.
 
I go and make something. Seriously. That's what gets me in touch with my higher power, church of arts and crafts.
 
graceanne said:
Sleeping more or less than you normally do are signs of clinical depression. You might need to go see your doctor.

Also, if you're taking a lot of meds for your allergies that could be part of the problem. I take claritin, but that doesn't work as well as sudafed and benedryl. Then I told my doctor and he gave me cortisone shot. That, plus the claritin works wonderfully.

Considering I rarely sleep, sleeping at all is probably a sign. LOL.

It was two years after we were living together before my husband says ever saw me sleep.

As for doctors? I don't have one I trust. Had a lot of bad experiences with them. My Mom's been to most of them. They passed her around like a fraternity sweet heart on gang bang night. She is still messed up. Soooo...local docs here, not looking good.

Now my ENT guy? He's okay. He LOVES to give me shots in the ass though. WTF ever happened to shots in the arm???

*grr*

Fury
 
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Netzach said:
I go and make something. Seriously. That's what gets me in touch with my higher power, church of arts and crafts.

Thanks Netzach!

What usually happens when I make something is I focus on the flaws that usually only I notice.

Still I'll think on it.

I need to paint the kitchen cabinets.

Redo the floor.

Order some stained glass.

Hmmm.

Fury :rose:
 
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