Why Do People Like Pain?
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This one is hard to answer. It's a combination of psychological and physical things, usually, but what those things are vary from person to person.
Here's one way it works:
Physical:
Have you ever been spanked on your ass by a hot sexy man? Maybe a sensual spanking where, after hitting you for awhile, he rubbed your ass, and then hit you some more? If you have been spanked and found you were wet between the legs afterwards that's usually a sign that you like pain, even if the spanking is pretty mild. Spankings do it most often to people because they cause your erotic parts, inside and out, to bump and wiggle against each other and the spanker's leg, and that gets you turned on and then you associate being turned on with hard slapping, and you find your want harder stuff, more "intense sensations," and well, the rest is history. You are a pain slut.
Mental:
At the same time as the physical reactions are going on in a spanking you're usually thinking something. For a lot of people who crave spankings (or other pain) even before we've had any, the things we think about include not just the fact that our partner is sexy but that it's very hot to be in this embarassing exposed position over his knee or with our bare bottoms and pussies exposed to his view, held powerless while he treats us in this humiliating fashion, like a little child. Or if the spanker is good, he may be talking to us, telling us how much he enjoys our embarassment, enjoys hurting us, enjoys seeing us wiggle and squirm and inadvertently spread our legs even when we don't mean to, enjoys hearing us cry and scream and see our back ends turn scarlett, how all of that makes him want to hurt us more and then fuck us hard. All of that stuff is a huge turn on for submissive people, people who get off on letting someone else take charge of them and "force" them to do things against their will. Unless you are a pure masochist, which few people are, this sort of mental stuff turns you on as much as the actual physical spanking or whipping.
Here's one way it works:
Physical:
Have you ever been spanked on your ass by a hot sexy man? Maybe a sensual spanking where, after hitting you for awhile, he rubbed your ass, and then hit you some more? If you have been spanked and found you were wet between the legs afterwards that's usually a sign that you like pain, even if the spanking is pretty mild. Spankings do it most often to people because they cause your erotic parts, inside and out, to bump and wiggle against each other and the spanker's leg, and that gets you turned on and then you associate being turned on with hard slapping, and you find your want harder stuff, more "intense sensations," and well, the rest is history. You are a pain slut.
Mental:
At the same time as the physical reactions are going on in a spanking you're usually thinking something. For a lot of people who crave spankings (or other pain) even before we've had any, the things we think about include not just the fact that our partner is sexy but that it's very hot to be in this embarassing exposed position over his knee or with our bare bottoms and pussies exposed to his view, held powerless while he treats us in this humiliating fashion, like a little child. Or if the spanker is good, he may be talking to us, telling us how much he enjoys our embarassment, enjoys hurting us, enjoys seeing us wiggle and squirm and inadvertently spread our legs even when we don't mean to, enjoys hearing us cry and scream and see our back ends turn scarlett, how all of that makes him want to hurt us more and then fuck us hard. All of that stuff is a huge turn on for submissive people, people who get off on letting someone else take charge of them and "force" them to do things against their will.
Unless you are a pure masochist, which few people are, this sort of mental stuff turns you on as much as the actual physical spanking or whipping.
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In my , rather new , experience in D/s field I must say I'm not into pain " ars gratia artis " but rather as a tool to give in totally control of myself to the other I'm playing with .
But I'm really too new to express an ultimate statement about my real feelings about it , going on in my journey things could change . Never say never !!
But I'm really too new to express an ultimate statement about my real feelings about it , going on in my journey things could change . Never say never !!
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Aeroil said:Lol, if anything I'm the loopy one because I'm one of the few subs on here that doesn't like pain
How would you know what you like in the heat of the moment? Last I checked you haven't met your domme yet, have you? Frankly, in normal situations I don't like pain either, but I love it during sex.
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Aeroil said:Lol, if anything I'm the loopy one because I'm one of the few subs on here that doesn't like pain
I can honestly say that I used to feel that way, but I've gradually started shifting how I process pain. I've come to realize that I now associate it with feeling cherished. (speaking in terms of consentual pain- not assult)
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Aeroil said:
Oh I still wince, honey... but I also smile.
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Always right? how about that time you completely messed up that quote about me hmm? I said nothing of the sort in that quotegraceanne said:Well, of course you do. How can you not? I'm always right.
.Oh, sorry Gracie. You're always right.
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Brinnie said:
LIKE pain? Hmmm...I, myself, don't have a particular pension for pain in and of itself. The rush of endorphins that happens a little into a play session is a whole other ballgame though lol
Luckily, Master usually warms me up - unless he's just feeling particular sadistic at the time. So, during the warm up, the endorphins have time to kick in before he starts playing harder.
Besides, you get the prettiest marks afterwards
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TaintedB said:
For me, it's a great stress reliever. I get to put everything aside that I do for everyone else and put myself in Master's hands. I lay across his lap - or across the bed, if he wants to flog me, too - and just let go of everything but the sensations he creates.
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Aeroil said:Always right? how about that time you completely messed up that quote about me hmm? I said nothing of the sort in that quote
1. PROVE I MESSED IT UP
and
2. I didn't mess it up. I did it completely on purpose.
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see?
LunarKitten
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Aeroil said:Lol, if anything I'm the loopy one because I'm one of the few subs on here that doesn't like pain
Being submissive doesn't require a pain tolerance, though. There are so many different forms of submission out there to give someone. I know one lady who is very service oriented. Her submission to her Domme is mainly being a driver and mechanic when called upon. Theirs is not a sexual relationship, they aren't 24/7, but do live in the same city. They do occassionally "play" at parties with the local groups, but mainly she gets her high from knowing that she's being helpful and making her "Ma'am" look good.
