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Old 03-07-2017, 10:14 AM   #1
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sexuality when one's age advances

There's no denying, when one ages, one's sexuality is bound to suffer. Unless one is blessed with an overly optimistic nature, which is the way I feel right now. So I better get these self-reflecting thoughts down "on paper", before I change my mind again.

For one thing, I see the current phase of my sexuality revert back to what it was when I was very young, i.e. when I could only dream and fantasize, and had no way to experience what was developing within myself. Actually I am in better shape now, because every now and then my wife remembers that she is a woman.

But most of the time I do nothing but dream, and fantasize, and masturbate occasionally. Compared to my younger days, I have another advantage: my memory. I can re-live countless experiences now, which had not occurred yet when I began masturbating. My imagination in those days was really limited. And that had nothing to with the fact that I lived behind the so-called "Iron Curtain" then.

When I look optimistically at my present situation, I see that sex has moved largely from my genitals to my brain. This was not as much of a change as you may think, since even much earlier, much of my sex took place in my brain already. Even if not so close to 100% as that's the case now. If I look at the joy I had felt, when a whore in Berlin gave me a parting kiss, after a night of hard work on my part, (I had mentioned that experience in one of my earlier posts), I realize that joys like that could only have come out of my brain, not my (overworked) genitals.

So now my brain gets the bulk of what I feel, WHEN I feel something. An optimist might say: good for him, unless he gets Alzheimer's. But even Alzheimer's may not be so bad, where it to hit me. You heard about all the new friends, I am sure, that a person with that deficiency makes every day.

There's really only one hardship I suffer as I get older: fewer and fewer female takers show up with time, to collect from my brain what I am still able to give. Because fantasy, when one can share it with another human being, is one of the best things ever. Well, maybe I'll get lucky and even that may change for the better with time; now that I discovered Literotica.
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Old 03-07-2017, 11:17 AM   #2
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There's no denying, when one ages, one's sexuality is bound to suffer. Unless one is blessed with an overly optimistic nature, which is the way I feel right now. So I better get these self-reflecting thoughts down "on paper", before I change my mind again.

For one thing, I see the current phase of my sexuality revert back to what it was when I was very young, i.e. when I could only dream and fantasize, and had no way to experience what was developing within myself. Actually I am in better shape now, because every now and then my wife remembers that she is a woman.

But most of the time I do nothing but dream, and fantasize, and masturbate occasionally. Compared to my younger days, I have another advantage: my memory. I can re-live countless experiences now, which had not occurred yet when I began masturbating. My imagination in those days was really limited. And that had nothing to with the fact that I lived behind the so-called "Iron Curtain" then.

When I look optimistically at my present situation, I see that sex has moved largely from my genitals to my brain. This was not as much of a change as you may think, since even much earlier, much of my sex took place in my brain already. Even if not so close to 100% as that's the case now. If I look at the joy I had felt, when a whore in Berlin gave me a parting kiss, after a night of hard work on my part, (I had mentioned that experience in one of my earlier posts), I realize that joys like that could only have come out of my brain, not my (overworked) genitals.

So now my brain gets the bulk of what I feel, WHEN I feel something. An optimist might say: good for him, unless he gets Alzheimer's. But even Alzheimer's may not be so bad, where it to hit me. You heard about all the new friends, I am sure, that a person with that deficiency makes every day.

There's really only one hardship I suffer as I get older: fewer and fewer female takers show up with time, to collect from my brain what I am still able to give. Because fantasy, when one can share it with another human being, is one of the best things ever. Well, maybe I'll get lucky and even that may change for the better with time; now that I discovered Literotica.
For heaven's sake, don't sit there and talk yourself out of feelings you should have up until the day you die. Feeling sorry in a black funk will get you absolutely nowhere.

A man or woman, at any age is supremely sexy with an aura of confidence. That confidence is the best natural pheromone a human can wear. If you feel you have done all you can do for yourself on a daily basis, be proud. Look people in the eye, then smile. That's the second best attractant, it makes you approachable.

Isn't that what we want? To be approachable and bring humans that we desire into our sphere; to check out their interest, and us in them. Be congenial.

And while we're on the subject; (and I'm on a roll) how many people have you given a compliment to, today. A smile, a wink, a lift of your chin, a hello, an appreciation for something they are doing, wearing, singing. The more you give, the more will come back to you. Make someone's eyes light up, it will make you feel terrific.
Those of you with partners, no matter how distant and cold, have forgotten how wealthy and rich in the heart that person can make you. A challenge for you to restore that trembling feeling of that first meeting. Remember how exciting it was?

All the testosterone in this place is leaking out through the cracks in the floor. If you're going to sit on your backside and tell people how bad it is for you, that's exactly the way it will be.
If you can't motivate the other person in your life, motivate yourself. Make yourself a person, other people want to be with.

To the OP. I am not singling you out. I was just seizing an opportunity!
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Old 03-07-2017, 11:46 AM   #3
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For heaven's sake, don't sit there and talk yourself out of feelings you should have up until the day you die. Feeling sorry in a black funk will get you absolutely nowhere.

A man or woman, at any age is supremely sexy with an aura of confidence. That confidence is the best natural pheromone a human can wear. If you feel you have done all you can do for yourself on a daily basis, be proud. Look people in the eye, then smile. That's the second best attractant, it makes you approachable.

Isn't that what we want? To be approachable and bring humans that we desire into our sphere; to check out their interest, and us in them. Be congenial.

And while we're on the subject; (and I'm on a roll) how many people have you given a compliment to, today. A smile, a wink, a lift of your chin, a hello, an appreciation for something they are doing, wearing, singing. The more you give, the more will come back to you. Make someone's eyes light up, it will make you feel terrific.
Those of you with partners, no matter how distant and cold, have forgotten how wealthy and rich in the heart that person can make you. A challenge for you to restore that trembling feeling of that first meeting. Remember how exciting it was?

All the testosterone in this place is leaking out through the cracks in the floor. If you're going to sit on your backside and tell people how bad it is for you, that's exactly the way it will be.
If you can't motivate the other person in your life, motivate yourself. Make yourself a person, other people want to be with.

To the OP. I am not singling you out. I was just seizing an opportunity!
Hi Old Widow, first many thanks for your reply! I apreciate it wholeheartedly.

I had already taken your advice earlier today, before you gave it to me. A saleslady told me that she enjoyed my remark to her about her friendly smile.

I do not really feel bad; on the contrary, I wrote my note when I was in a good mood. If you have the time, tell me pls, why it came across to you as pessimistic. Here in public or in a PM, whichever you prefer.
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Old 03-07-2017, 11:59 AM   #4
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I feel (my own personal opinion) that as a whole, this site is depressing. Most everyone wants to feel like they are attractive enough to pique the interest of those they desire.

The line where you said maybe you would get lucky and find someone to share a fantasy with. Don't hope, make it happen proactively. Wistful, perhaps bordering on depressing? Join in. Put yourself out there. Just pull the barbed arrows out and throw them over your shoulder. You'll get a few. We all do. Just zig zag when you run the gauntlet.
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Old 03-08-2017, 12:14 PM   #5
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I feel (my own personal opinion) that as a whole, this site is depressing. Most everyone wants to feel like they are attractive enough to pique the interest of those they desire.

The line where you said maybe you would get lucky and find someone to share a fantasy with. Don't hope, make it happen proactively. Wistful, perhaps bordering on depressing? Join in. Put yourself out there. Just pull the barbed arrows out and throw them over your shoulder. You'll get a few. We all do. Just zig zag when you run the gauntlet.
Great attitude...agreed go out and be positive, live. My problem and am not that old but feel as we get older we appreciate passion and open mindedness more. I think the thing is finding balance in life not hurting anyone and having fun.
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Old 03-08-2017, 02:30 PM   #6
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This thread now wider than sexual desire

As we get older we find that we become less interesting.
We get to a point where old people become invisible.
You have to really fight that.
I am a flirt, always was always will be.
I talk to any woman I meet who is over the age of 25.
I got lots of response, even if it is to make them laugh.
We all need to make the efforto be in contact with other people.

And from making women laugh, well who knows where that might lead.
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Old 03-08-2017, 05:41 PM   #7
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Thank you James, and thank you Stormy! I appreciated your comments also.

I try living according to your suggestions already. And fortunately it does bring some enjoyment and fun and satisfaction. But what I am looking for is something else. Were you able to understand that also?
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Old 03-08-2017, 05:50 PM   #8
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I believe we understand what you were alluding to. I have no solution, other than trial and error.
LOL, it's a well known saying that a princess has to kiss a pond full of frogs to find a prince.
Perhaps a prince has to kiss a herd of cats to find a princess.
How about it, mature people, any suggestions?
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Old 03-08-2017, 08:20 PM   #9
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I didn't find the original post depressing at all. I just noted that he was musing and reflecting and maybe a teeny bit wistful. But good comments and advice all around. I have always particularly enjoyed the company of older people since I was a young child. I have had rollicking good times with octogenarian women (just good clean fun, I mean) and been sexually attracted to "men of a certain age" -- actually no age limits.

Don't necessarily assume that your age is a limiting factor to anyone else.
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Old 03-08-2017, 09:59 PM   #10
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I don't know how old you are, I am about to turn 54.

I have been married for nearly 31 years and enjoy my life. I encounter younger women whom I now chat with very confidently which certainly wasn't the case when I was young.

There are lots of people in the world, go look for them and you may be surprised.
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Old 03-09-2017, 08:46 AM   #11
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thanks for all the encouraging comments.

I just don't understand why many of you believe I need help. As I said at the beginning of my post: I feel optimistic.
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