Chastity play

I had before seen chastity devises and read (a very little) about chastity play and wondered what could possibly be appealing about being told I (or my sub) couldn't have sex. I was never sure if this was something i would want to toy wth...then I gave birth. 6 weeks vaginal rest...and snce I've got stitches from one hole to the next across my pirenium (3rd degree laceration...just on degree from slicing strait into my rectum...) healing warrants no anal sex as well. It's been 2 weeks so far of mind altreing hell. I see sex in everything..watching Harry Potter my brain finds sex...grocery shopping? you got it...sex in every isle! As difficult as it's been I've found new sensuality. The feeling of hot water on my skin in the shower, the smells of cofee and my mate when I finally crawl out of bed. I've even started writing a small collection of erotic stories (I'll probably submit them when they're done).
Learning this I think I'll be looking more into chastity devises and putting them into scene. Anyone have any input on chastity play, good resources for devises..inexpenive chastity toys ect.? It'd be appreciated.

Wow...no replies.
I think I need a hug now.

well sorry sphynx, I don't have anything to contribute, I was going to extend my sympathies to you earlier, but I forgot so I'll do so now.
Hope you recover quicky!

My recovery has been really well...then again I didn't do like many women I've seen and sit and bitch and moan about the discomfort I was in (not my style) I've been up and about since the day he was born. We go walking everyday, visit with friends and family. Of course I've tried to have as excellent hygien in that region as possible since I gave birth...don't need any nasty infections in all my stitches and all....thsoe are doing well too...I looked with a mirror the other day, almost no scar, just a little tiny line where the cut was. Though I didn't try to play superwoman..they offered a stool softener...I said YES. they gave me like 100 of them when I left so I could take them until my stitches heal....
sorry if it's a bit of a TMI bit here...I'm very open if you give me an excuse to be...

Hiya, Tealsphynx. 'Just offering my sympathies here. When my last was born, I was so torn to shreds that it took them almost two hours to stitch me back together again. Eek! That was longer than my labor! Hang in there.

Sue

Thanks, healing wise I'm doing great..but my poor libido is screaming for attention!

tealsphynx said:

Thanks, healing wise I'm doing great..but my poor libido is screaming for attention!

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That's a good sign of health. I can imagine how you feel though....My husband was gone for two nights this week and I went crazy!

Just an average guy

And I see sex everywhere all the time too. I'm glad I'm not the only one.

Seeing sex everywhere is alot of fun, especially when others don't see what I'm seeing. I have a friend who is very conservative in her views of sex (masturbation is wrong, porn is bad, yadayada) I giggle around her all day and when she asks what's so funny I make something up while thinking "It's sexual you wouldn't like it" which of course makes me giggle more

I don't know if I've gone a week without cumming since the first time.

I'd love to try and be chaste for a while to see the differences, but I just don't have it in me.

tealsphynx said:

Seeing sex everywhere is alot of fun, especially when others don't see what I'm seeing. I have a friend who is very conservative in her views of sex (masturbation is wrong, porn is bad, yadayada) I giggle around her all day and when she asks what's so funny I make something up while thinking "It's sexual you wouldn't like it" which of course makes me giggle more

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Congratulations on the birth and sorry to hear it was not the easiest of times.....a new baby is worth it though

Hers the hug you needed earlier {{{{ }}}}, I was asleep when you posted, damn time differences!


Theres nothing like being denied for whatever reason to make everything seem sexual.

I love denial but usually on my terms lol.

It heightens verything around you and can make focusing on day-to-day life interesting as you try to stop your mind heading off into 101 ways of sexual perversions.

That said it several years since health issues stopped me which must be frustrating for you, on the other hand you must be tired with a new baby so get some sleep Girl !!!!!

Sleep what's that...I know little naps but that's it...though it is all worth it..he's so cute and snuzzley, for now anyway,we haveen't hit demanding or tantrummy yet.

Congrats on the new arrival!....I few notes from the male perspective on chastity

First and foremost, congratualations on your child. I'm glad both of you are doing well!


As far as chastity devices, I've only a little to offer, from a male perspective. I've found such things, in combination with teasing and denial, very much intensified my masochistic tendencies and focus on service - the desired intent. While initially the submissive / bottom may perceive denial, at least for me what happened was transference, i.e. a refocus of eroticism from primal release to expression through masochism and service. Furthermore, the device in and of itself wrought pain at times of arousal, which for a masochist meant more arousal, twas an evil, yet delightful unforgiving circle. Again, the latter was the desired intent. Lastly, logistics, health, and hygiene often necessitate brakes from such things. Internal infections are not fun, nor is an enraged prostate.

Best to you and yours!

sg

What kind of device was used on you?
I've considered putting a device on my sub...but I REALLY don't feel like spending $200 to do it right yet.
Does anyone have any ideas on homemade ones?

I used to have similar fantasies, but decided it was probably one of those things best left to my imagination.

You might check Altair for info on devices.

http://www.tpe.com/~altarboy

Club Fem device, maybe?

tealsphynx said:

What kind of device was used on you?
I've considered putting a device on my sub...but I REALLY don't feel like spending $200 to do it right yet.
Does anyone have any ideas on homemade ones?

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The only devices, of which I'm familiar, that ensure absolutely no cheating are chastity belts, which far exceed the $200 mark. Personally, I wore a CB2K for a period, which I believe retails around $129 currently. However, there is a product from "Club Fem," see the link below, that I can attest will sharply inhibit any desire for wanking, especially if your submissive has piercings. It retails for about $40. That said, I cannot speak to how well it works for long-term wear.

Best, sw

*smacks self*...forgot the link...

http://www.clubfem.com/mcd1.htm