Shadowsdream
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When you Dominate do you consider what you are doing as role play? Topping...role play?
Submitting or bottoming...role play?
Submitting or bottoming...role play?
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I suppose, techinically, it is role play - it is our role, and we are playing (we use that term instead of scening) ... but by our definition of role-play, no. It is who we are, and what we are. Role-play, for us, would be medical, cop, teacher/student, etc. For some people, D/s is role-play, because it is not who they are all the time ... but for us, it's who we are day in and day out, to some extent or another - it's never "off" entirely, and role-play does get turned off and on.
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SweetDommes said:
~~smile~~ welcome to this conversation. I hope it will be a good one. The term role play always tweaks My ram rod spine when it is applied to Me but then again I may just be being anal about terminology!
I DO enjoy the teacher role to My students though...hmm I suspect it is more complex than one may imagine!
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I am in my most vulnerable and opened state when submitting, i would hate if the person who i was opening the true me to was roleplaying. I think that if i ever was roleplaying it would be more in my day to day life where i have to cover her with layers of protection from the world.Shadowsdream said:
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Kajira Callista said:
Yes!
When submitting, I am opening myself up. It is not a role-play but a dropping of barriers. Submission is a dimension of my personality that I close off in normal life. Submission is not viable in the larger world. By submitting I am becoming vulnerable because I am allowing someone access to the real me.
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I dont consider it role playing either. SweetDommes pretty much summed up my feelings about it 
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Kajira Callista said:
You have been peering into my thoughts again KC.
I really dislike the term 'role play' unless its applied to cop/prisioner, doctor/patient role playing.
I have always said this is not something I want to play at.
When I submit nothing is hidden, its emotionally and mentally stripping in a way that has no comparision.
Its one of the reasons i started a thread about 'emotional security' its too easy to give so much to a person who does not appreciate or understand what is being given.
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I feel a bit like some of the others on the thread.. submitting is allowing the core of me to be seen and interacted with. I suppose it could be said that I am roleplaying in daily life by being seen as the dominating, controlling woman I'm sometimes told that I am. 
But I tend to think they're both parts of me.. as KC mentioned, I have to protect the vulnerable, submissive me from people in most situations, and revealing it is an act of trust.
But I tend to think they're both parts of me.. as KC mentioned, I have to protect the vulnerable, submissive me from people in most situations, and revealing it is an act of trust.
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I would agree that it is not a role play. This is far less role play than most areas of our lives.
However, i would add, that at times when its tough, when things are not flowing smoothly, then you have a role that you have agreed to take, perhaps at these times, when i act as if i were submissive, because i am not feeling that way - then i can act the role until it begins to flow again.
However, i would add, that at times when its tough, when things are not flowing smoothly, then you have a role that you have agreed to take, perhaps at these times, when i act as if i were submissive, because i am not feeling that way - then i can act the role until it begins to flow again.
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Kajira Callista said:
Ah...there you have it! And said so much better than I could ever have....
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Kajira Callista said:
~~smile~~ I also feel that My Domination would be invalid if it was a role I was playing in My day to day world. Somehow robbing both Myself and My subs/slaves of the reality they were looking for when I accepted their applications.
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I just LOVE that word...vulnerable!onceburned said:
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~~smile~~ SweetDommes did a wonderful summery!~Blacklace~ said:I dont consider it role playing either. SweetDommes pretty much summed up my feelings about it
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Trust Me Aeroil...Teacher student in the BDSM context would most likely have you delighted to do your lessons unless of course you enjoy the cane?Aeroil said:hehehe, but for those of us who are actually students I guess the allure is kinda removed.
Being reminded that you still have a few hundred math questions to do for review doesn't do it for me
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Bravo shy slave!shy slave said:
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sunfox said:I feel a bit like some of the others on the thread.. submitting is allowing the core of me to be seen and interacted with. I suppose it could be said that I am roleplaying in daily life by being seen as the dominating, controlling woman I'm sometimes told that I am.
But I tend to think they're both parts of me.. as KC mentioned, I have to protect the vulnerable, submissive me from people in most situations, and revealing it is an act of trust.
Sometimes it takes a great actor to appear to be other than they are...yet within D/s or BDSM being a great actor lessens the magic and creates nothing.
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I wonder if it might be true to a certain degree to see that when submission is not flowing as you might like it to be you change gears and submit against your will for the right reasons rather than play a role?pandoravampire said:
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Ha ha ha...imagine that twist!Aeroil said:Delighted to do my lessons? haha, if it's powerful enough to make me enjoy doing logarithm problems then you have my interest
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you are a cute little one! One day to be quite the handful of wiggling joy I would suspect!Aeroil said:
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Shadowsdream said:
quite the opposite for me - definitely not role play
it is the one constant time when i am always allowed/expected to be ME -
and it is a freedom for which i am most grateful
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Sorry, no. No offense to those that do, but money would have to land in my hands for me to step into a role. When i trust a partner, and that partner wants that kind of interaction, they see the real deal.Shadowsdream said:
i don't don a role.
If you're lucky, the Don rolls over you.
